[JesusIsLord]

It’s the bride’s day. She can do as she wishes.

It's the father's money. End of story.

[Leaning Right]

You don’t believe a wedding is the bride’s day? Her wishes should take precedence.

Yes, the father is usually footing the bill. And he has every right to withdraw his money for whatever reason. Or for no reason at all. But absent a huge problem, the father should be the bigger person. And I don’t see a huge problem here.

As I noted earlier, something similar happened in my family. Everyone involved got out their entrenching tools, and dug in. “It was the principle of the thing.”

Now half my family will not talk to the other half. Old folks have died while angry at each other. All over something minor. But, yeah. It was the principle of the thing.

[drwoof]

Correct. She seems to be just fine being “independent” (whatever THAT means...) and throwing social norms and traditions out the window. EXCEPT, of course, that one tradition that has the Bride’s family paying for the wedding...

[guest7]

"It’s the bride’s day. She can do as she wishes.

It's the father's money. End of story."