Posted on 06/10/2025 9:25:52 PM PDT by Morgana
The second season of Live Action’s “Face to Face” series continues, and in the latest episode, brings together two groups of post-abortive parents.
In a discussion facilitated by Live Action founder and president Lila Rose, women who had abortions against the wishes of their babies’ fathers speak about their experiences with men whose wanted children were aborted.
“He begged me not to do it”
Sara Boling got pregnant unexpectedly, and terrified of her mother’s reaction, got an abortion — something pushed on her by everyone around her, except for her boyfriend and his mother. But she “thought [abortion] was normal” and said Planned Parenthood “made it really easy, and said if you don’t tell the father, if you don’t tell your parents, we can help you. [I was] 17 years old. I just said okay.”
The father of the baby was her high school sweetheart, and she thought they would be together forever. “He, along with his mom, begged me not to do it. She told me she would take me in,” she said. “She told me she would help as much as she could. And I was just scared.”
All of Boling’s friends and other trusted adults told her to have the abortion, saying a baby would ruin her life. Meanwhile, the staffers at Planned Parenthood told her the baby was just a clump of cells, not a human being. She was well into her second trimester of pregnancy at the time. It was years later before she learned what really happened to her child.
Now, 20 years later, she still struggles with post-abortive regret, though she said she knows she will see her child in Heaven. She mentors young adults now, so they won’t feel forced to make the decision she did.
“I never really had closure with the father,” she said. “I don’t know how he really feels. After that, it was over. I just — my guilt, I couldn’t allow myself to be loved by him anymore. And I just ended it.”
“I stole fatherhood…”
Melissa Manion was already a single mother when she got pregnant for the second time. And at first, she and her new boyfriend planned to raise the baby together. She said the young man was kind to her and they had planned to have the baby despite having dated for just three months.
“I told everyone, and then I just… I got scared. I thought, ‘I just got on my feet. I have a son that I need to take care of. I don’t love him. I don’t know what to do.’ And instead of speaking to him about it, I spoke to some friends who had had abortions, and in an instant, I changed my mind.”
She called Planned Parenthood and made an appointment for the very next day; when the father came home, she told him directly that she was having an abortion, and there was nothing he could do about it.
“He became really erratic, and was crying and begging me, please not to do this,” she said. “And I don’t really remember a lot of it. It’s – trauma will do that. I just remember, somewhere subconsciously, thinking, this is my right…. I truly gave no thought to the fact that this wasn’t my child alone, that it took two people to create this life. It shouldn’t take one to be able to end it. And so I told him to leave and I have never seen him again since.”
“I stole fatherhood from a completely innocent and kind man, along with ending the life of my child,” she added.
“It’s not your decision”
The conversation then shifted to the men’s perspectives.
Gregory Mayo said he was 18 when his first child was aborted, which he did not want. “I protested, but in the way a scared, unsure 18-year-old kid does. And so when her mom said, ‘Well, this is going to happen anyway,’ I thought, ‘Okay, what does everybody say I’m supposed to do? Well, I’m supposed to go be supportive.’ So I went with her…. I remember the overall feeling of just being scared, and what are we doing, and this is one of those things you can’t undo. And then she came out, and I saw it on her face immediately… something was gone. And then I decided to — not consciously — but decided, I’m just not going to deal with emotions right now.”
That relationship ended not long after, and a few years later, another girlfriend got pregnant. She, too, decided to have an abortion. He tried harder this time, offering to marry her, or even take and raise the baby on his own, but she refused. When nothing worked, he told her was going to drive 16 hours to be there with her, and she said not to bother; it wouldn’t be in enough time to stop the abortion appointment early the next morning.
“And the last thing I remember saying on the phone to her was screaming at the top of my lungs, ‘Please don’t kill my baby!’…. [S]he said, ‘It’s not a baby, and it’s not your decision,'” he recalled. “And she hung up, and I was in a panic. I just remember screaming and yelling at the top of my lungs, and throwing stuff around my apartment.”
He went on to have other children, but the loss of his first two children affected him for the next 10 years until he found healing.
“I felt truly powerless”
Sean Corcoran was the last member of the panel to share his story. When his girlfriend got pregnant, he immediately began trying to figure out how it would affect his life, and how they would handle it. “She stopped me and she said, ‘Well, I’m not going to have the baby; I’m going to have an abortion.’ And that was counter to everything that I was raised to believe,” he said. “I argued against it. I can’t remember the exact conversations, but it got to the point where my dad drove nine hours to be there the next day.”
His girlfriend’s mother also flew in, but unlike Corcoran’s parents, she supported the abortion. His parents offered to adopt the baby, but they remained unmoved, and his girlfriend went through with the abortion, because she and her family thought pregnancy would ruin her chances to graduate from college.
“This was the first time in my life that I felt truly powerless, that there was just not a solution,” he said. “I sat in my dorm room for the remainder of that semester. Didn’t go to class, didn’t go to take tests.” And his troubles only got worse.
“I failed out of college. I ended up in a seven-year methamphetamine addiction. I was homeless, unemployed, and it wasn’t until I was in treatment that I was able, through the counselors, to connect the dots that this is the void I was trying to fill with the drugs, with the addiction, with all the other destructive behavior that comes along with that.”
Watch the entire video to see the rest of their discussion. (video on link)
Your basic American woman...
lol I *am* the old timers. :-)
On alimony I agree. In fact I think it should be abolished.
