Freeper Obit. TrappedInLiberalHell

12-12-03 | EA

[EggsAckley]

I'm sorry to have to report that one of our own Freepers, TrappedInLiberalHell, has passed away. His profile is HERE

I met Chris this past summer and found him to be a brilliant young man, who unfortunately carried around a lot of painful psychological troubles. He wrote few posts here, but was an active and clever noter, and a very sweet young man.

R.I.P., Chris van Loon
b. 3/2/72, d. 12/9/03

[dubyagee]

This life is short. Eternity is long. Reunions are guaranteed. PTL

I count on that...but thanks for the reminder. 8 * )

[KangarooJacqui]

"I only want to stress that sometimes the loved-one of the depressed can do every saintly thing they can imagine, in the most extraordinary expressions of love and compassion, and still not overcome the relentlessness of the blackness."

Petronski, I want to reach through my monitor screen and give you a hug, for expressing that emotion in a way that I want to frame and hang on the wall, not just my own wall but someone else's besides.

Part of me is still screaming "WHY?", part of me knew long before this happened.... (still, that part's stomping about, throwing things, yelling and screaming that men just won't listen...)

BTW: Grief is something weird as heck to look in on, at times, but weirder still to be in the midst of. If my posts seem a trifle off, I do hope you'll all forgive me...)

[ChemistCat]

I lost a friend this way a year ago New Years Eve. Friend, not husband. I don't know how you keep the anger from overwhelming the happy memories, but I hope you can. I'll be praying for you for this to get easier. I don't know how it could but with God all things are supposed to be possible.

Maybe Chris didn't give up. Maybe the depression just caught him off guard for long enough to have its way. That's what my friend thinks happened with our friend Dennis.

[KangarooJacqui]

You're right, there are many options.

I know Chris loved this place. I am also disgusted by the lack of funding for mental health in my native country and in the USA. Any US charities in that field someone can suggest?

(I'd like to see some sort of split... *ahem*, am I being obnoxious and difficult? Sorry...)

[No Blue States]

Fiona,

Great Idea, no doubht Chris would approve of donations to Free Republic in his memory.

Your strength during this trying time greatly impresses me.

I suffer depression too and im trying to work up the guts to post about it now.

[Grammy]

Fiona,
I am so very sorry to hear about Chris. May God wrap His arms around you and comfort you.

[SerpentDove]

;-)

[ntnychik]

I like your tag line, too! ;)

[ntnychik]

I like your tag line, too! ;)

[DollyCali]

You know P.. I am over 50 & have never had a dog. Had LOTS of kitties.

2 years ago while kayaking -- low & behold there is a drain pipe was a skinny dog.

well, that dog is OLIVER (all-over) and my best pal & constant companion & acivity partner.

It was God's gift in so many ways.. can't even begin to explain.

God will give you your doggie.. you wont have to look.. and it may or may ot be a lab! (mine is half german shep & half golden retriever according to vet)

A big horsie that thinks he is a lap dog

[Doc On The Bay]

Spider Robinson wrote about a "Special Place,"--Callahan's Place; a VERY special Bar where ANYTHING was Possible--& in MANY WAYS, JimRob has re-Created an Internet "Callahan's Bar!"

The Thing Is, that People at "Callahan's Bar" CARED about each other.

The Same Might be Said about FR--we are a VERY DIVERSE group of Individualists who have "Come Together" to TRY to "Make Sense" of our World. We "UNSPIN the Spin!", Tell "Tall Tales," & Generally enjoy each others' Company.

Mr Robinson would be Happy Here.

The Point Is,--ALL of us are Diminished by His Passing, 'Cause he was One Of Us, & He Gave Us MUCH MORE than he Got from Us.

He will be Missed!

Doc

[sneakers]

I just logged on and am so broken-hearted reading these messages! Oh! So young! So very young! May God have mercy on his soul, and may He keep Chris in His loving arms where there is no sadness or depression. And I pray that God gives comfort to his widow and other family members.

[SeeRushToldU_So]

Hang in there and I am sorry for our loss, and sorry for your personal loss.

[sneakers]

I just logged on and am so broken-hearted reading these messages! Oh! So young! So very young! May God have mercy on his soul, and may He keep Chris in His loving arms where there is no sadness or depression. And I pray that God gives comfort to his widow and other family members.

[proud American in Canada]

one last goodnight bump. :)

[KangarooJacqui]

If you start a thread about depression, ping me. I have that much material it's not funny anymore (if indeed it ever was.)

After being on about half the antidepressants known to man, shortly before I met Chris I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. But the point is, it took me more than fourteen years to be correctly diagnosed (they always just figured it was depression, despite little lapses the other way) and longer still to get the correct medication.

NBS, my strength is my typing ability... which keeps on keeping on after just about everything else in my repertoire ceases to function. :) This "strength" you see, is the brittle shell of someone just keeping it together. See tagline for further details.

[DollyCali]

Well, any country that can produce Nicole Kidman & raise Mel Gibson has my vote !!! (sorry I am a movie addict like a FR addict)

I hope someday to visit australia & New zealand.. they seem like dream lands.. the USA a few years back in many respects if you go to backcountry

[DollyCali]

Okay I burned mom's dinner & now I smell mine burnng as well..

sigh

[Petronski]

Part of me is still screaming "WHY?", part of me knew long before this happened.... (still, that part's stomping about, throwing things, yelling and screaming that men just won't listen...) BTW: Grief is something weird as heck to look in on, at times, but weirder still to be in the midst of. If my posts seem a trifle off, I do hope you'll all forgive me...)

Part of you cries out "why?" I fear part of you will always cry out "why?" It is a very human reaction, but take solace: It will not captivate you forever. A fuller understanding will come in its time. You must always recognize this as a death at the hands of a terrible disease . . . . no different than if cancer had done the damage.

Death makes sense to a depressed person because they have lost hope, even momentarily, that any other earthly salve can stop the pain.

I am pleased that my words might have given voice to some of the pain of your loss. Never forget that the single most important aspect of depression is its relentlessness. Depression is more relentless than the love, no matter how deep, of any mortal soul.

God's eternal love, on the other hand, can salve any wound and heal any pain . . . even yours now. I'm not here to preach, I just want to throw light on His beautiful, inescapable love.

[ntnychik]

I'm glad you're a Lurker no more. FR is a community, as you've learned. There's more here for you than politics. God bless you and your family. He will help you through this very sad time. When you need a lift, join us at A Day in the Life of President Bush, aka "the Dose." You'll find the finest, most caring people there.