Most young men are single. Most young women are not.

The Hill ^ | February 23, 2023 | Daniel De Vise

[C19fan]

More than 60 percent of young men are single, nearly twice the rate of unattached young women, signaling a larger breakdown in the social, romantic and sexual life of the American male.

Men in their 20s are more likely than women in their 20s to be romantically uninvolved, sexually dormant, friendless and lonely. They stand at the vanguard of an epidemic of declining marriage, sexuality and relationships that afflicts all of young America.

[C19fan]

There are two possibilities about how twice as many men are incels than women. The first is 20s women dating and marrying uo the socioeconomic ladder with older men. The other is de facto polygamy where a top 10% man is able to be involved with several women. In the past, a large population of unattached men would mean war and strife. But it appears our version of soma, for example, marijuana, ubiquitous pornography, and video games will keep the lonely, and hopeless men in line.

[Brilliant]

So who are they married to if the men are single?

[Red Badger]

Women marry UP.
Men marry DOWN........................

[nickcarraway]

If a young woman is hooking up with a man or men, but they aren’t dating, isn’t she still single?

[nickcarraway]

I don’t know if I believe incels exist. If you don’t want to be celibate, isn’t calling yourself a bad strategy?

[eclectic]

Between themselves.

[Dutch Boy]

Older men that have already proven they can provide whatever it is they are looking for. Younger men, at least many of the ones I have seen lately, are too self absorbed to have a relationship. Yesterday doesn’t exist and tomorrow isn’t catching there attention.

[Jess Kitting]

How do they define "single"?

If you're not in a "relationship," are you single?

That could be anything: married, living together, dating.

[PGR88]

More than 60 percent of young men are single, nearly twice the rate of unattached young women,

This comment makes no sense.

while actual women:men in US population is about 51:49, for simple analysis, we can say its 50:50. The question then is - who are all these young women attached to, if not to young men? Older men? Are they Lesbians? their pets?

the article doesn't help explain it either, only offering other random, disconnected statistics to demonstrate the "crisis."

This is standard for American journalism today.

[Boogieman]

“signaling a larger breakdown in the social, romantic and sexual life of the American male”

No, it signals that young ladies nowadays are, by and large, skanks who would rather be just a “side piece” for one of the top tier of attractive men, than date someone who is actually in their league.

[ConservativeMind]

Christian men and women should be celibate, unless married.

[Boogieman]

Article doesn’t say they are “married”, just not single. In other words, they are sleeping with men, but probably men who are sleeping with multiple partners.

[MeganC]

Interesting article. I married at 18 to a man who was 44 because I was ready to be a wife and mom and no one my age was ready for that.

Going to college was not an option for me and neither was sleeping around.

[ClearCase_guy]

I would be very interested in a solid historical study of this sort of thing.

In the past, a man would marry a woman, she might have a child or two, then die in childbirth. Not uncommon. The man would marry again. Might happen again. He might marry a third time. All the fairy tales with Stepmothers in them were there for a reason. Men often went through more than one wife. The flip-side of that is that Joe has three wives, and Sam never gets even one.

Also, a lot of men simply went seeking their fortune — joined the army for life, panned for gold in the west, logged trees in the great north woods, sailed away seeking whales in the South Pacific. Dangerous work and women didn’t tag along.

I can think of many reasons why, in the past, many men just never became attached to a woman. But by the same token, the women were more likely to become attached.

The reasons today may be different, but I’m not sure the phenomenon is entirely new.

[MtnClimber]

So who are they married to if the men are single?

Sound the alarm. Some young men must have more than one young woman that they are married to.

[Boogieman]

It does make sense when you realize that the top tier of attractive men generally are “dating” multiple women nowadays, and the women seem to prefer that to the alternative, dating just one man who is not quite as attractive.

[joshua c]

women lie about being single

[Boogieman]

“Also, a lot of men simply went seeking their fortune...”

Still do, just now instead of going across the world, they log into “World of Warcraft” or “Call of Duty” and seek it there.

[dfwgator]

A guy has a better shot at getting a women if she thinks he’s already attached.

If a guy isn’t currently in a relationship, she will wonder what’s wrong with him.

[heavy metal]

can’t blame them...

the transmission threw everything in reverse...