Posted on 10/15/2004 7:54:16 AM PDT by esryle
(10/14/04 - MISSOURI CITY, TX) — A family's ordeal -- their little boy sexually assaulted by a six-year-old at school. The incident happened inside the boys' bathroom. Letters were sent home to parents, but some say the school is not doing enough to protect its students.
Since the alleged attacker is younger than 10 years old, he cannot be charged criminally in the state of Texas. Fort Bend Independent school district has punished him some, but the victim's parents say that's not enough because he still attends the same school.
"He took the innocence away from my child," said the victim's mother, who did not want to be identified. "I mean, that's something I can never get back -- ever." The woman says her son was victimized inside a bathroom at Palmer Elementary school on September 14. Her son told her he was in a stall when another boy stripped his own clothes off, crawled inside and forced himself on him.
"Put him against the wall and rubbed himself on my son's bottom," she explained. "And then he reached around and grabbed the front of my son -- his private area -- and then he took his other hand and reached around and inserted his finger."
The victim told a teacher, but the boy's mother says she wasn't told about it for nearly three hours, when she arrived at the school to pick the boy up. She says a teacher told her that a boy had "messed with" her son, and that's it.
What's more, the mother says the school failed to take the boy to the school nurse, let alone a doctor. She says the district has minimized the seriousness of this incident.
The Fort Bend ISD says it handled the incident carefully and took it very seriously. But a spokesperson says their hands were tied because the victim didn't tell them all the details he told his mother.
Fort Bend ISD Spokesperson Mary Ann Simpson said, "It did not indicate he had been physically injured or was in any pain or anything like that. Had that been the case – had he described in detail what he later described had occurred to him – he would have immediately been sent to the school nurse."
School officials say they did try to contact the boy's mother, leaving a message at her home.
They have punished the alleged attacker, but legally can't say how. All the victim's mother knows is that child is still at the same school as her son – a place that every day her son now fears.
The victim's parents have hired an attorney and are considering some legal action.
The six-year-old boy accused of assault remains at the school. However, the Fort Bend County ISD student code of conduct states, "Students must be placed in a disciplinary alternative education program if the student commits an assault on school property." A school spokesperson tells us the six-year-old was not removed because of his age.
Sounds to me like the mother is overreacting. Her son probably wouldn't be very upset about it if she just gave him a hug and told him the naughty boy would be punished and wouldn't do it again. Instead she's having hysterics, and is mad the school didn't haul him off to a doctor so she probably hauled him off to a doctor herself. Most if not all of the psychological damage the victim will sustain will be the result of his mother's reaction, not of the incident itself. And while there's not one iota of evidence that the victim in this case needs any medical attention, the perpetrator most certainly needs thorough medical and psychiatric examinations.
A SIX YEAR OLD is the perpetrator of a sexual attack?
This is absolutely sickening.
You are exactly right. Little kids do play doctor. Heck, we played it when I was 5 but it was a curiousity thing about our differences and there wasn't any contact.
The boy who did the assaulting learned this behaviour from someone and that needs to be investigated. He needs to be rescued from the situation he's in.
When my son was 4 he had a stepbrother who was 9. We were living in Dallas and invited the stepbrother to come visit us one weekend. On a Saturday morning we all went to the park to have a picnic. While I was spreading out the blanket and getting things ready, the boys were about 30 feet away under a tree. I noticed the 9 year old's arm going up and down near my son's legs so I went over to see what was going on. My son was into Star Wars at the time and had taken his Darth Vader carrier to the park. There were plastic straps inside the carrier that held the action figures in. The 9 year old had taken one of these plastic strips out and was hitting my son on the legs with it. It left large bruised welts on my son's legs.
During that time I was in a custody battle with my ex. After I told the court appointed phsychologist what I had witnessed she ordered us all to undergo testing. Turns out the 9 year old's mother had an IQ of 80 and she had a history of being physically abused. She in turn abused both her son and my son when he was visiting there.
Based on that information my ex lost the custody battle and an investigation was started into the 9 year old's mom custody of her son. I don't know whatever became of the investigation because my ex kicked her out of the house shortly after we went to court.
I had seen some other signs that something wasn't quite right because of the way my son would react to me when he would realize he had done something 'wrong'. It took a couple of years for my son to quit cowering when he thought I was mad at him.
My point in my post is the 9 year old learned from his mother who had learned from the way she had been treated. Same thing is happening to the child who sexually abused the other child.
"I'll show you mine if you show me yours" is not what is being described in this story.
Children who have been sexualized at an early age through either being molested or observing over sexual acts in person or on TV or movies do this sort of this thing.
Very likely the aggressor child is ruined for life, and the victim will need a tremendous amount of help to not be ruined as well.
As a custody lawyer, I've had a lot of experience over the years in custody cases involving sexual abuse. My first reaction is always, don't over react. The overreaction can cause more damage than the event.
Sorry, this isn't normal behavior. A 6 year old doesn't know these things without being taught them. I think your experence might have made you too desensitized to this story. And the system you work in is very flawed in many communities. Local news consumers all over the country can attest to that.
Were the victim mine, I would find out the perp's name and address - by whatever means necessary - and pay the parents a visit. With my husband and brother and father and best friend, and whatever other large men I could wrangle up. The child would leave my school the very next day.
What is wrong is that Mom's boyfriend, brother, father or heaven forbid, this kid's natural father has sexually abused him and he is not perpetrating what he learned on his peers. This is a really good reason to home school or send your kid to private school. The intersection between kids with good backgrounds and kids with dysfunctional backgrounds in public schools often ends badly.
Maybe that's why so many well to do soccer moms don't like the idea of school vouchers-- something I generally support. Maybe they fear that messed up kids will be in school with their kids. This story is an eye opener.
How ridiculous the little 6 yr old has been abused and needs protection and guidance..
Good questions, though we probably won't ever know the answers. This is terrible ... just terrible.
Courtesy of your local neighborhood pedophiles-the early-release-on-good-behavior-has-been-completely-rehabilitated version.
Agreed-100%.
Simply teach your kids (boys and girls) that when someone tries something like this on you,fight as hard as you can,scream your lungs out & do whatever it takes to get away from that person-and I mean,WHATEVER it takes.
Then,you don't have to be concerned about the principal or the teacher turning the other way when something like this happens-your kid takes care of him or her self,they maintain their pride and innocence,and learn to never be a victim of anyone.Kids'environments nowadays are nothing like the good old days-they have to be watched like hawks and taught that you don't let anyone hold you down or hurt you. Kids really gotta be tough now.If not,they get hurt-physically & emotionally.
Someone needs to find out what is going on with the boy before he becomes a life-long molester.
23 posted on 10/15/2004 8:24:25 AM PDT by SilentServiceCPOWife
Or a democrat nominee for President.
I can't believe that Social Services and every county official has not removed the offending child from his environment.
Possibly, but is is all SECRET. Why this information should be secret is beyond me. Now more than ever we should know what our neighbors are doing.
Kids are learning this in school. Not necessarily at home.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/1283980/posts?page=37
Yup, it's the fingering that differentiates it from child's play.
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