Posted on 01/05/2023 8:38:18 PM PST by grundle
Julia Naftulin writes Insider's dating, sex, and relationships advice column Doing It Right.Julia Naftulin
My ex and I were high school sweethearts. We dated for 10 years, moved to two cities together, and talked about marriage.
In August 2021, my ex suddenly said he had to end the relationship to be alone. He said he didn't know if he could ever get married.
A year and a half later, I've learned how to practice self-compassion, ask for help, and find gratitude after grief.
When my ex-boyfriend sat me down to break up with me in August 2021, I didn't realize it was happening. He had to sit me down again the next day to make sure I understood. He needed to move on, alone, without me.
We dated for 10 years, starting during our junior year of high school. Throughout that time, we talked about marriage and moved to two different cities together. Sure, the pandemic put a strain on our relationship, but I thought it was par for the course. I imagined we could get through anything together because I loved him, our love, and the memories we shared. I loved how our high school friendship became so much more, how we grew up together, and how he felt like the first man who really wanted to know me. For him, I learned, that wasn't enough.
For a few months, I could barely eat or go a day without crying. It felt like my world had collapsed and I was left alone to figure out what to do with the rubble.
A year and a half later, after bouts of extreme sadness, anger, and confusion, I've found closure. It's something an earlier version of myself couldn't have imagined.
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Exactly. My favorite axiom.
missed her biological window. Adopt some cats.
I dunno if a teenager sees things quite like that, but in retrospect, that is what he got.
“missed her biological window. Adopt some cats.”
Nah, from the time lapse indicated, she is late twenties, just about becoming old enough to be interesting as a woman.
Another guy will come along, she does need to keep an eye on her weight, from the picture.
probably around two percent of this is true
Or he finally grew up and found out she was just crazy. Cause when it comes right down to it...they’re all crazy...just differently on the logarithmic scale
Girls that wait for marriage. They find out the character of the man pretty quickly. They have a good conscience and spare themselves years of neurotic merry-go-round drama. The worldlings mock Christians and can’t figure out why themselves feel miserable and used.
In other words she’s found the strength of box wine and Netflix
move on....dump his sorry arse and find someone who is serious about marriage, family....
She looks like tons of fun!
That is absolutely right!
Is that what they’re calling it now?
And she writes the Insider’s dating advice column? I guess her advice is “do the opposite of what I did.”
This woman was a fool, and we’re I her friend, I would have told her so, many years before TEN.
We have a family member who met her boyfriend at age 14 ...now in their mid-twenties living together.....or better said playing house.
Without Jesus at the heart of a relationship all is for naught.
It wasn’t free. Theres nothing free for men when it comes to dating and courting women. Only women think its free for men.
And if she was the one who wanted to end it and he didn’t, the women here would be totally supportive of her and the guy just needs to suck it up and move on. There would be tue same total support for herno matter what, and the guy is the ahole no matter what.
Thanks for proving me right ladies.
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