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The rise of AI girlfriends: Our human relationships don’t need replacing. They need redemption.
Christian Post ^ | 10/14/23 | John Stonestreet, G. Shane Morris

Posted on 10/14/2023 4:51:02 PM PDT by SeekAndFind

One of the most telling statistics from the General Social Survey, is that Americans are having less sex now than they did in 1980s and 1990s.

Young men especially have become less sexually active. Since 2008, the share of men under 30 reporting no sex at all has nearly tripled.

This stat is one of the clearest signs of what has turned into a counterintuitive but reliable pattern. The more “liberated” and “progressive” our culture becomes, the less interested in or capable of finding human partners we become.

I say, “human partners,” because the decline of sex and the rise of high-tech sex alternatives have gone hand-in-hand. Online pornography use, for instance, has become ubiquitous. The Institute for Family Studies reported in 2022 that a majority of men ages 30-49 say they’ve watched pornography in the past month. And given the connection between porn and male sexual dysfunctions, this becomes a self-perpetuating cycle.

Now, another emerging alternative to real women will likely draw even more men into unreality. British freelance writer Freya India recently highlighted the phenomenon of AI girlfriends, describing an array of new apps like Replika, Intimate, and Dream Girl Builder, which offer men the chance to craft “flawless” digital partners.

These apps promise AI-airbrushed pornography. Users customize body type, face shape, and hair color to “create their dream companion,” that will “exceed [their] wildest desires,” and can join them on “hyper-realistic voice calls.”

These apps offer not only simulated sex, but also the promise of companionship and emotional attention. As India writes:

Eva AI, for example, not only lets you choose the perfect face and body but customise the perfect personality, offering options like “hot, funny, bold”, “shy, modest, considerate” and “smart, strict, rational”. Create a girlfriend who is judgement-free! Who lets you hang out with your buddies without drama! Who laughs at all your jokes! “Control it all the way you want to,” promises Eva AI. Design a girl who is “always on your side”, says Replika.

That last app has been downloaded more than 20 million times, and the industry seems poised to boom, with NBC reporting that “Ads for AI sex workers are flooding Instagram and TikTok.”

This isn’t an expansion of sexual and romantic freedom or a tool that empowers people to make human connections. Rather, it is a retreat from human connection, a turning away from the very thing for which we are biologically, socially, and emotionally wired.

And yet this has always been the end of the road we started on long ago, when we mixed a commitment to hyper-individualism with technology. As Sherry Turkle observed over a decade ago in her book, Alone Together, the process started with living our lives on the internet. Soon we began exploring alternative identities through social media. We crafted these identities and connections to perfection, pruning our “friends lists” to include only those people who pleased us. Before long, we came to prefer these digital relationships on our terms to the messy and often frustrating demands of in-person relationships.

Now we have reached the stage at which many would rather cut out humans altogether, opting instead for “drama-free” companions who never have bad days, never grow old, always laugh at our jokes, never ask anything of us, and can be simply “paused” if it suits us. And AI technology is here to fill that demand.

What’s next? C.S. Lewis was among many science-fiction authors to speculate. In That Hideous Strength, the last book of his Space Trilogy, he describes corrupted inhabitants of the Moon who do not sleep with each other when they marry, but “each lies with a cunningly fashioned image of the other, made to move and to be warm by devilish arts, for real flesh will not please them, they are so dainty … in their dreams of lust.” Perhaps AI girlfriends will eventually become robotic girlfriends, deceiving users into truly giving up on human relationships.

But what insanity! We were never made for such nightmares. We were created with bodies for embodied relationships — among them the one-flesh union of marriage, through which God gives children. And at the heart of Christianity is the message that God values our embodied natures so highly that, in Christ, He assumed that nature in order to save us. Our human relationships don’t need replacing. They need redemption.

As our culture’s retreat from humanity reaches new levels of strangeness, the task of the Church may increasingly be to call our neighbors back to being human. Few would have expected Christians to get a reputation for being the “pro-sex people,” but if falling in love with a computer is the alternative, we may be well on our way.


Originally published at BreakPoint.

John Stonestreet serves as president of the Colson Center for Christian Worldview. He’s a sought-after author and speaker on areas of faith and culture, theology, worldview, education and apologetics.


Shane Morris is a senior writer at the Colson Center, where he has been the resident Calvinist and millennial, home-school grad since 2010, and an intern under Chuck Colson. He writes BreakPoint commentaries and columns. Shane has also written for The Federalist, The Christian Post, and Summit Ministries, and he blogs regularly for Patheos Evangelical as Troubler of Israel.


TOPICS: Computers/Internet; Society
KEYWORDS: ai; girlfriends; relationship
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To: SeekAndFind

The fact is, most men would find “AI girlfriends” completely unappealing, if the majority of young women today were not so completely unappealing themselves.


