The first time you’re asked for money, leave.
The first time they ask to meet you in a foreign country, leave.
No, tourists down there us a dating app to meet a local. Local kidnaps them and forces their relative in the US to send money.
The one asked for money is in America, the one being kidnapped is not asked for cash. And if they are, they are not free to leave.
Go to a good sized church of a well established religion, attend regularly. Volunteer to help with programs, get involved and chances are you will come in contact with like minded persons who are serious, generous people and want to make a family under the loving grace of God.