Dr. Laura Schlessinger: 'The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands'

WorldNetDaily.com ^ | Tuesday, January 6, 2004 | Dr. Laura Schlessinger

[Nachum]

In the Jewish marriage contract, the wife is to be guaranteed three things.

A roof over her head-

Chidren-

Clothing

-And she calls men simple?

[dirtboy]

They marinate in negatives.

I've known way too many women who maintain a meticulously indexed and cross-referenceced mental database of every wrong that's ever been done to them, and with a retrieval speed that would shame a Pentium 4. A relationship with them is a continual downward spiral into a situation where you cannot do or say anything without triggering a rememberance of a wrong done to them in the past. Grudges are pure poison to a relationship and a sure-fire way to be alone when you're older.

[Nachum]

children

[AppyPappy]

The major problem with many women is that they treat their husbands as women with penises. We are men. We are supposed to be different.

[Lazamataz]

When my wife couldn't break herself of this odious habit, I gave her three chances to clean up her act, and get her priorities in order.

Lucky wife. My wife gave me ZERO chances to clean up my ac, and get my priorities in order.

And because that is deeply ingrained and wholly symptomatic of who she is, I am also much happier now. :o)

[Lazamataz]

The major problem with many women is that they treat their husbands as women with penises. We are men. We are supposed to be different.

Right.

We have penises.

[katana]

My wife adores Dr. Laura, enjoys how-to-books, and she'll think the title is funny, so yeah, I'm lucky. Of course being real damn picky about who I married certainly helped.

[technochick99]

Are there any marital situations for which your book does not apply?

Yes, most definitely. Where the behavior of the husbands is blatantly destructive, dangerous or evil, this book does not apply.

My ex-husband's behaviours could be classified as both destructive and dangerous (certainly according to the cop across the street, my divorce attorney and my ex-bf the Chicago homicide detective, 3 men with more experience than I in the darker side of life). I think Dr. Laura needs to stress this point a bit more. Sometimes women really need to be objective as to whether a relationship is fundamentally unsound. If it is, then no sense working to fix up a house that is rotted through and through.

[hopespringseternal]

Didn't you just get married, or was that someone else?

[Lazamataz]

Well, it wasn't JUST getting married, it happened early 2002. It didn't make it through 2002, either.

[stupid1]

This is exactly the way I feel. Unfortunately, my wife thinks Dr. laura is satan. :(

[hopespringseternal]

I ask my women callers who complain that their husbands are not happy with virtually no sexual intimacy (and, by the way, that's what the men truly feel about sex with their wives – it's the ultimate in "acceptance and approval" for them) if they would be satisfied with that profound a rejection and dismissal. They always say, "No, I guess not." Frankly, too many women treat their husbands as accessories instead of priorities.

Talk to a woman, and she is always ready willing and able, except that he just wants it at all the worst times.

Talk to her husband, and you will find out she would rather have a root canal than have sex.

[Lazamataz]

Are there any marital situations for which your book does not apply?

Yes, most definitely. Where the behavior of the husbands is blatantly destructive, dangerous or evil, this book does not apply.

Clearly, some houses are not as rotten as their 'owners' think they are. One year plus of clean time, having grown up 20 years in a years time, and starting a successful new business are indicative that the house was sound after all. Doing well, happy as hell. :o)

And isn't viewing a mate as an 'objec' that is 'owned' part of the problem, anyways?

[Landru]

Facintating discussion.

Yes, one can just sense spring's right around the corner.
The distinct smell of *love's* already in the air.

...can almost feel it.

[hopespringseternal]

Wow.

Why is it that going into marriage everyone in the world is trying to wave you off, warn you, kidnap you to an island, but every man is inevitably surprised when marriage turns out to be exactly what everyone told him it was going to be and she is just as much the witch as everyone said she would be?

[Lazamataz]

LOL.

It's all good.

It worked out for the best in the long run.

[riri]

Doesn't your tagline answer that question.

Same goes for women.

[Lizavetta]

Though I find Dr. Laura a bit too brutal at times, I think she is absolutley correct in her assessment here.

Agreed. I don't like her personality at all, but her advice, especially her care and feeding of husbands advice, is absolutely correct.

So many women today are incredibly bratty and self-centered - it's all about them and only them.

[Lazamataz]

Why is it that going into marriage everyone in the world is trying to wave you off, warn you, kidnap you to an island, but every man is inevitably surprised when marriage turns out to be exactly what everyone told him it was going to be and she is just as much the witch as everyone said she would be?

I cannot say she was a witch.

I can say we both had deep, fundamental problems.

I know I am working on mine and I hope she is working on hers.

I've learned quite a lot from my experience. Besides the fact it gave me the impetus to finally get off of cocaine, which in itself is an amazing gift and wonderful miracle, it also taught me that I want a woman who is G-d fearing. It also taught me never to move into another womans house or apartment -- we get a place together, or forget it. It also taught me that I need to give more, to be more thoughtful of my mates needs and wants. In fact, I have a list of 10 points that it taught me in my Journal, of which only three are listed.

Tough times make for growth. My last year has been as tough as it can be. I have grown commensurately.

[cjshapi]

I'm not sure it's all women who are bratty and self centered. Just my opinion but I think it boils down to givers and takers. And there are way too many takers of both sexes!