Posted on 02/13/2005 8:46:21 AM PST by Scenic Sounds
Your story of the Buddhist parents is interesting. But to understand fully, we need to know what you mean when you write about "very strict but not authoritarian" parenting. How would you differentiate between "very strict" and "authoritarian"?
Their daughter is not a child any more. In their words:
"My daughter is an adult, and she is responsible for her own actions."
And if anyone is to regret anything with good reason, it should be Maya.
Well, I guess that settles that!! ;-)
I am sure that causes you a great deal of pain, but I think you are doing the right hing, keep an open loving home ready for the daughter but do not allow yourselfs to support her lifestyle..
And yeah, I was fairly easy on my parents, or at least that's what they say *now*. ;-)
I have to question your definition of "good kid" with a child expressing such an opinion.
Unfortunately, most people do not distinguish between "good," and "nice." They are far from the same thing.
Furthermore, these anecdotes of orthodox bad children and unorthodox good children seem to proliferate amongst those that can't make the previously mentioned distinction. I tend to think such people are more sensitized to see that which confirms a bias than that which contradicts it.
Personally, I see no substantive moral difference between an belligerent baptist kid, and a calm, relativistic, buddhist kid. They are both willful, but one is less irritating to the parents... hardly a standard I'd call sublime.
Well, you didn't even have to say that - I assumed as much!!
I think I was more of a challenge. ROFL. ;-)
On what basis, and how practiced?
Excellent post.
Well, JMO, but it seems you turned out all right! :-)
Well, thank you so much for saying that. You've been a good influence on me. ;-)
On an old thread that was yanked, I was attempting to discuss the concept of "love" with an anti-Keyes FReeper. I came to the conclusion that our definitions of the word did not match, which was kind of surprising.
Good for Alan Keyes. This spoiled brat is attempting to blackmail him, much like the son of Terry Randall. As long as she rebels, let her face the consequences of tough love.
I'm missing something. Which overtly hostile acts are you referring to? I haven't seen anything that I'd call overtly hostile, but then again, I might have easily missed something.
My children know that they'll always find love on my doorstep. I might not always agree with them, I might not approve, but I'll always love them.
This is why I favor the Day School for Jews including an extended trip to Israel.
It is every parent's joy to see their children embrace the truth and cleave to it. It is a tremendous disappointment to see them apostasize.
1 FReeper down, 53,279 to go!! ;-)
Right off the bat I can see that you equate conservative with strict, and I do not. We're not even remotely on the same page on this one. I never mentioned conservative and liberal households.
So you would say Ted Kaczynki's brother David should have loved Ted, unconditionally?
I can see the deep feeling of betrayal Dr. Keyes might experience to cut off communication. After all, do you have any doubt the daughter was practising deception by omission? I'm sure in the Keyes household opinions are not valued just because you happen to like them, but because you can argue their merits. If daughter is holding opinions reprehensible to her father's, and refuses to engage father to give him the opportunity to refute those opinions, what is left?
He either cuts her off, or tacitly agrees to accept her proclivities.
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