DEAR JANE: I dumped my husband to marry again - but I still love the man I left and it's torture!

Daily Mail UK ^ | 2/5/23 | Dear Jane

[DallasBiff]

Dear Jane,

I left my husband four years ago when I met the new love of my life who I am now married to, but every day I realize what a terrible mistake I made, and I would do anything to turn back the clock.

I am not exactly unhappily married, but I know this isn't what marriage should be, and I am burning with regret over leaving my former husband, who was - I now know - the true great love of my life. He is with someone else now, and my current husband would be devastated if he knew how I felt, so I am carrying this alone.

Dear Regretful,

First of all, let me start by saying that I am sorry, truly, for the pain you are in. As a dyed-in-the-wool romantic, who grew up watching Hollywood movies and reading endless romance novels, the phrase that jumps out at me in your letter is this: 'I know this isn't what marriage should be.'

I have been thinking about our expectations around romance, and how horribly unprepared we are for the institution of marriage.

[RoosterRedux]

Genesis 6, the Feminist Version!

[sauropod]

Pain is real.

[DoodleBob]

I was put off by...

I am sorry, truly, for the pain you are in.

Wait....what? Who's the victim here?

[verum ago]

The letter sounds like some fledgling drama student writing a short story, hoping it is turned into a movie (for the umpty third time)

Given how they always have something ‘juicy’ to headline with, these “Dear Abby” type columns must either attract a sufficiently huge number of submissions in order for the columnist to high-grade them each time, or else they just make stuff up.

Given how well crafted some of the longer submissions are, I strongly suspect the “make stuff up” option, which is fitting- if we’re being honest, these columns are ultimately entertainment for most.

It’s perfect, really- even if you were to call out a columnist for having submissions in their own writing style, they could just say they rewrite them for clarity and/or to help mask the submitter’s writing style (for privacy).

[Reno89519]

Well, if she is a porn star or foreign model, she might look up Trump.

[Jamestown1630]

I’m not exactly sure what your response means.

But I think it’s always a good, Christian response to feel sorry for someone who has made a huge mistake. (’But for the grace of God...’)

Someday you will make one - if you haven’t made numerous ones already.

[rod5591]

women like this are truly disgusting

[dfwgator]

Low blow, dude.

[maddog55]

All made up crap, just like scripted reality shows.

[hecticskeptic]

... and a Bebot from Mindanao
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I know where Mindanao is... but what’s a Bebot?

[Jonty30]

However, it rarely turns out well from them. A smart man would know that whatever she did to her previous relationship, she will do to him unless she believes that he is the best that she can get.

[dfwgator]

but what’s a Bebot?

A robot beeber?

[Jamestown1630]

Well, made-up or not, the stories usually depict actual events that have happened to countless people, throughout human history.

They’re useful insofar as the advice is sound and wise.

[CatHerd]

Could be. Question is: can it be stuned?

[seabeeson]

Sounds familiar. Ex-wife contacted me 13 years after the fact to find out how I and my present wife were doing. Told her we are fine. That was 17 years ago. I knew the ex was screwing up her life when she divorced me, and I was glad to get out of the relationship.

[Babba Gi]

The grass is always greener, but it still has to be mowed.

[Jamestown1630]

The blows will get lower and lower. It’s 2015-2016/Conservatives eating their own all over again, here at ol’ FreeRepublic.

[dfwgator]

I am neutral as of now between DeSantis and Trump, I want both of them in as strong a position as possible, so I can have a frickin’ choice for once.

[stevio]

LOL yea, that should be the reply.

[Jamestown1630]

That’s a good approach.