Posted on 06/04/2004 12:43:30 PM PDT by cyborg
Dear American Feminists,
I am a thirty year old woman living in the United States and have been studying what is known as 'the women's movement'. I've read some of your books especially those written by Gloria Steinem and other famous women's rights advocates. Reading these books I hoped to gain some insight into the movement that my fellow conservatives railed against. I sought to find out why Rush Limbaugh takes such obvious delight in calling all of you feminazis.
I disagreed with the goals of the feminists such as abortion rights, putting career ahead of family and so on. I thought it would be easy for me to go on with my life and allow you to go promoting feminist causes. After all, this is America and I don't spend my time telling other people how to behave and what to think. However, I did not realize the impact that the feminist movement had in the lives of men and women in this country till I started dating (if it can be called such).
I hope you are happy with yourselves. You've made it possible for more girls to enter spinsterhood than ever before all the while going psychotic and starving ourselves to death into an early grave besides. The biblical verse (I know you hate christianity but please excuse me) that states 'what does it profit a man if he gains the world and loses his soul' comes to mind. What does it matter if I'm rich with a great career, my own car, a healthy 'sex life' and nice clothes if I'm alone when I'm eighty rocking myself to sleep in a dirty nursing home all alone with no grandchildren? Perhaps you don't care that many men cringe at the idea of getting married because you don't care for the institution of getting married yourselves. Perhaps not having children doesn't bother you because you're too busy advocating the murder of children in the womb.
You talk about us women embracing our 'real bodies' and 'our fat womyn' BUT what do you feminists fill your magazines with? It's not 'real womyn' that is for sure. You peddle independent womanhood in the form of acting like a slut, dressing like a slut and having women portrayed as black widows. You champion little girls wearing g-strings and playing rainbow braclet gamwes while condemning girls who save themselves for marriage, or girls who are celibate and dress modestly as 'old fashioned' and 'out of touch'.
My thirtieth birthday came and went, and so far I've learned that many men don't respect women. A married man will go over land sea and tell all kinds of lies to get sex from a girl. I've also learned that trying to attract the attentions of man already burned once by a 'independent woman' is a fruitless effort and these men don't go through half the trouble single men or married men do to use a girl sexually. They do no think we women are worth it. I wonder how many girls will learn about your lies the hard way? How many girls will have a mother like mine to listen to the whining and frustration then only to say, 'see? You need to church and get right with God.' not mothers who are interested in being their best buddies and further encourage promiscuity.
Many young men don't even want to get married but instead wait for those women willing to have casual sex with them. You taught these girls that having unattached sex is the mark of a proud, independent woman like Sex in the City for instance. You trash Jessica Simpson for being a brainless idiot but we BOTH know why you really trash her and don't trash Britney Spears. Frustrated fathers raise sons and tell them never to get married. What are girls like me supposed to do? Or is my choice to want to be a wife and mother not as vaunted as having abortions or group sex on MTV? Bring up marriage and children to a single man these days, and a girl will find herself all alone on a Saturday night. So what's a girl to do? Don't bother answering feminists. American culture has had enough of your answers. Your well intentioned moral boondoggles have hurt women more than you will ever realize. Let's hope you don't spread your false gospel elsewhere.
Thank you for your time.
There's not much sadder than women who believed they could have it all, tried to have last-minute children and learned it was biologically too late. There's also the tendency for women to hold out for a Prince Charming who never seems to arrive bearing glass slipper. Many ladies here on FR have related how they realized that in themselves and found their true happiness with flawed but devoted real-life men. They've also said that most women's magazines are merely tools of the "running dogs of feminism", designed to crank up insecurity, justify impossible expectations and sell products.
Thirty just means you're beginning to achieve your potential. Our pop culture puts way too much stock in youthfulness. Packaging means nothing if the contents are poisonous, spoiled, bland or tasteless.
It's a favorite of mine and I am very glad that you liked it too. :)
I guess if by comportment, you mean changing the outward demeanor of the person, then you're right.
Though, I think that something like that could also be taken too far, misleading the object of your affections, which isn't a great way to start off a relationship.
Oh... and did I mention modest? ;)
Tell me more...
