[af_vet_1981]

Why does my approach work? Because your soon-to-be ex thought you were in love with her and now, just through a short speech at a dire time, you have de-legitimized every kiss, every card, every present, every phone call, every dinner with her relatives, every night with her friends, and every “I love you” that you ever whispered. You responded to her sneak attack with nuclear tipped missiles and your strike will send her sprawling into chaos.

ROFL

[Luis Gonzalez]

"What to Do When Women Break Up With You."

Sleep with her best girlfriend, or if at all possible, her sister.

[TheWriterInTexas]

I can see this; I've even encouraged my male friends to use this approach.

Ready for the other side?

I spent several years with my "high school sweetheart." Although he was never physically abusive, he could make very cutting, thoughtless comments, and rarely paid me any compliments. I didn't realize it then, but I later recognized that he was cutting me down to make himself feel better. I had a lot of growing up to do before I realized I would never allow another person to treat me so disrespectfully, that what I thought was "true love" was, in fact, a manic relationship I was better off without.

Thankfully, I pushed him into the ash-heap of history and never looked back.

Jump ahead a few years. Did some dating, nothing very serious, never anyone who stole my heart (or my head). Built myself up, reached some personal goals, centered myself. And then...in walks this guy who I never thought would turn my world around, but he did.

Just one problem - one very big problem. I could spend hours primping and preening just to please him, and never get a word of praise. I could turn all sorts of heads when we went dancing, part crowds as I sauntered to the bar, have guys offering to buy me drinks and trying their best opening lines. I didn't care about any of it; I only had eyes for him and I was happy to tell him so. I wanted him to be proud I was on his arm, to enjoy being with me.

He was a great guy; courteous, thoughtful, hardworking, bright, handsome, wonderful kisser. I thought I would die without him, but I just couldn't shake the thought that he would slowly evolve into my ex. Since he was so sparse with his words, and particularly stingy with his praise, I kept dreading the arrival of unpleasant remarks.

After eight months, I knew I had to get out while I still had some pride. I was too much in love with this guy. I didn't want to waste years, like I had before, silently waiting for praise and approval. I assured him he was a wonderful guy, and I thought I was a pretty decent gal, but perhaps we just weren't right together. I cried for hours after he left.

He accepted my decision with grace. Then, about a week later, he was on my doorstep, wanting to talk. Words, words, and more words poured out of this quiet giant. We talked the night away.

That was 12 years ago. We've been married for 10, have 2 great kids, and a rock solid marriage. He's still my quiet giant, but now, when I primp and preen, he's wise enough to tell me how desirable I am, and I'm happy to show him how wonderful I think he is.

[goldstategop]

Being Dumped... is the worst thing known to Man. Its the opposite of the heady thrill called Being In Love. The latter is the zsa zsa zsu effect. On the other the former is the drip drip droosh syndrome of relationships. The Drano for Those That Don't Work - and For Those That Where She Never Was Your Girl To Begin With. Guys, if a woman says its over, believe her and Get A Life!

[Dundee]

I had a girlfriend many years ago (long before I met my wife) who wanted to end the relationship (of course she didn't come out and say it at the time of course). Thing was that she didn't want to appear as the bitca she really was by breaking up with me (I was really good friends with all her friends). So she came up with plan to treat me like dirt for a couple of weeks in the hope I'd dump her and she becomes the victim to our friends.

Me, being the forgiving and dumb type of guy, just let her treatment of me slide. Hey, how many women have treated you like crap for a while then all of a sudden come good?

Getting nowhere after about two months, she decides to start playng the field behind my back. She ended up getting caught by me and a bunch of her friends nailing some guy in a dark corner of a nightclub.

Guess who ended up with no boyfriend AND no friends?

Later on I heard that she'd gotten engaged to some guy she'd fallen head over heels in love with about twelve months after our breakup. She found him in bed one day with someone else.

Another guy.

I still get a laugh when I think about it.

[Spandau]

If you get dumped by a woman, don't worry about it. Unless she was paying your bills, you can get back to doing important things, like building up that 440 for the Roadrunner and collecting assault rifles from around the world.

[GOPJ]

bump

[dennisw]

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[VOA]

bump

[VOA]

Cry on your pillow, punch the wall, or scream on the veranda, just make sure you do it after she’s gone.

Medical/Safety Alert to male readers of this column!

About a decade ago, Esquire Magazine had a short article that (IIRC) was
entitled "Hitting The Wall".

It was a cute (and slightly painful) article about the (generally) testosterone-driven
need to punch a wall.
According to the article, if you experience a common occurence of "hitting the wall"
you run a high risk of appearing at the local emergency room with a broken bone in your hand (behind the middle finger, IIRC).
This is common enough that a nurse and/or doctor is likely to ask you
"So, was this about your girlfriend or wife?"

Although the pain of a broken hand bone and the cost of a medical bill and recuperation
might distract you from the machinations of that perfidious wench...
I do counsel self-control.

Given my experiences in the dating game with TODAY'S American women, I do have
some recommendations.
1. Follow the advice in the article.
2. Get a wife from Japan or The Phillipines or some other foreign destination.
Preferably thorough a trusted intermediary in your faith community.

That sub-sector of my social community is the only one with a 100% "still married" rate
after 10 years of matrimony.

[AlbionGirl]

It's a 'good piece', but I think the guy overestimates a woman's desire to not be seen as a sex object. If the woman is secure, she'll walk away thinking, 'man, he really did love me', 'he's going to be in agony for weeks to come.'

A lot of women know that sex for many men is another manifestation of their love. I don't think men are much different from women in this regard. A one night stand is very different thing, but for a lot of men who are in love, the sex is 10 times better, and as Percy Sledge says 'he can't hold no other girl.'

A woman always knows when a man is head over heels for her, it's nearly impossible for him to hide. If it were me, and some guy said that while I was breaking up with him, I'd see right through it. That being said though, I would admire his unwillingness to let it crush him. And might walk away second guessing my deicison.

[CGVet58]

really too much shit to think about in this article. If you get dumped, move on... there's millions of other women out there

[American_Centurion]

"What to Do When Women Break Up With You?"

Their sister(s)....

[boris]

Finally re-discovered the Shakespeare quote I was looking for. (Which play??):

Love is merely a madness, and, I tell you, deserves as well a dark house and a whip as madmen do; and the reason why they are not so punished and cured is, that the lunacy is so ordinary that the whippers are in love too."
--Shakespeare

[HitmanLV]

Ping! A classic never goes out of style!