I watched this video, and there is no context. None. It is a three minute snippet of video.
We have little idea what went on in the five minutes, hours, or days leading up to this video with respect to their interactions. But we hear plenty of opinion from “her family” and “her friends” that he was abusive. Gee. Really. That sounds completely definitive to me.
I don’t know Steven Crowder personally, I know nothing about him apart from listening to him which I enjoy.
But I know that 99% of the people with an opinion on this, including me, would be considered beasts or jerks if someone were allowed to pluck 3 min of video from any point in our private lives, which something like a surveillance system such as ring may allow you to do.
I have had plenty of times I wish I hadn’t said something or acted a certain way because it was clearly wrong and even disrespectful. If I have the opportunity, I alway try to make a real, meaningful, and respectful apology. Always.
But the stream of life moves fast, and sometimes that opportunity does not present itself. And you can only regret and vow to do better in the future.
In this case, people see him speaking (with no context) in a disrespectful manner to a 8 months pregnant woman. Sure. No man should ever speak disrespectfully to a woman, much less a visibly preganant one.
But it isn’t as if a woman (especially an 8 months pregnant woman) never said mean or disrepectful things to a man, or was verbally abusive to a man.
Emotional abuse goes both ways, and just because someone is the subject of what they term “emotional abuse” in a chosen 3 minute video, does not mean she isn’t guilty of inflicting it as well. His comment about having “a boot on his neck” in that marriage may have meaning. But we don’t see that, do we. All we see is a healthy man inflicting undeserved emotional abuse on a vulnerable pregnant woman.
She is eight months pregnant, but I get the distinct impression she isn’t a saint either. They were a married couple, and marriage is not always a bed of roses without thorns.
And a three minute clip chosen by someone to make a point shouldn’t always define someone without proper context.
Especially in a marital spat.
But I know that 99% of the people with an opinion on this, including me, would be considered beasts or jerks if someone were allowed to pluck 3 min of video from any point in our private lives, which something like a surveillance system such as ring may allow you to do.
+1
Great post! Thanks for taking the time to write it.
"All we see is a healthy man inflicting undeserved emotional abuse on a vulnerable pregnant woman."
See my post #113 above. He's not healthy. That ring camera video was taken not long before he went into surgery for a sunken chest. Her family is downplaying that surgery as "elective."
When I first watched the ring camera video, my only thought was that he's a creep.
Now, with this new piece of information, the video looks and sounds a bit different - like a man who's worried and insecure about an upcoming surgery involving two rods inserted into his chest.
I'm not excusing the guy. He shouldn't have spoken to his pregnant wife that way. He sounds controlling. Then again, nothing he says in that video makes sense. Did he seriously think she should walk the dogs and give them medicine? Or, was he sarcastically trying to make a point? Why do they have only one car? Is he controlling her, or is the other car in the shop? He said, "The other man you see, the mother comes back." What did that mean? Are the subtitles wrong?
I'm not a Crowder fan. But, the wife's family's downplaying of his surgery makes me question their side of the story. Whatever happened here, these two are better off apart.