Posted on 06/04/2024 11:50:37 AM PDT by where's_the_Outrage?
Sometimes you can really mess up your life by doing something nice for someone, even a senior.
It can turn on an entitlement button and then you’re bombarded with demands and guilt tripping, like what happened to the young woman in this story.
Read it and you’ll see what I mean.
I’m 25 and live in a building with a lot of seniors.
One of my neighbors is in her late 80s.
She has pretty much been badgering me to help her do stuff and plays the guilt card if I say no.
At first I was willing to help, especially when the pandemic broke out, but picking up groceries for her and bringing her and her mail.
That quickly morphed into her trying to get me to fix her sinks, vacuum, make her dinner, wash her windows and when you say no she literally starts crying and throws a pity party.
The requests aren’t casual, but instead become a routine campaign of demands.
Whenever I got home from work she’d literally be waiting at my door to start making her demands for today and after that happened I had enough.
I told her to leave me alone a few times which worked for a few days before she’d go back at it......
When I told my grandma she called me a massive jerk as obviously this lady needs help and likes the company.
She told me to put her in that old lady’s shoes. I admit it made me feel even worse about it.
(Excerpt) Read more at msn.com ...
mine=mind....
The old lady has sine passed.
I help her daughter from time
to time. Like her mother,
humble and grateful.
We noticed that when our mother turned about 90 her personality changed in this regard.
Her entire life had been giving, giving, giving as a pastor’s wife. She literally put herself and her needs behind everyone else’s for 75 years Elderly, she became centered on herself. Even though my brother and SIL lived with her and took care of her, she expected other people to be there to entertain her. Nothing you did for her was enough. She got sort of mean. (She remained super smart, engaged, and wearing her Trump shirt until about a week before she died at 99.)
My husband’s parents also did a 180 when it came to becoming extremely self centered in their 90s.
We don’t hold it against her, since that’s not who she was and we knew that. The changes in a brain and personality can’t help but be affected after 90 years.
Aunt Barbara was a self centered woman for all the years I knew her.
No, they just showed up for the Sunday dinner. Her sons never said a word of thanks to my mother for shopping. They never mentioned it at all. I guess they thought magical elves brought the food every week.
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