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"I only want to stress that sometimes the loved-one of the depressed can do every saintly thing they can imagine, in the most extraordinary expressions of love and compassion, and still not overcome the relentlessness of the blackness."

Petronski, I want to reach through my monitor screen and give you a hug, for expressing that emotion in a way that I want to frame and hang on the wall, not just my own wall but someone else's besides.

Part of me is still screaming "WHY?", part of me knew long before this happened.... (still, that part's stomping about, throwing things, yelling and screaming that men just won't listen...)

BTW: Grief is something weird as heck to look in on, at times, but weirder still to be in the midst of. If my posts seem a trifle off, I do hope you'll all forgive me...)

Part of me is still screaming "WHY?", part of me knew long before this happened.... (still, that part's stomping about, throwing things, yelling and screaming that men just won't listen...) BTW: Grief is something weird as heck to look in on, at times, but weirder still to be in the midst of. If my posts seem a trifle off, I do hope you'll all forgive me...)

Part of you cries out "why?" I fear part of you will always cry out "why?" It is a very human reaction, but take solace: It will not captivate you forever. A fuller understanding will come in its time. You must always recognize this as a death at the hands of a terrible disease . . . . no different than if cancer had done the damage.

Death makes sense to a depressed person because they have lost hope, even momentarily, that any other earthly salve can stop the pain.

I am pleased that my words might have given voice to some of the pain of your loss. Never forget that the single most important aspect of depression is its relentlessness. Depression is more relentless than the love, no matter how deep, of any mortal soul.

God's eternal love, on the other hand, can salve any wound and heal any pain . . . even yours now. I'm not here to preach, I just want to throw light on His beautiful, inescapable love.