Posted on 11/05/2004 2:28:13 PM PST by iheartusa
THE unwritten, generational rules on "How to Become a Strong Black Woman" are clear: 1. Get an education. 2. Work harder than everyone else. 3. Sacrifice for your children. 4. Never depend on a man--God bless the child who has her own. So why is it that in 2001, many highly educated, highly employable Black women have tossed their careers to the wind, opting to stay home and wholeheartedly depend on their men to support them? Some women say they're making the ultimate sacrifice by relinquishing their financial independence. But these stay-at-home moms say there is much more to life than earning the mighty dollar. Staying at home allows them to personally teach their children to read, to write, to cook, to clean, to learn moral values and to have a strong sense of family--and no measly career could ever take the place of that.
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Stay at home ping!
Semper Fi
So, in a same sex marriage who gets to stay home? And what do they do there exactly?
Hooray for the REAL women who know their man, then their kids, are the priorities, after God.
So many girls, so few women...
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Agreed. Women with small kids belong at home, period. When they're raised then have a career if you want. If my mother had of stayed home with me and my brothers, I'm convinced they wouldn't be the nut jobs they are now.
I'm gay, you should ask me? Dude, I don't know and I don't care. And, ewww!
PS to self: When you get back from the golf course, naturally.
Chuckle.
Note to self: Thank hard-working hubby who works two jobs so I can be a stay-at-home homeschooling wife. After he gets back from taking the kids to the movies so I can have a break, naturally.
BTW, to borrow a phrase from those who rightfully recognize our veterans: Thank you for your service to our Nation. Women who homeschool are in a class all their own!
Bump for later
So a mother that stays at home to raise her children is making a sacrifice?
For Stay-At-Home Moms from Chesterton (1910):
"But when people begin to talk about this domestic duty as not merely difficult but trivial and dreary, I simply give up the question. For I cannot with the utmost energy of imagination conceive what they mean.
When domesticity, for instance, is called drudgery, all the difficulty arises from a double meaning in the word. If drudgery only means dreadfully hard work, I admit the woman drudges in the home, as a man might drudge at the Cathedral of Amiens or drudge behind a gun at Trafalgar. But if it means that the hard work is more heavy because it is trifling, colorless and of small import to the soul, then as I say, I give it up; I do not know what the words mean.
To be Queen Elizabeth within a definite area, deciding sales, banquets, labors and holidays; to be Whiteley within a certain area, providing toys, boots, sheets cakes. and books, to be Aristotle within a certain area, teaching morals, manners, theology, and hygiene; I can understand how this might exhaust the mind, but I cannot imagine how it could narrow it.
How can it be a large career to tell other people's children about the Rule of Three, and a small career to tell one's own children about the universe? How can it be broad to be the same thing to everyone, and narrow to be everything to someone?
No; a woman's function is laborious, but because it is gigantic, not because it is minute I will pity Mrs. Jones for the hugeness of her task; I will never pity her for its smallness."
Stay-at-home mom for 22 years - homeschooling mom for 12 years - it's been such a privilege.
Good for them!!!
Stay at home! When my kids were little, I was home for the first two, but had to take a job with the third one (for complicated reasons) and it was hellish. There are some women who enjoy working, but if you're not doing a job you like and are doing it just to make money, it's miserable and the stress affects both you and your kids.
Maybe you can't have that wide screen TV this year (wait a year and it will be 1/3 the price), but what you get in return is much better. On the other hand, if something happens in your family and you have to work, everybody, including the kids, understands and pitches in.
Stay home, raise your kids - in fact, homeschool or at least partially homeschool your kids - and enjoy them and enjoy doing things that you could never do otherwise. When they're older, you'll have plenty of time to go back to work.
Guys like to work and do things outside. And good guys like to make money for their families and won't let their wife and kids struggle, unless some completely unexepected event occurs. And then the wife and kids will support them, in turn. That's how it works.
Homeschooling-stay-at-home-mom's bump.
a child's birthright is to have a parent at home.
A home disintegrates into just a house people live in when both parents work. People who are stressed out, energy maxed out, children cheated, parents cheated, society cheated -
Gone are the neighborhoods with children playing, moms chatting over the fence - so to speak - kids 'warehoused' in day care
Parents are waking up to the false premise that is taught at Jr High level That men should not expect be responsible for the bills - that the wife should be responsible for half the monetary costs of a house. BUNK. Just liberal bilge that's been pedaled for decades now -
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