> So, you believe that a self-absorbed daughter is entitled to whatever type of wedding she wants and that her father is somehow obligated to pay the bill? <
I think it’s a matter of degree. Perhaps I wasn’t clear enough about that. If a self-absorbed daughter (and this one certainly is self-absorbed) asked for something insane, then the father would have good reason to back out.
For example, suppose the daughter wanted to get married in a satanic ceremony? That’s insane. I could certainly see a father refusing to fund that.
Don’t get me wrong. The daughter is off-base here. But not so much that the father should risk losing her. Better that the father bends a little, and give her her day. And hope with time the daughter grows up.
I understand your perspective. If we are Christian, how we address a particular situation is not always black and white. What I mean is that there may be times when we are called to lay down our life (choose one way) and other times to defend our life (choose another way). Consider Paul who when being persecuted by hateful Jews, he appealed to Rome for justice rather than give in to the will of his enemies. Bottom line: Christians need to seek guidance from the Word and Holy Spirit in all things. The Word (scripture) frequently offers opposing perspective and it requires discernment and a heart tuned to the Holy Spirit to 'hear' what the Lord is saying for particular situations.
Shalom!
If this young person cannot handle so simple a negotiation as being walked down the aisle on her wedding day, then she is in no way ready or fit for marriage, and is not about to enter into a true marriage, and both her parents have a morale obligation to (1) Communicate that fact to her, and (2) If they can’t successfully communicate that fact to her to withdraw their material support for what will be a sham marriage.
This is the one issue in this young woman that we’re aware of because she graciously posted her side of things in public social media. I’m sure that the parents are aware of the other 43 issues that we’re not a party to.
He has already lost her.
Says the voice of experience.
“And hope with time the daughter grows up.“
What makes you think someone who’s bowed down to and kow towed to is ever going to grow up. But it’s moot really because this vid is an obvious fake on the face of it. They’re trying to push buttons.