Posted on 10/15/2022 9:53:44 AM PDT by aquila48
Kelly Chang Rickert rose to TicTok fame by giving pithy advice so you don’t end up in her office asking her to litigate (or better yet, mediate) your divorce. Happily married herself, she reveals the top 5 questions you should ask before marriage so you don't end up divorced:
1. What is your credit score? (And ask to see recent credit report)
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2. Children
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3. Household chores
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4. Sex
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5. Health
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These questions are just the starting point. It is much better to have an awkward conversation now than having this conversation in front of your lawyer, or the judge in your case. Divorces and reveal embarrassing personal information, so if you cannot bring it up to your fiancé imagine how you will feel in a deposition.
(Excerpt) Read more at forbes.com ...
You can chime in with your experience.
Conservative or Liberal?
Never told her husband to be that she owed $80,000 in student loan debt. I was furious with her. In addition she didn’t tell him about some plastic surgery she had had and that a few year before they got married she was 100 pounds heavier than she was when they met. They are still married going on I think 15 years but it was a lot of things to keep from somebody and I’ll never forget it.
Not a word on religion nor religious upbringing of children. There are often conflicts after children because they didn’t discuss or agree on these before marriage.
Many find they suddenly care a whole lot about the issue after children come when they didn’t even think about it before.
It’s not often you meet an attractive woman with a credit score over 650.
Fortunately, all that’s important is YOUR credit score.
Politics was not included?
I bet it’s one of the leading causes of divroce.
Interesting that the person’s credit score takes precedence over whether or not they want children.
Is your to-be mother-in-law fat?
“Conservative or Liberal?”
conservative or leftist?
that should be the very fist compatibility issue ...
Are you acquainted?
I suspect a number of couples, if confronting questions such as noted above, would find that they shouldn’t get married and have children together.
I know it’s not romantic to discuss such issues when you want to get married. But clearly there are many land mines in merging your life with someone else’s.
1- Similar Values
2- True Friendship
3- Mutual Trust and Respect --- Those form the FOUNDATION
Without that Foundation the relationship can't survive the aspects that change over time, such as;
Understanding how to effectively communicate with your spouse,
Your sexual appetite,
Your other life interests.
Idiotic questions.
They ought to be discouraging men getting married. A one sided contract where in almost all cases the financial burden is all on you. She can have you gone with no evidence and one phone call for made up reasons.
There is zero upside for a man to sign a marriage contract. Doesn’t stop infidelity. Til death do you part? Please. We’re at 50% divorce rate for 1st marriages, 66% for second marriages, and 75% for third marriages. Factor in 80% of divorces are filed by women. Now divorces can be filed for any reason, not actual valid fault reasons. No upside for men.
Don’t do it guys. Vagina isn’t worth it. Ask a few guys who have been married and divorced for an honest opinion.
Sounds like simp talk.
1. What is your credit score? Very good
2. Children- sure but not too many
3. Household chores- I kept a clean house as a single dude
4. Sex- at least once a day
5. Health- i work out every single day
Religion should be number 1. Everything else probably follows that path.
My husband would agree with you. His ex is STILL on the payroll (”child” support goes to age 21 here no questions asked) One year, three months, one day until the last of the three ages out.
Raising children is cheap. To be fair to the children, don’t have then unless you can support them and treat them to life-building experiences.
There you go, opposing God’s plan and design for mankind, yet again.
And they are not idiotic questions. If they were addressed BEFORE the marriage, there would likely be a lot fewer messy divorces.
Your hatred of women is blinding you to the common sense in this advice.
My credit score stunk at the time. She married me anyway.
The rest was based on both of us being rooted in traditional Catholicism (e.g. God determines how many children we have, husband is primary provider/wife is primary home-maker)
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