Posted on 08/02/2025 7:37:40 PM PDT by DoodleBob
In the Bible the fall of Man is ascribed to Adam, not Eve even though she ate from the tree first. And only another man, Jesus could pay the sacrifice. SO: God would argue his sons of Adam needs to step it up and become sons of Christ instead.
And the porn and other addictions need to be dealt with. Childhood traumas, the wounds of fatherlessness.
God is father to the fatherless.
is porn addiction acceptable grounds for divorce?
https://www.gotquestions.org/pornography-addiction-divorce.html
The women of today are rebellious and do not properly submit as Christian wives, and whore about in the twenties, expecting men to wife them up after they see their looks going and eggs drying up. They, like you, demand men to “step up” be traditional, and wife up the town bicycle, yet are not traditional themselves.
So theres no point getting involved with them.
I don’t know where your bitterness comes from. There are plenty of quality men AND women left...but the saddest stories are of women who DID devote their lives to their home, to pleasing their husbands — and yet their husbands still chose pornography.
As a woman you do not understand men.
Porn is not the cause of problems with women. Porn is the solution to problems with women.
If you know anything about marriages, the large majority of women entrap men into marriage and the sex falls off drastically. Research some on the stats of sexless marriages. This is done by the women in almost all cases. Straight men do not get married to not have sex.
Shutting off sex is disrespedting the marriage contract and duties of a spouse, as marriage inherently has sex in it as long as both people are able to (union of husband and wife). Refusing to or shutting it down to a sexless marriage, is rejection of the marriage vows. That spouse has abandoned the vows and effectively left the union.
Men would rather have regular sex with their wives. The ones who dont want to divorce for withholding of affection, or stay married and have affairs, may well trun to porn to deal with their sexul needs since the wife has turned away from the vows and his needs.
But as a woman I know you will never understand this, even having it explained and spoonfed to you. So don’t bother me ever again, I’d rather talk to a door.
As a jilted husband manu years ago, your post has much truth.
3 kids...12, 6, 5....and she used the “family court” and a completely immoral and untruthful “family law attorney” to get what she wanted ($$$$).
there are women aplenty who initiate, do not withhold, etc... but the men can’t be receptive because they have ONGOING soul wounds, childhood traumas, insecurities that they need to address with coping mechanisms other than pornography and the like.
that all being said, so many marriages are thriving beautifully and praise God for that. :)
And lets not forget, women watch porn and enjoy it. They also are heavily into erotic books/graphic romance novels, which is also fantasy porn. They also have a large array of vibrators and dildos and little lipstick buzzers they use all on their own too. So men do not hold any monopoly on this kind of thing whatsoever.
Some people bring pre-existing addictions INTO the marriage, and are under the impression that marriage will solve their problems — then they’re in it, and they have a partner who is more than willing to meet their needs — but because their brains have dopamine receptor issues, and other traumas remain embedded, the addictions re-emerge!
If your spouse is not trustworthy, you’d better withhold.
Yep. Saw a Mark Driscoll short where he said pretty much all men struggle with sexuality and pornography. He said those who say they aren’t are either lying to themselves or others.
Us men are visual creatures. Some struggle more than others.
Yes Mark tends to hold men accountable even as he addresses the role of wives from a Biblical standpoint. (Following the lead of the husband.)
But it’s one thing to be visual, it’s another to have grown up in this modern era with all its social dysfunction, explosion of technology, fractured families and communities m, isolated nature of 9-5 jobs (when family farms used to be the norm for millennia.) etc…
And so there’s a lot more to pornography addiction than just “men being men.”
Absolutely. I have also felt bad for young boys and men these days as well. Tue girls dress so provocatively, it’s crazy. I never let my daughters dress like too many of their friends did.
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