[dirtboy]

They marinate in negatives.

I've known way too many women who maintain a meticulously indexed and cross-referenceced mental database of every wrong that's ever been done to them, and with a retrieval speed that would shame a Pentium 4. A relationship with them is a continual downward spiral into a situation where you cannot do or say anything without triggering a rememberance of a wrong done to them in the past. Grudges are pure poison to a relationship and a sure-fire way to be alone when you're older.

[Quix]

I've become increasingly intolerant of guilt flinging.

. . . and the saving up of "black stamps" to be repeatedly and relentlessly cashed in for the smug sadistic satisfaction of seeing one's opponent squirm in agony.

[Mr. Jeeves]

I've known way too many women who maintain a meticulously indexed and cross-referenceced mental database of every wrong that's ever been done to them, and with a retrieval speed that would shame a Pentium 4.

That was my mother. I'm still amazed that she was able to channel so much mental energy into remembering every time in her whole life she ever felt slighted by anyone, and conversely, her ability to completely forget and subsequently deny uttering the negative things she said to others.

[Hildy]

You said it perfectly. And I know people like this, unfortunately. I've always been blessed with the ability to forgive...I really don't hold grudges, even maybe when I should. Hell, life's too short.

[Rainmist]

" I've known way too many women who maintain a meticulously indexed and cross-referenceced mental database of every wrong that's ever been done to them, and with a retrieval speed that would shame a Pentium 4. A relationship with them is a continual downward spiral into a situation where you cannot do or say anything without triggering a rememberance of a wrong done to them in the past. Grudges are pure poison to a relationship and a sure-fire way to be alone when you're older. "


I've known men like this as well.