[Iris7]

What useless parasites. Luckily they won't reproduce. Unluckily they probably are Liberals. Be nice if they don't vote, but they probably do.

Their parents must be totally insane.

[foreverfree]

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[Caipirabob]

This is also a common practice in Third World countries.

[RLK]

I think the idea of being an emotionally developed male by 24 is ridiculous. I think the idea of being an emotionally developed male by 24 is ridiculous.

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We have a recent president who believed that about the age of 50.

[tkathy]

Must be Bush's fault. Or the jews.

[dawn53]

I don't think this is always bad, depends on the circumstances, depends on the parents and what they expect from the kids.

My nephew lived at home while attending college, once he graduated he got a job as an airline pilot (by the way the pay stinks when you're just starting out), stayed home while working that job for two years (with his parents insisting that the only reason he was allowed to stay home was so he wouldn't be paying enormous rent and would be able to save money to buy a home).

He did purchase his first home when he was single and 25.

Under those types of circumstances, I see nothing wrong with it.

[Puddleglum]

Seems like there's a nice little lull in there that would accomodate some military service. I wish someone had prodded me to join when I was younger. mea culpa.

[Lazamataz]

If I ever have a kid, if he's not building his own log cabin by the age of 12, I'm shooting him.

[baltodog]

Several years ago, my wife and I found ourselves in a situation where we needed to move in with my parents (I had accepted a job in my hometown on a two-week notice).
My parents had a fairly large house and invited us to stay until we could get settled in our own place.
The first thing that happened was that rules and boundries were set: we had three children and were both working.
We paid rent, child-care, and our share of the bills and grocercies. Certain nights were us cooking and vice-versa.
I have to say that it was a great time. My wife and kids got to know my father before he passed away. We were exposed to a couple who had been married for fifty years and it was very enriching.
It's not too often that your wife and her in-laws find themselves in a situation where they don't want to separate.

[Wilhelm Tell]

Wow. I think part of the problem is that some kids were never taught how to manage money, and they expect to have the best and the newest of everything -- and they want it all right now. When I left home a number of years ago, I drove my $1,500 used car to a new town. Within two weeks I had started attending college, I had found an okay apartment, and I found a semi-professional job for a whopping $5 an hour. It was a start. I paid my way through college and kept my old car for 8 years even though I later could have afforded a new car. Within 3 years I had a fair sum of money saved up (of course, I was making more than $5 per hour by then). Oh, the day I left home, my father gave me a check for $50 and said, "Destroy it in a few weeks if you find you don't need it." It was just assumed that I wouldn't need much if anything in the way of help and I would be setteled in with an apartment and a job within a few weeks of moving.

[Hemingway's Ghost]

What a bunch of pride-challenged losers in this story. There's no doubt about it: if you go to college, graduate, and then move back home with mommy and daddy, you are a loser. Howie Carr (AM 680, Boston) used to dedicate whole segments of his show to railing on these parasites.

[commish]

Our son is 24 and is living at home with us.

He just graduated from Auburn University Montgomery this past summer, and now works as a Tax Assesor for the Alabama State Revenue Department.

He pays all his own bills (Car - credit - insurance) and pays us rent. We told him he can live here for a maximum of 2 years, so that he has a decent down payment for a house.

[HamiltonJay]

Sorry, if you are able bodied and of able mind in your 20s and not attending school, and you live at home.... you are a LOSER and a LEECH... if you are in your 30s and meet those criteria.... and its not a temporary thing, divorce, bankruptcy etc.... you are just hopeless.

[Agnes Heep]

Mr. Navarro lives with his parents in Queens. His mother packs lunch for him a few times a week. His bedroom still has his high school baseball trophies and a giant stuffed bunny that was a present from a former girlfriend.

I'd be willing to bet he's a latent homosexual.

[MissAmericanPie]

I work with two ladies whose adult kids live at home. In one case the guy is just a parasite, in the other the ladies daughter was left a widow with two children and can't earn enough for her own home.

So the stats on unemployment can't be believed. Low wages are driving alot of young adults home.

[raybbr]

First, where is this story taking place? It all seems to be in New York. What is it about NY that brings this on? Lack of housing? Lack of maturity? Lack of preparation in the public schools?

Second, why, after years of forcing children to grow up so fast, are they surprised that they finally want to experience childhood?

Lastly, since we can expect to live into our '70s now, there really is no need to get started so soon anymore.

[Gritty]

There are a number of reasons for the widespread trend. Here are a few;

1. Many young people graduate from college with useless degrees and can't support themselves on the minimum wage jobs for which they only qualify. Rather than live within their limited means, they prefer to live on what their parents have taken years to build. They think that is the norm and they deserve it as they have "education". Well, "education" today isn't what education was 35 years ago, much less 75 years ago!

2. A lot of kids want "it" now; travel, fun, finding themselves, hanging out, whatever. In other words, they want "retirement" benefits starting at age 25, not 65 as was customary.

3. It is difficult to support oneself and a family nowadays on a "normal" job. Because "everybody" works, it often takes two incomes to comfortably support two people. Thirty-five years ago, many more jobs were capable of supporting a family. Not today.

4. Young people are now pampered by society from babyhood. That has not been the case until fairly recently.

I was working my first job when I was 12. I rode my bike to work, without a safety helmet. I used my money wisely, saving much of it for college. I also owned my own .22, which I used responsibly when and as I wished. Today, kids at 12 still wear their mandated bicycle helmets which they have worn since their training-wheel days, are given allowances they can spend freely at the mall on the latest expensisve fashions, and have been inculcated with fears of everything not approved by the nanny-staters.

No wonder they want to stay home with Mommy and Daddy. It's a safe place and they don't have to accept responsiblity for themselves. They can continue to live like the teenagers they never were encouraged to outgrow.

[HairOfTheDog]

Lots of venom here on this thread so far.

There are lots of people who go home for periods of time... I did when I was in my upper 20s. ended up staying a few years and it was actually me going nuts and my father not wanting to be alone if I left. It ended up being a fine period of life.... we were able to work together on a major remodel, learning alot about both each other, as adults, and learn a lot about building a house.

Never occured to me that our decisions to do this.... would anger people or cause scorn.

[Hillary's Lovely Legs]

Mr. Navarro is no loser:

False.

[SaucyCranberry]

I especially take exception at the comment by the twenty-eight-year-old Ms. Levy. As I am 33, married (12 years) have two children and the only time I feel trapped is when I have to watch live events on CNN Intl' and pray they don't open their mouths.


Her comments go to show how immature she really is if she thinks one has to have gotten ready for marriage by playing with her girlfriends, as if being prepared to be sent into Biosphere II for the rest of her life. Has she not seen any healthy marriages? I have tons of outside activities that don't involve my DH, love going out with the girls and have taken trips on my own. Yet having a life-long helper, lover and best friend is the reason I enjoy those activities even more. IMO it's this type of thinking that is leading to these so-called "starter marriages" in the last few years, where the "kids" can't even stick it out 12 months.

The only thing I think is positive about this is that at least they aren't shacking up with someone.