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Proof young women are opting out of casual sex?
The Spectator ^ | 05/29/2024 | Amber Duke

Posted on 05/29/2024 8:36:35 PM PDT by SeekAndFind

The popular dating app Bumble was forced to apologize recently when its anti-celibacy advertisement didn’t land the way that it had hoped. Bumble tried to tap into many women’s frustration with modern dating, telling women who are having trouble finding a significant other that “a vow of celibacy is not the answer.” But whoever is on Bumble’s marketing team failed to realize that many women are opting out of casual sex and hook-ups as they realize they prefer settling into a long-term partnership before they engage in a sexual relationship. Others are taking a break from dating…

The popular dating app Bumble was forced to apologize recently when its anti-celibacy advertisement didn’t land the way that it had hoped.

Bumble tried to tap into many women’s frustration with modern dating, telling women who are having trouble finding a significant other that “a vow of celibacy is not the answer.”

But whoever is on Bumble’s marketing team failed to realize that many women are opting out of casual sex and hook-ups as they realize they prefer settling into a long-term partnership before they engage in a sexual relationship. Others are taking a break from dating entirely, as they feel a deep dissatisfaction with the current landscape, which seems centered around fleeting physical attraction and short-lived connections. On TikTok, the #celibacy hashtag has had more than 195 million views and Google searches for “celibacy” were up 90 percent in January 2023.

Women let Bumble know that they did not appreciate the ads, which seemed designed to shame them for their choice to save their bodies for someone special. Bumble apologized in turn. “We made a mistake,” the company said. “Our ads referencing celibacy were an attempt to lean into a community frustrated by modern dating, and instead of bringing joy and humor, we unintentionally did the opposite.”

Some Gen-Z TikTokkers refer to the trend as going “boy sober,” and the reasons why young women are swearing off the hard stuff (apologies) are numerous. Liberal and progressive women argue that it would be irresponsible for them to engage in meaningless hook-ups when abortion restrictions and bans have made the stakes of an unwanted pregnancy much higher. (Ironically, this is exactly what pro-life activists have long encouraged women to do; practice safe sex or abstain to avoid getting pregnant in the first place, rather than terminating an unwanted pregnancy after the fact).

Other women acknowledged that they choose celibacy because they do not believe it’s empowering to give up sex to a man who does not meet some bare minimum standards. There is an important acknowledgment here that having sex with men who don’t treat you right or who don’t actually want to commit to you only engenders their bad behavior and incentivizes it. As the old saying goes, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

The backlash to Bumble’s ad doesn’t change the fact that a lot of young women are still having casual sex. The American Psychological Association found that 70 percent of sexually active 12-21 year olds reported having a casual sexual encounter in the past year. What is different, though, is that young women are starting to associate their dissatisfaction with the dating scene and negative feelings about themselves with their choice to engage in hook-up culture. According to the Institute for Family Studies, “an APA survey of 1,468 undergraduate students found that 82.6 percent reported negative mental and emotional consequences after hook-ups, including embarrassment, loss of respect and difficulties with maintaining steady relationships.” Similarly, 78 percent of women and 72 percent who engaged in uncommitted sex acts experienced regret over their actions. The Journal of Sex Research says engaging in hook-ups and the number of hook-ups are correlated with rises in depression and anxiety, which are reaching crisis levels in young people.

Louise Perry, author of The Case Against the Sexual Revolution told the Guardian that many young heterosexual women “now feel as if they have to run the gauntlet of hook-up culture if they want to have any kind of sexual relationship. I think a lot of them, quite fairly, would rather not have any sexual relationship at all.”

Women no longer buy the feminist lie that casual sex is “empowering” or gives them some special kind of agency over their own body. They are able to differentiate between “intimacy” and “sex.” And they don’t want to be with men who only desire them for what they can offer physically.

