Posted on 08/03/2024 1:22:48 PM PDT by grundle
I met my ex on a dating app in 2020. I was ready to settle down, and he seemed to be too, so things got serious quickly. We bought a dog and picked out an engagement ring.
Then, it all fell apart when I learned he had three other girlfriends, all of whom thought they were exclusive with him.
I have a doctoral degree in public health, specializing in social and behavioral sciences. I'm a smart person, so I blamed myself for missing the signs — though even in retrospect, I couldn't see any.
Almost immediately, I realized there were only a few other people who could understand what I was going through: My ex's other girlfriends.
First, I told the three other women my ex had been seeing at the same time as me. All were very shocked, and none of them knew that he had been cheating on them. When I found out he'd cheated on previous partners, I messaged them, too. All in all, I got in touch with about 130 women.
All of the girlfriends were kind, compassionate, and smart. Most were Asian, like me, and professionals: lawyers, engineers, and artists.
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When you keep.your selection of mates small, he gets to play the field.
Ah, but that’s okay, Harris wants publicly available abortions and Butt-boys says they free men, so he’s safe. Right? /s
Its good work if you can get it.
...just don’t get caught by her father
I have a doctoral degree in public health, specializing in social and behavioral sciences. I’m a smart person, so I blamed myself for missing the signs — though even in retrospect, I couldn’t see any.
So she’s and edjumacated ignoramus!
“130 “smart” women all thought they were this guy’s only romantic partner.”
130? Wow!
80% of the women are chasing 10% of the men. They all think they have earned and deserve such a man. When the 80% decide to settle, they are never really happy with their partner. That is why many men are walking away.
How did the guy possibly find the time?
This is basic stuff.
Women demanded that they earn as much as men. And for the most part, this goal was met.
But, it’s part of female psychology that they want to “trade up” when it comes to men, so they chase men who earn more than they do.
So, we now have a situation where (at least) 80% of the women are chasing (about) 20% of the men.
1) This leaves about 80% of the men thinking, “No woman wants me.”
2) This leaves 20% of the men thinking, “I can have any girl I want and never have to settle down with any of them, because if I do, they’ll just divorce me and take half my stuff. Heck, I might as well have three girlfriends at the same time. There is no downside.
3) Lastly, it leaves a lot of women wondering “where did all the good guys go to?” (refer to point 1).
Quite a few years ago there was a condom advertisement with shadows walking behind each partner showing all the other people you were “involved” with. I wish I could find that video again. My search skills are not up to the task.
And every one of these geniuses is a fanatical DimWIT voter
Virtually all available women are competing for the same 10% of men. There is going to be some overlap. Still, 130 is an awful lot.
Probably part of the problem.
“Another tactic he would use is when we first started dating he told me he was seeing a therapist, a green flag, and he told me one thing he was working with his therapist on was trying to be better at asserting his needs and setting his boundaries,”
Interesting. I would consider that a big red flag!
Based on a few employee men in their mid-30s who work for me, I think that is fairly accurate....
NONE of you women were girlfriends...l
You were all booty calls.
Sobel: “This man had 200 prophylactic kits in his foot locker! How in the name of God was he going to have the strength to fight the war?”
Education ≠ smart...
She is worried about him taking the dog. LOL. Do you really think he wants 130 dogs?
This lady has a doctorate in public health. She even went on medication for depression. Just the sort of person you want to have input into public health.
Once upon a time the OP posted a topic he was interested in discussing. Now it is hit and run.
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