21 posted on 10/14/2023 6:36:02 PM PDT by Boogieman
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To: DaveyB
perhaps when the ashes of our fall have cleared the future will realize that feminism was the parasite that killed the host.

Don't be surprised if we're replaced by Muslims.

22 posted on 10/14/2023 6:39:31 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: alternatives?

Yep, and it’s not like this trend is anything new. I noticed it and started talking about it over 15 year ago. Got a lot of crap for speaking about it from “conservatives” who refused to acknowledge reality.


23 posted on 10/14/2023 6:39:46 PM PDT by Boogieman
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To: Secret Agent Man
Making the woman your purpose may be a mistake, but making a family your purpose has traditionally been the normal choice that most men have made throughout history, to great effect. And you can't do that if women are not amenable.
24 posted on 10/14/2023 6:41:30 PM PDT by Boogieman
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To: Salamander
I’m down for a boyfriend but distance is an issue.

Don't worry; I have a very long penis. When I lay it on a map, it can reach from Georgia to Montana.

25 posted on 10/14/2023 6:45:04 PM PDT by Lazamataz (The firearms I own today, are the firearms I will die with. How I die will be up to them.)
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To: Boogieman

Yep. Modern women destroy families. Every incentive for them to leave for any reason and get cash and prizes on the way out. No fault divorce and eternal alimony is insanity.


26 posted on 10/14/2023 6:46:04 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: Lazamataz



27 posted on 10/14/2023 6:56:32 PM PDT by Songcraft
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To: Songcraft

I use a 1500 inch computer monitor, so your point is lost on me.

(Lol)


28 posted on 10/14/2023 6:59:25 PM PDT by Lazamataz (The firearms I own today, are the firearms I will die with. How I die will be up to them.)
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To: Lazamataz

:-)



(Rumor has it that Mooch Obama goes from Shenyang to Dunhuang on the map of China, so she might give you a run for your money.)



29 posted on 10/14/2023 7:13:57 PM PDT by Songcraft
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To: Salamander

What’s a few thousand miles between FRiends?


30 posted on 10/14/2023 7:14:26 PM PDT by null and void (I am fine with liberal cities eating the results of their recipes. H/T ConservativeMind)
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To: Jonty30

Yeah no.

To quote Mac Davis, don’t give me no plastic saddle, I wanna feel real leather when I ride.


31 posted on 10/14/2023 7:15:02 PM PDT by Salamander (Please visit my profile page help save my beloved dog's life. https://www.givesendgo.com/G2FUF.)
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To: null and void

Inconvenient as hell?

:D


32 posted on 10/14/2023 7:18:48 PM PDT by Salamander (Please visit my profile page help save my beloved dog's life. https://www.givesendgo.com/G2FUF.)
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To: drSteve78

Too uncomfortable in general society for that.


33 posted on 10/14/2023 7:20:27 PM PDT by Salamander (Please visit my profile page help save my beloved dog's life. https://www.givesendgo.com/G2FUF.)
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To: Salamander

Yeah. That.


34 posted on 10/14/2023 7:21:20 PM PDT by null and void (I am fine with liberal cities eating the results of their recipes. H/T ConservativeMind)
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To: SeekAndFind

“Is that what you want?”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wtfjzmYZvTw


35 posted on 10/14/2023 7:21:37 PM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: Secret Agent Man
No fault divorce and eternal alimony is insanity.


36 posted on 10/14/2023 7:24:18 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: null and void

:(


37 posted on 10/14/2023 7:24:43 PM PDT by Salamander (Please visit my profile page help save my beloved dog's life. https://www.givesendgo.com/G2FUF.)
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To: MinorityRepublican

Yep

More men are waking up every day and deciding not to play.


38 posted on 10/14/2023 7:34:52 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: Salamander

I’m not personally expecting to make it a sex-bot, but simply as an assistant that you see on SF shows, where it takes the form of a hologram and it helps you with stuff.


39 posted on 10/14/2023 8:20:04 PM PDT by Jonty30 (It never rains in sunny Alberta. It always rains in rainy Alberta.)
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To: SeekAndFind
"These apps promise AI-airbrushed pornography. Users customize body type, face shape, and hair color to 'create their dream companion,' that will 'exceed [their] wildest desires,' and can join them on 'hyper-realistic voice calls.'"

QUAID: Sleazy...and demure.
DR. LULL: Forty-one A, Ernie.
ERNIE: Boy, is he gonna have a wild time. Won't wanna come back. - Total Recall (1990)
40 posted on 10/14/2023 8:58:55 PM PDT by clearcarbon (Fraudulent elections have consequences.)
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