Of course, the rise of celibacy among young people is not all good. It is certainly better from a mental and physical health perspective to avoid unsatisfying sexual encounters that lack any real long-term connection. But some researchers believe the decline in young people having sex can be attributed to things like video games, social media and pornography. So while some people are choosing be voluntarily celibate, others are not having sex because they are simply unable to make real personal connections in a world gone digital. This comes with its own set of negative consequences for mental health and family formation. Young people are getting married later and later and many don’t expect to marry or have children at all. The US birth rate has cratered. None of this bodes well for society, which thrives on healthy and robust family structures.

So, what’s the answer to this problem illuminated by Bumble’s unfortunate anti-celibacy ad? Young women are right to lay off casual sex until they find the right man, but they shouldn’t give up on love entirely. Statistically, the happiest group of women are married mothers. That’s something worth staying in the game for.



TOPICS: Society
KEYWORDS: casualsex; dating; fornication; mansophere; mgtow; pua; redpill; relax; socialmedia; women; youngwomen
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To: SeekAndFind

Looking at an app or online dating website for a date or future mate is pathetic to begin with.


41 posted on 05/30/2024 3:50:02 AM PDT by maddog55 (The only thing systemic in America is the left's hatred of it!)
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To: Newbomb Turk

Guess you got screwed. I would never start a business with a partner like that so why would I marry one like that?

If you do research in a potential business partnership why wouldn’t you do the same for a wife?

I was best man at a friend’s wedding several years ago. 7 groomsmen, myself and the groom went to a local county bar before the wedding and toasted the groom. I asked a simple question because I knew all of them quite well. How many times have you guys each been married?

Answer: 27 times was the total between 9 guys. I was the only 1 married once and still married for 51 years.

Life’s about choices..choose right.


42 posted on 05/30/2024 3:58:27 AM PDT by maddog55 (The only thing systemic in America is the left's hatred of it!)
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To: SeekAndFind

“Young women are right to lay off casual sex until they find the right man, but they shouldn’t give up on love entirely.”

They should give up their unrealistic expectations and “entitlement” to double standards first. Maybe then love will meet them halfway on a 2-way street.


43 posted on 05/30/2024 3:58:53 AM PDT by equaviator (If 60 is the new 40, then 35 must be the new 15.)
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To: exDemMom

You’re the Town Bike for Pfizer and Moderna.

...oh, and Fauci.


44 posted on 05/30/2024 3:59:51 AM PDT by grey_whiskers ( The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: gawatchman

Women tingle for “bad boys” ot the aggressive, confident types.

The woman decides that if she throws her body at him, he’ll notice what a special catch she is, because she’s breaking all thevrules just for *him*.

Then, when that doesn’t work, her rationalization hamster decides he’s a damaged little boy, and just needs a”good woman’s” love (hers) and she can “fix him.”

When that doesn’t work snd he throws her away. she cuts her hair short and declares “all men are bad.”

If she’d just tried this strategy with one oof those boring Steady Freddies, he’d move mountains for her.

But instead, she marries one of them at age 30, when the hawt men no longer hit on her, and then divorces Jim after a few years and a kid or two. to go “find herself.”


45 posted on 05/30/2024 4:09:22 AM PDT by grey_whiskers ( The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: Gaffer
There ARE decent young women out there [...]

Yeah, there are literally dozens of them out there!

Regards,

46 posted on 05/30/2024 4:47:17 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: imabadboy99

No woman wants to have kids with a male Meghan Markle.


47 posted on 05/30/2024 4:52:21 AM PDT by mewzilla (Never give up; never surrender!)
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To: SeekAndFind

There is no up side to casual sex for women.


48 posted on 05/30/2024 4:57:25 AM PDT by yldstrk ( )
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To: mewzilla

No, but plenty of women will have *sex* with him.

And then, after she is unexpectedly pregnant, she has the nerve to look surprised.

And this is why so many single women are fervently pro-abortion: because “you never know when...”


49 posted on 05/30/2024 4:59:00 AM PDT by grey_whiskers ( The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: metmom

Women don’t like it in men, either.

A slut is a slut regardless if they are a man or woman.
***********
Plus you are likely to spread some disease. So, as I said to my teenage sons: “Stay zipped up.”


