None of the rest of you better bail on me.
F### em. Sounds like he was never your friend anyway.
At a particularly low point in my life 20 years ago, my beloved father told me that my big problem was associating with people socially who constantly criticized me, put my family down, and took monetary advantage of my goodwill. His very succinct advice was: “Get rid of those people, and do it now!” The best advice I ever received and my life changed dramatically for the better; sometimes we can’t see the forest for the trees even when it blocks our path.
Losing a spouse can change a person drastically.
It did my dad when my mom died in 1987.
It’s possible your “exfriend” may blame God for the loss of his wife......and by extension you as well.
A friend in my men’s church group shared a similar story recently.
Someone he knew that was a nonbeliever lost a family member and lashed out at my friend almost immediately saying “where is YOUR God now?”
Sometimes all we CAN do is pray for them.
Laz,
I tend to think he’ll be back....send him Holiday e-amils to keep the channels open. Sounds like his go to gal isn’t exactly the best thing to come his way but if he’s lonely sometimes anyone can temporarily fill that need.
Keep th faith and remember even Jesus lost some of his good friends so he knows what you feel.
We love ya, Laz.
We have your back.
Laz, you creep, I’m with you all the way. I do think we need to meetup more often.
The Vid gave him long haul sickness and he has no coping mechanism. He’ll come around.
We’re your friends. And unfortunately, we know exactly what you’re going through right now.
Now, can you PLEASE put me on your ping list already?
Time changes minds and appearance, sometimes dramatically. I had a college friend that was a full scholarship distance runner, full-time business major. I was a part-time agriculture major (was farming while going to school). He was big city Chicago suburb, I was rural cornbelt. Yet we were both mildly conservative politically, and while we went bars and parties, we were not interested in ever getting drunk. After I quit school entirely because the growing farm, we went our ways.
Looked him up online last August. Called him and found we are both conservative more than ever. Nice long chat. It’s like he said, “some people say not to talk about politics or religion, in order to get along. I put it out there because if you don’t think like me in those very important areas what’s the point in pretending we are good friends?”
I mentioned a Chicago area girl he knew, that looked much like the chick on the tv show Mod Squad, very very pretty. They were friends but nothing more. I tried to become friends with her, but wasn’t succeeding. Then ruled that out, since I figured she was out of my league. Plus, city girls at college seemed turned off by the thought of dating a farmer.
He remembered her name, so I looked her up, and saw a lot of pics on her father’s obit. It appeared that by the time she reached 45, you would have never guessed she was that beautiful college girl.
What happened to me is ironic, seeing I ended up marrying a beautiful city girl (that resembles the actress Jennifer O’Neill), but one that 44 yrs later still fits into her wedding dress. Long hair was the fashion in the 60s and 70s. Her hair was probably 18” long then. Now it’s close to 3 feet long.
God is good.
I think you called it. Amy chick. Misery loves company and evil will always find a way to corrupt others.
Ain’t gonna Bail Laz...
This Is a Family of FRiends.
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I had an old High school buddy
Who razed me about Minutemen.
Adios Muchacho.
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You’re good.
Leftists are weird. Wife’s uncle abandoned a bunch of us over nothing, and believe me, he needs us a lot more than we need him. But we’d take him back. We’re better people. It’s up to him.
We should find an excuse to get together this year, since our road trip we didn’t make last year to pee on the Guidestones has become moot. I should be freed up quite a bit come Spring.
Picture of Joyce...??
No worries Laz (unless I meet a Wicca witch).
Im so sorry. I know it hurts dreadfully. We’ve had a family member do this recently. Apparently this is becoming really common in families and friendships. It really hurts even if you realize its just another sign of our dysfunctional culture.
Is it possible that You might have a chance now with Joyce?
Doesn’t sound like you two have that much in common.
Respect the dead (who’ve ghosted you), and, move on.
💞
LOL!!! It never even crossed my mind!
I have two similar situations with decades old college friends. One was resolved by my friend’s death and the other lingers.
Both were aware and surprised and perhaps mystified by my presence on Free Republic and active conservative politics.
In both instances the wife/ex-wife was problematic. One wife is a unionized state employ RN and came hostilely out of the left wing closet. The other is a unionized left wing English Teacher.