Posted on 10/20/2022 2:54:23 PM PDT by nickcarraway
I just got divorced this year, and I hit the scene. It was challenging, to say the least.
The worst part of it is my conservatism. It’s hard to find a woman, or girl, who isn’t a complete leftist loony. Unhinged, they are.
It’s funny though. I put up a fake female profile in a dating app to see what kind of guys I have to compete with. What I noticed is that they are ALL the same. Vandyke, baseball cap, wrap around sunglasses. Beer enthusiasts, all of them.
I found a woman (a real woman, army vet, physicist, successful with no tattoos, 3 great kids and not much baggage.) She’s also 10 years older than I am. She tells me that in her dating life the men are always angry. If she didn’t respond to their online messages within an hour they would start to insult her. Insecure.
So as I see it both men and women are insecure. As ALWAYS women have the ability to pick and choose and because of that become more and more picky. Men basically get “stuck with” whoever responds to their advances.
Not true with 100% of the cases, but true enough
Interesting. As Thelma Ritter said in a 1951 movie, if a person has four pints of blood and can stand long enough to say, “I do,” then he can get married. Also, my lady friend got a divorce, asked a psychologist how to meet me, and was told to buy a dog. Then she went to coffee shops, sat at the sidewalk tables with her dog, and learned that only ladies stop to talk about dog. Also, best place for young people to meet future spouses is big band dances.
How do they know they're women?
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Rodney Dangerfield said, (paraphrasing)
‘My wife and I vacation separately. We sleep in different rooms and take our meals at different times. We’re doing everything we can to keep our marriage strong.’
Theres still no upsides to dealing with modern women. Men do not even want to take the risks to even find out if she is a “unicorn”.
The simple of a man that approaches a woman, that she is not attracted to, can result in jail time a loss of job and prestige.
It’s not worth the effort, in most cases.
Saying hi should not be a social death sentence.
The whole dating universe writ large is a massive pool of losers...both sexes. (Allowance made for outliers.)
Well said.
I think this tendency has a biological basis to it. She wants to be available to the man she is attracted to. Spending time with a man she is not attracted to hurts her ability to find a man she thinks is on her level, because the men she might want sees that she is not available to them.
Your wife may be a very nice person, but I can almost assure you that she was doing the same thing with men that she was not attracted to.
I don’t even think that women are aware of what they do when they do this and I can’t criticize them for doing it, if this tendency has a biological basis for doing it.
** People will just drop a potential mate, if they don’t tick off all the boxes, thinking that eventually they’ll find someone that does.**
My sis (now 70) took her time. About the time she was turned 35, my dad said to her: “If you’re looking for the perfect man, there are none. And I love you dearly, but you’re not the perfect woman.”
She met an imperfect guy at 38, and married him a year later. It worked out well, they are still together and happy.
I was very particular, only bending on wealth. I didn’t care if the chick was poor. My wife met all my specs marvelously. (and was not rich or poor, imo)
A woman who has been dating for >10 years is OF COURSE having a much tougher time than when she was ten years younger.
44 yrs last August for my lady and I. She’s still the best!
Women are hypergamous by nature, always comparing what they have to what they feel they could get.
She may have felt that those times were temporary due to past performance, and or that perhaps she felt at those times she couldn’t do better than you, and or there weren’t really too many better men around where you were.
I don’t take the position that a woman will turn on you, if you are treating them well. It’s been my observation that they will go the extra mile to keep a relationship, but will give up on it and seek another one if the one she has is with a non-responsive male. Once a woman gives up on her man, there is usually no way to repair that with her.
However, it’s been my observation that you won’t get close to her unless she is attracted to you. She won’t give you the time of day unless she thinks you are on her level.
Even at 19, they can be doing it because she would have been doing it in high school. To be clear, since I believe that it’s biologically based, she’s not doing it to be mean but to keep a pathway clear for somebody that she does want.
Dwayne Johnson had a funny bit about Kevin Hart in high school. Imitating Keven Hart, Johnson goes, “Hey girl, hows it going girl?”
The girl has Hart on ignore.
Then Johnson says, “Oh, she didn’t see me. Maybe we will catch up later.”
It was funny, but there is a lot of truth to that.
“Saying hi should not be a social death sentence.“
I’m guessing that what these women consider “harassment” would not have even remotely been considered harassment by earlier generations.
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