50 posted on 05/30/2024 4:59:39 AM PDT by yldstrk ( )
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To: alexander_busek

To be a male “town bicycle” requires lots of effort and “game” and is hence a signifier of / placeholder for high value.
**********
What utter horse caca. No one appreciates a male whore.


51 posted on 05/30/2024 5:01:01 AM PDT by yldstrk ( )
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To: SaveFerris

Tatoos = tramp stamp.


52 posted on 05/30/2024 5:03:58 AM PDT by yldstrk ( )
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To: imabadboy99

Or the town refrigerator


53 posted on 05/30/2024 5:10:05 AM PDT by AppyPappy (Biden told Al Roker "America is back". Unfortunately, he meant back to the 1970's)
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To: metmom

Women don’t like it in men, either.


I noticed an interesting phenomenon when I was young and recently divorced. If I was in the company of a woman (even just a friend) other women became interested. When I played guitar at parties and clubs and a woman approached and showed interest, I’d suddenly find myself standing in the midst of a group of women seeking my attention.

It seems that many women gauge a man’s attractiveness based on whether other women are interested/involved.


54 posted on 05/30/2024 5:10:41 AM PDT by Cold_Red_Steel
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To: SeekAndFind

Considering that the sexually transmitted diseases have tripled in the past 10 years and are escalating in 2024, this article is propaganda for some reason.


55 posted on 05/30/2024 5:16:46 AM PDT by CodeToad (Rule #1: The elites want you dead.)
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To: Adder
”But both sides have a lot to unlearn like that men are wallets and for men, that women are not just bed meat. Wonder if there’s some sort of code or manual that teaches that stuff?

There is a manual , in fact it’s a manual for everything in life. It’s called the Holy Bible and every word of it is from our creator, who created this wonderful body of ours, and who knows how to keep it healthy and happy.

56 posted on 05/30/2024 5:17:00 AM PDT by Apple Pan Dowdy (... as American as Apple Pie. Normal is not coming back, but Jesus will. )
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To: imabadboy99

Not to mention that town bicycle is painted black and missing a wheel.


57 posted on 05/30/2024 5:17:31 AM PDT by CodeToad (Rule #1: The elites want you dead.)
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To: SeekAndFind

The hot/crazy spreadsheet is still relevant. There are no unicorns.


58 posted on 05/30/2024 5:18:40 AM PDT by showme_the_Glory (No more rhyming, and I mean it.........)
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To: yldstrk
What utter horse caca. No one appreciates a male whore.

A male whore is not simply the male version of a female whore.

Women are the gate-keepers of sex. Even a below-par woman can announce, at closing time at the bar, that she's available, and she'll probably get takers. An even above-average man cannot consistently do that; rather, he'll have to "jump through hoops," demonstrate a lot of fancy footwork, "game," or display other obvious markers of high worth.

As far as "appreciating" a sexually successful man - his male cohorts will admire his success and perhaps envy him, while the females will patiently wait their turn (thinking that they are somehow "special" and will be able to snag him long-term).

Women attain their peak SMV in their early 20s, and generally already have a high "notch-count" by that point in time. In contrast, their male counterparts will (generally speaking) have lower "notch-counts" (not because they are "more virtuous" or such - but rather simply because it can require herculean efforts for a man to "get lucky"). A tiny fraction of men (roughly 4.5%) are the sole beneficiaries of current unleashed sexuality.

Men "come into their own" (read: reach their peak Sexual Market Value) in their mid- to late-30s (provided they have "put in the work" and amassed resources).

The "added value" which men used to offer women - physical protection, provisioning, and parenting - are now available instead from the State (in the form of policing, physically undemanding high-tech employment, and welfare / state aid for single mothers).

It is no coincidence that 1) the Sexual Revolution / Equal Rights, and 2) The Pill / easily accessed Abortion, and 3) completely messed up dating markets, gender-switching, blatant homosexuality, etc. have all happened more or less in parallel.

Regards,

59 posted on 05/30/2024 5:18:54 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: alexander_busek

Ick yuck. Your perspective is sickening.


60 posted on 05/30/2024 5:22:39 AM PDT by yldstrk ( )
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