See post 97 on women confusing the map with the territory.
Your descriptions are accurate in general—but that is not “actionable intelligence” in military terms.
Women need to be led—and any man can lead them.
Women are falling into the bad patterns you describe because many men have not been trained on leadership—so most women drift into the default mode you described.
The "actionable intelligence" (i.e., concrete advice) comes later - much later. First, the young men have to be themselves "deprogrammed" ("Red-Pilled").
They have to be made to understand that, in today's dating market, saying, e.g., "That's a lovely dress you're wearing, Mrs. Cleaver," will mark you - not as thoughtful, considerate, polite - but as hopelessly behind the times.
Deprogramming a young "Blue-Pilled" man will require just as much time and effort as deprogramming an adherent of Jim Jones. It simply isn't enough to advise them to "radiate self-confidence!"
It is a long and complicated philosophical journey.
Regards,
They don't drift -- they are actively stampeded into it by mass culture; and the teaching is reinforced by the constant male attention on online dating sites and apps.