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Meddling Parents Hire Dating Coaches for Their Grown Children
Wall Street Journal ^ | December 23, 2022 | Rachel Wolfe

Posted on 12/28/2022 6:43:39 AM PST by karpov

Parents who give their grown children a gym membership at Christmas risk a recriminatory, What are you saying, Mom? So does surprising them with offers to pay for dating coaches and matchmakers.

Two years ago, Kelli Kaku’s mother bought her the $797 online course, “Fall in Love by Christmas.” Ms. Kaku, 34 years old, was blindsided.

“I was like, ‘I’m trying!’ ” said Ms. Kaku, a seventh-grade teacher who had moved back home to Fresno, Calif., at the time. She agreed to the course, mostly because she didn’t want to waste her mom’s money.

Dating coaches say pandemic lockdowns and their long aftermath have raised parent worries that their grown children will stay single forever. That has led to a surge of interest from mothers and fathers splurging on premium dating-app subscriptions, relationship classes and one-on-one sessions with dating experts for their children, said relationship psychologist and dating coach Christie Kederian.

“Know if someone is the one for you in 5 dates!” according to an online advertisement for Dr. Kederian’s services. She consulted with Ms. Kaku and her advice was, first, to talk with her mother about maintaining personal boundaries, and, second, be more open-minded about potential partners.

A few months later, Ms. Kaku decided to take a chance on a Bumble profile she had previously passed over. It turned out to be a great match. Nobody is happier about the pair’s coming wedding than Ms. Kaku’s mother, who said she told her daughter, “See, it was totally worth the money.”

About a third of daters lean on their families for relationship advice, according to a survey of 5,000 adults conducted by dating company Match. Still, Stef Safran, a dating coach and matchmaker in Chicago, cautioned that parents need to let the dater take the lead.

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Full article. My parents helped me meet my wife, who was helped by her sister. Twenty-two years later we are happily married with three children. There's no shame in getting help from family, although of course if the adult child wants to be left alone, they should be.
1 posted on 12/28/2022 6:43:39 AM PST by karpov
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2 posted on 12/28/2022 6:45:20 AM PST by nascarnation
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Wait. I think I saw that movie. “Failure To Launch”, co-starring the greatest quarterback in NFL history, Terry Bradshaw. IIRC, the parent’s plan didn’t work too well there, either.


3 posted on 12/28/2022 6:45:35 AM PST by LouAvul (Daniel 4:17: "..the most High ruleth in the kingdom of men, and giveth it to whomsoever he will.." )
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To: karpov

In the movie “Failure to Launch”, Terry Bradshaw turned his son’s room into his naked room.

It brought closure to the idea of moving back home.


4 posted on 12/28/2022 6:46:54 AM PST by DannyTN
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The real problem here is that most of these Snowflakes and Zeros have fallen in love with their cellphones.


5 posted on 12/28/2022 6:47:42 AM PST by FlingWingFlyer (Hey Amerika! The whole world is watching and laughing their asses off. )
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the greatest quarterback in NFL history, Terry Bradshaw.

You are joking, right? He wasn't even the greatest quarterback of his era.
6 posted on 12/28/2022 6:47:50 AM PST by Dr. Sivana (But yet the Son of man, when he cometh, shall he find, think you, faith on earth? (Luke 18:8))
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A 34 year old teacher, living at home with her parents, isn’t going to get married. It’s too late. She’s hit the wall. Sorry.


7 posted on 12/28/2022 6:49:56 AM PST by ClearCase_guy (No one is as asleep as the "woke". They define the term "useful idiot".)
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I’m the contrarian in this.

Throughout history, parental consent has been required before daughters could marry.

Today, the divorce rate is 50% plus.

No further argument needed.


8 posted on 12/28/2022 6:51:20 AM PST by Hostage (Article V)
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The chances are lower at 34 than 24, but they are not zero. Did you read the article?

‘A few months later, Ms. Kaku decided to take a chance on a Bumble profile she had previously passed over. It turned out to be a great match. Nobody is happier about the pair’s coming wedding than Ms. Kaku’s mother, who said she told her daughter, “See, it was totally worth the money.”’


9 posted on 12/28/2022 6:51:24 AM PST by karpov
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Meddling? maybe. Desperate? definitely.

These parents are desperate to have their now-adult children get married so the parents can continue to ignore how failed parents, misandry, anti-family courts, government intrusion, government debt, inflation, etc. have ruined the institution of marriage.

10 posted on 12/28/2022 6:52:31 AM PST by T.B. Yoits
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Well if the boys dont know what a woman is, yes I guess they do need help ...


11 posted on 12/28/2022 6:54:18 AM PST by Tennessee Nana
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“the greatest quarterback in NFL history”

Was Tom Brady in this movie?


12 posted on 12/28/2022 6:55:41 AM PST by woodbutcher1963
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The helicopter moms of the 90's are now seeing their kids incapable of managing direct social contact in lieu of their fantasy world of social media online "friends".

Who would have guessed this would happen?????

13 posted on 12/28/2022 6:57:48 AM PST by pfflier
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To: woodbutcher1963

Brett Favruh was in There’s Something About Mary.


14 posted on 12/28/2022 6:57:55 AM PST by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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Tom Brady, Joe Montana, Dan Marino, John Elway, Peyton Manning, Brett Favre, and others would like a word with you...


15 posted on 12/28/2022 7:01:44 AM PST by EEGator
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Brett Favre will end his career with a 1.57 TD/Int Ratio.

FYI:

Aaron Rodgers, Packers

Career touchdown-to-interception ratio: 4.80 (first all-time).


16 posted on 12/28/2022 7:03:41 AM PST by woodbutcher1963
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To: ClearCase_guy

My daughter is 33 and just got married. She had to wade through several losers.


17 posted on 12/28/2022 7:05:54 AM PST by crusty old prospector
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To: karpov

On dating apps women tend to get their pick of the litter, while most men usually get passed over, ghosted, trannies, or absolute nutjobs; I speak from experience in this. I tried online dating on and off from about 2 1/2 years before I decided to walk away and work on myself.

Any advice I could give to a man pondering this path, work on your own happiness, trying to find someone when you’re already unhappy is its own hell. And stay away from the porn.


18 posted on 12/28/2022 7:06:09 AM PST by Antihero101607
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Have you checked the stock of young women out there today?
Young men don't want to marry that brainwashed, crazy shit!

19 posted on 12/28/2022 7:07:11 AM PST by Tommy Revolts
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My daughter (33) and son (31) both were married within the last two months. Both met their spouses through dating apps.


20 posted on 12/28/2022 7:08:20 AM PST by crusty old prospector
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