That being said, in terms of combat there are tremendous physical pressures that are put on fighter pilots in extreme conditions and women are simply not physically as strong as men to handle those conditions. But could a woman fly a bomber? Sure, why not.
I am also female and just retired from a job in IT. In my 22 yrs of IT being a career, which I took VERY seriously, I can probably only name THREE good women IT workers but I can name many, many BAD ones. Most of the true wizards were male. The standard male IT worker I would say would be mediocre.
The vast majority of women IT workers were OBVIOUSLY affirmative action hires. And it showed!