Yes, she should be, but she won’t.
I know this issue is near and dear to both our hearts. I hope you’re doing well. My husband died a little over a year ago. It’s been rough.
Is it possible that she wants him to quit but he isn’t listening to her or anybody else? I’ve read that dementia sufferers can become uncontrollable, angry, suspicious, even abusive toward close family members. Maybe he doesn’t even know who she is anymore.
When I’ve seen her with him, she often looks tense and unhappy. During July 4th for example. Both of them were standing on a White House balcony. She didn’t seem to be enjoying the fireworks; she was gripping the railing in front of her as if holding on for dear life and not smiling at all. Meanwhile, next to her, Joey was grinning that weird, vacant grin as if he didn’t know what was going on or where he was. What if she can’t get through to him and nobody else can either?
I hope things are better for you.