Posted on 12/28/2022 6:43:39 AM PST by karpov
Parents who give their grown children a gym membership at Christmas risk a recriminatory, What are you saying, Mom? So does surprising them with offers to pay for dating coaches and matchmakers.
Two years ago, Kelli Kaku’s mother bought her the $797 online course, “Fall in Love by Christmas.” Ms. Kaku, 34 years old, was blindsided.
“I was like, ‘I’m trying!’ ” said Ms. Kaku, a seventh-grade teacher who had moved back home to Fresno, Calif., at the time. She agreed to the course, mostly because she didn’t want to waste her mom’s money.
Dating coaches say pandemic lockdowns and their long aftermath have raised parent worries that their grown children will stay single forever. That has led to a surge of interest from mothers and fathers splurging on premium dating-app subscriptions, relationship classes and one-on-one sessions with dating experts for their children, said relationship psychologist and dating coach Christie Kederian.
“Know if someone is the one for you in 5 dates!” according to an online advertisement for Dr. Kederian’s services. She consulted with Ms. Kaku and her advice was, first, to talk with her mother about maintaining personal boundaries, and, second, be more open-minded about potential partners.
A few months later, Ms. Kaku decided to take a chance on a Bumble profile she had previously passed over. It turned out to be a great match. Nobody is happier about the pair’s coming wedding than Ms. Kaku’s mother, who said she told her daughter, “See, it was totally worth the money.”
About a third of daters lean on their families for relationship advice, according to a survey of 5,000 adults conducted by dating company Match. Still, Stef Safran, a dating coach and matchmaker in Chicago, cautioned that parents need to let the dater take the lead.
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that was a long time ago! marry for love
A few tweaks and it would read like a Babylon Bee article.
Good grief...what did this woman expect? SHE'S LIVING IN HER PARENT'S HOUSE AT THE AGE OF 34!
> “that was a long time ago! marry for love”
And divorce for hate.
It wasn’t so long ago. Only 3 generations versus thousands upon thousands of years.
Marriage is no longer marriage.
It became a love-hate farce for more than 50%.
Well said.
A subtle yet effect strategy. When I left home (two weeks after turning 18), Dad immediately turned my room into his tool and fishing gear cave. Huge new rolling tool box, dozens of fishing rods, tackle boxes, etc. I could sleep there when visiting, but it wasn’t my room. Was 100% “OK” with it and the message it sent.
This is a good idea - time for grandparents to get involved too..
Yep, get the heck out of the house.
Dating coaches and matchmakers aka pimps.
They "launched" pretty quickly after that!
I'm actually proud of the both of them, today they both have careers and have purchased their own homes. They are completely on their own financially. But I'm pretty sure that if my wife and I did not move, one or two of them would have come back to live with us once their apartment lease was up.
Grown children living with their parents is rarely a good thing. For example, when they lived with us, every flat tire on their car was an emergency that we had to deal with. It is so easy to rely on parents when you are living under their roof. When you are truly on your own, that is when you really learn to deal with life situations that come up.
As far as parents hiring dating coaches for their grown children, that's got to be demeaning and patronizing to them.
Well at least she'll always have her cats...and Kwaanza.
I feel bad for women in that situation however. When they are still unmarried in their mid 30s - the prospects aren't very good for them. It's different for the men. Mid 30s is probably the prime time for a man to settle down with a wife - but she is likely to be 10 years younger.
She was still living with her parents because she went to school for 6 years(BA & MS) to become a teacher. A part time job that does not pay that well.
But it used to be folks lived most of their lives in the same place, and so, you had to make do with what was available, and people were happy just to find somebody who was “good enough”. Now of course people have this “there are a lot of fish in the sea” attitude, and they think if their mate isn’t perfect they can always find somebody better.
Great advice.
“I was like, ‘I’m trying!’ ” said Ms. Kaku, a seventh-grade teacher who had moved back home to Fresno, Calif., at the time.
She's a strong independent woman. She does not need a man.
It is true. The late modernism, consumerist, media-driven, hyper-connected milieu today has heightened expectations to an unrealistic degree.
I don't. Many of them (not all) had fun with Alpha Males in their 20s. Now they are older. And they are past their prime. They expect some poor guy to wife them up.
And that includes baggage (some of them have children so why should the guy have to be expected to raise them if they are not his blood?)
Yep. Our birth rate will continue to drop and it will settle at around 1.0 per woman.
Title 42 law does not matter. Our politicians will make sure our borders are wide open. We need the immigrants to keep our economic system from falling apart. Our natives are not reproducing.
For guys, it’s not difficult if you’re willing to look outside of the US (which only makes sense anyway). I know one guy who recently posted himself looking for a gal in the Philippines and got 7,000 hits...so options do exist.
For girls, much tougher, they need to be able to reset their values from that of our man-hating culture, and that’s tough, since they’ve been immersed in it all of their lives.
“ co-starring the greatest quarterback in NFL history,”
I didn’t know Brock Purdy was in a movie?
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