Child support? No. You breed them, you feed them. The needs of your children come first. That applies to both parents.
That would be fairness but men get no fairness, only the backhand of the law...
Usually, it's a man delivering that backhand. I know from experience. I had a family member who had to deal with the family court system, and the only time he was treated with any degree of fairness was when the judge was a woman. The male judges fell all over themselves trying to find some angle that would allow them to side with the mother.
No. You like making strawman arguments. I said what I said. You need to learn to stop reading things in that haven’t been said. Its an (ass)umptive thing to do and most people don’t like others putting words in their mouths and shows you don’t really read or listen to what people say to you. And they won’t deal with you anymore because its pointless.
Actually men are doing something about it. They are no longer marrying, many aren’t even dating. They are deciding not to expose themselves to potential problems and unnecessary stress, lies that can destroy their lives, finan es, and kids, with family courts ready to oblige.
But tradcuck white knights will still have issues with men deciding these personal choices for themselves. It doesnt help any of the guys already screwed over or already in a marriage contract, but more guys are seeing what has happened to men they know and are deciding they aren’t going to let that happen to them.
You don’t understand your own words and logic.
Then women will have children without husbands. There's already enough sperm in the sperm banks to keep the human race going for the next 500 years (nice going, men). If women can't have babies with husbands, then they'll have them without husbands.
Running away won't fix this. It will only make things worse for men. They will be outbred, out-voted, and out of the picture. At some point, men will need to stand up for themselves and their sons.
But tradcuck white knights will still have issues with men deciding these personal choices for themselves.
That's very true.
Imdo, you’re an assumptive ass. I’ll make it clearer for you. Per Jim’s rule, please no longer communicste with me.
If you want and get custody of the child then you get child support for two years. If you can’t or won’t pay for your children, give them up to the father.
Having a child shouldn’t mean you get a monthly ATM account.
The whole child support system is just the state taking over more of our rights and inserting the government into personal relations for 20 years.
Don’t hate the messenger.
No, you breed them, you feed them.
If you believe someone who says they are for equality under the law, ie a constitutional republic where no one is above the law, and opposes hypocrisy/double standards, and then says because of that, that person then must also support the ERA, you’re either very stupid at best, or a lying gaslighter at worst.
But hey, don’t hate the messenger, slick.
Equality under the law of men and woman (you left out the man/woman part) was what the ERA was all about.
I’ve got nothing against you. I’m just responding to posts, not the poster per se.
I understand how people can see the double standards, unfairness and corruption in our system and society and have the reactions your exemplifying here.
I’m just trying to bring it back to a Biblical perspective.
The era was not about equality. It established law to make women have more rights than men, while claiming it was just making them equal. Its just like title ix. Title ix makes women a protected higher class because it forces schools to create and carve out sports for women regardless of whether anyone or the school or anyone there wants to play them, at the expense of men. Because they shut down some of the mens sports in order to redirect money towards the womens sports. Not a single mens sports team gets protected status the womens teams get.
The entire womens rights movement has been about establishing privilege, a superior position over men. They are favored in courts and play up the victimhood. They dont want equality, they want superiority. What that is today, we see by their actions. When equality works for them, they push for equality. When equality doesnt work for them and requires them being held responsible and accountablemfor their actions and choices, they no longer demand equality, but cry for exemptions, exceptions, and special treatment.
That is why I said I want equality under the law, because if we had it, the law would treat everyone the same, no double standards and hypocrisy, both men and women, not treating women as super citizens that get all the benefits of equality but also get special preferential treatment to duck and avoid responsibility and accountability because they’re just helpless wittle girls and patriarchy bad....
Maybe you kind of get what I mean better now. I’d be all for biblical law. The law didnt make a lot of distinction between men and women. Women would be put to death for the same crimes men would be. They didnt spare them or give them special treatment because they were women. Equality under the law is biblical. The 10 commandments didn’t have easier requirements for women. The consequences of breaking laws were not easier on them either.
Also proving the era wasn’t about equality of men and women, these w9men whowere so gung ho about equality, did nothing to also push for equality in areas where women traditionally outnumbered men. They never said there needed to be more male nurses. Or stop reducing the number of male schoolteachers and journalists and veterinarians. They never cared abkout inequality when it affected men negatively. The era never was about equality, and this showed it.
I didn’t say Biblical law.
I’ve always understood what you’re saying.
I point out Godly living which is the prophylactic and the antidote.
Well I agree but the real world conditions and people you deal with don’t do that. Thats why basing legal systems that treat everyone equally and not establishing classes of people who get better favorable unequal treatment under the law, is not good law. We don’t have equal treatment under the law when it comes to the sexes. Its incredibly biased against men and favoring women with privilged treatment and being a special class. Treating everyone the same under the law is the best form of law, thats how God treats everyone as well, no one gets special treatment from Him.
Hypothetical dialogue.
You fathered a child, you have to support him.
Why do I have to and not the woman?
Because you are the man.
Men who slept with whores did not “support” any children.
Prove its their kid. If shes sleeping around with one guy shes sleeping with more than one guy. Women today are whores sleeping around with multiple guys. They have body counts. They dont know who the father is.
Biblically, whores are not wives. They dont get the same rights and privileges. They are not treated the same.
You’ve gone off the rails.
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