I also have pictures of Robert Mugabe with his head chopped off and the whole Havamal reprinted in english. BTW, I never said that either. If I ever said something like that, it'd apply to my future husband who would die a very happy man in his old age :)
You know- this door holding thing drives me crazy. I ALWAYS hold the door open for ladies of any age, and I have taught (or am teaching) all 4 of my sons to do the same. Guys give this reason "they don't even acknowledge the courtesy" or whatever- If you are doing it only for the credit or the acknowledgement, you are doing it for the wrong reason.
GUYS OPEN DOORS FOR LADIES BECAUSE IT IS POLITE!
Why give up, Stumpy? Seriously, all that means is you've been whipped by the radical feminazis. If nothing else, do it because it pisses them off! One day you'll meet some woman who says "Thank you" and means it. Maybe she'll be unmarried, or maybe someones grandmother, but at least she will appreciate your actions.
Maybe it's because I grew up in the midwest, but I've always appreciated it when a man opened doors, and since I became aware of the feminazis, I always say "thanks!". I'm one of the lucky women here--I waited until 35 to wed for the 1st, last & only time, and God saw fit to bring me not only to Himself, but to my soulmate. Maybe you would find youself among a more like-minded set of men & women if you joined a solid church/temple/mosque (whatever your nominal religion is). God did not intend for Man to be alone, and prefers Man to be with Woman in a married relationship (see Genesis for clarification). So if you want to have some mental fun, just remind yourself that the radical feminazis are nothing more than the agents of Satan...
Why is it that the bygone era always has a way of coming back ? Because you can't kill the truth.
"Frank" is speaking on the Bob Grant Show, decrying unequal treatment of the sexes, bashing woman, trying to prevent internal hemorrhaging of the brain, spleen and kidneys.
I'm taking my mother's advice and taking VERY good care of myself, which includes not taking on any stress hehehe. If a woman is going to have babies when she gets older she needs to be healthy. I'm sick to death of women's magazines and don't miss them at all. I read Woman's Day and Family Circle *lol* Youth is wasted on the young.
I absolutely do it for the right reasons. I only open doors for Ladies. Ladies are courteous - ergo, they have doors opened for them. The rest can exercise their equal rights. ;-)
Cyborg, as much as it is still OK for me to hold a door for a lady, it's still OK for you to say, "None of your business," to busybodies, even here on FR.
You don't owe anyone here an explanation. That said, I am sure there are not many who don't admire someone who has determined not to compromise their right-founded principles. For that, you certainly are to be commended.
I do agree with not being misleading or dishonest. I also don't believe in "changing" yourself for someone else. But I found changing the outward demeanor very helpful.
Example - New guy calls and asks me out. This is great so I am happy to agree to meet on the date he suggests. Then he gets very sharp and asks me how long it would take me to come and meet him there.
I was quiet.(It's not as though I live on Mars)
After a pause he said, or I could meet you halfway or better than halfway.
I smiled and said "Nice recovery!"
These kind of tips are helpful in starting to get to know someone. But I will always be an open person.
I do the hold doors thing too still. I sometimes get the thank-you, but like you that doesn't matter much to me. It's just politeness.
Around here, when a woman walks into a building following another group of people who hold the door for her, and I am going in the same door only a few steps behind her, she will 9 times out of 10 slip in without holding the door. I've even had a few look back, see me, and then slip in. Pretty pathetic.
Oh and my brother has experienced opening the right side door to a restaurant for his wife and having someone inside the restaurant come barging through. That usually gets him pretty steamed.
I understand stumpy because I witnessed the 'door holding' outrage once. The guy was really upset, and hopefully telling him I'd tell him thank you undid the damage. It's not good for a person to be alone as you said (as God said LOL).
LOL how about good ole Joe? Sheesh I actually talked to him once. Now I know why James Golden used to rag on him all the time.
Oh and I hold the door open for anybody, not just women.
Good for you. I married once in '80. She took a hike in '83. I didn't get married again until 2000. I decided that if I had to live alone for the rest of my life, rather than live in misery the rest of my life - it was worth it. Fortunately - I met and married my best friend. And I still open the door for her.
It's okay. I don't mind answering the busybodies if it helps someone else esp. a young girl to LISTEN TO HER PARENTS (or clergy whoever is giving good advice).
I'm sure that most woman here know from where you speak.
Personally, I've always had trouble reading those types of signals, though that could just be my own obliviousness shining through.
I guess we're both on the same page here.
Modifying certain unattractive traits is always a good thing, just don't lose yourself when trying to make yourself appealing to another person of the opposite sex.
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