Posted on 05/09/2024 1:14:59 PM PDT by Morgana
A month ago, my husband and I went away for a weekend break. The hotel we were staying in had organised an Easter egg hunt for the excited junior guests, and watching the delight on one little girl's face caused a familiar, terrible cascade of emotion. A torrent of grief and regret, which I struggled to hide.
It was the little girl's age that provoked it. She was seven, as I discovered when she told the receptionist while we waited to check in behind her family.
The same age my daughter would be now — had I not had the termination which ended my chance of ever having a child.
Plenty of women terminate accidental pregnancies, of course, and either go on to regret it or never give it a second thought. But this was no accident. The pregnancy I ended happened as a result of IVF.
What's more — and worse I suppose if that were possible — is that I blame my husband for it all. It is his fault I will never have a child like that lovely little girl. How did I get myself into this situation in my life, where I am married to a man who I both love with all my heart and resent to the point of fury?
Alex and I are both 47 and met at university. We spent our 20s and early 30s working abroad, producing documentaries, and, at that point, both wanted a family. During half-hearted discussions, we agreed that we'd start one in our mid-30s and so, after my 36th birthday, we started trying.
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Sure. Fertility has not massively declined at 30. It does take a significant dip at about 32 and then another at 36. Yes it is possible of course to have a baby later....my mom was 41 when I was born....but the odds go way down. A woman who has waited until past her mid 30s to even begin trying to have kids has an excellent chance of ending up childless.
48 is amazingly late....well past the age at which most women can get pregnant. The odds after about 36 are not good. At all.
These children in the womb have souls. Often when the baby is killed, the soul of the fetus attaches to the mother and stays attached for many years.
You didn’t realize it was sarcasm when I said “someday scientists will figure out what causes pregnancy”?
The people in the story got pregnant deliberately, through IVF.
it was ALSO a story about abortion
Sorry, but your comment made no sense even as sarcasm, in this context. This couple didn’t even become pregnant through intercourse.
THE WHOLE ARTICLE WAS CONCERNING ABORTION
I still don’t see the point of your comment. your saying usually suggests that you can avoid pregnancy by avoiding sex; but I don’t see how it relates to the details of a story where two people agreed to IVF and then one reneged.
My whole comment was about my sincere hope that scientists will devote efforts to find out what causes pregnancy, and ways to avoid it!
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