I'm with you 2JM, I don't respond well to gift giving on command! Gifts are something you give out of the goodness of your heart, not because of an obligation! We've always lived away from our families, so nobody gets nuthin from us! My Mama never bothered me about it. If I can remember, I'll send a check for high school graduation. I still owe one nephew! But I have 49 first cousins just on Mama's side of the family, and now they have their kids. There's no possible way to keep up with them at this distance!
I have 7 siblings with their assorted kids, step-kids, grandkids, etc. We used to draw names for Christmas gift giving, but it got too complicated. Now we just buy something for every kid under the age of 15; little things costing less than a dollar if possible. Then whoever is hosting the party creates party bags for the kids and they are thrilled getting all that junk! Our two younger ones are 12 and 14, and it is something they really look forward to every year!