That, and women are told that marriage is demeaning but a meaningless cubicle job and a series of flings with men she has no intention of committing to, or having children with, is *empowering*.
What happens is the young women get their fill and start to want to be married around thirty. However, the man, of which 80% don't get their fill of the single life because that's only reserved for the top 20% of men to get their single life fill of sex either make themselves absent because they are convinced that they have nothing to offer a woman or they are finally coming into their own and still want their fill before they settle down.
Consequently, the young women are finding that they can't find a man and are having to choose childlessness or they choose to become single mothers, which complicate things for them.
It's a disaster in the making, but here we are.
“the young women are finding that they can’t find a man”
BS. You mean, they can’t find a wuss they can boss around for life..
My guess would have been that for the last 30+ years public schools have been teaching that marriage is an outdated societal construct forced upon women by the sexist, misogynistic, patriarchal hegemony.
That, and women are told that marriage is demeaning but a meaningless cubicle job and a series of flings with men she has no intention of committing to, or having children with, is *empowering*.
My answer would be that they are too chickensh*t to accept any responsibility. They just want a life of sitting around on their ass staring at s cellphone and drinking Mexican panther pee or seltzer water.
They bore each other?
It’s pretty simple to understand...
To use the humorous terms...
If you no longer need to buy the cow to get the milk, why buy a cow, especially when the milk is free.
People these days are so wrapped up in themselves as priority number one that sharing is out of the question.
Youth Soccer
In other words, roasties that rode the c@ck carousel because “they have their own money” are finding their egg cartons empty. I saw this first hand last week. Invest in his wine and let food.
I wouldn’t want to marry many of the millennial, testosterone deficient, soy boy, skinny jeans wearing, offerings passing themselves off as males either.
Nice run-on sentence there, Jonty30!
But I agree whole-heartedly with your explanation!
One additional argument that I've never seen cited elsewhere - so I'm guessing that I'm the first to make this observation - is that young people are subconsciously aware of the following important factors:
1. Life expectancies are significantly greater than in their grandparents' generation - meaning that people will have to live with the consequences of their actions for a much longer time than their ancestors did.
2. Life, itself, is significantly more "dynamic." More precisely, typical biographies (incl. careers and divorces) are now far more "diverse" and "unpredictable" than in the 1950s and 60s, thus making planning much more difficult. Technological change is more apparent.
3. Although "life" is becoming simultaneously "longer" but also "more dynamic" (meaning: the total amount of "change" / "stress" one experiences in the course of a lifetime is far greater than in the past), the cycle of generations is slowing. Specifically: Children (a "burden") tend to remain children for longer. Grandkids (a "reward" / the "pay-off") thus show up much later in life. Thus, in the 1950s, typical parents could expect to "be shed" of the responsibility of raising a child in about 18 or 19 years. Today, that's more like 25-27 years. (And some 30-year-olds might even return home to live in the basement.) Child-bearing is thus viewed as more "onerous." And the pleasure of having grandkids is too distant.
Regards,
It’s one of the many consequences when a society devolves from a high trust to a no trust society. Think of it as 1984 in action.
Boxed wine and cats, baby!
Among my sons friends…all but one had divorced parents. They came from broken homes and thus marriage to their young minds was nothing but pain, fighting, cheating, brokenness.
Although it may be very unpopular on this forum…it takes TWO people to make a successful marriage. Aside from love of course, the next vital component to a happy marriage is respect. Nobody on the face of the earth is more deserving of your respect than your spouse.
The funny thing is quite a few of my son’s friends are happily married with kids. They are in their early 30’s. Many credit our marriage with showing them that wedded bliss is indeed a possibility. So sometimes, it’s just not your kids who are watching what you do.
"Matthew 24:20 Context 17 Let him which is on the housetop not come down to take any thing out of his house: 18 Neither let him which is in the field return back to take his clothes. 19 And woe unto them that are with child, and to them that give suck in those days! 20 But pray ye that your flight be not in the winter, neither on the sabbath day: 21 For then shall be great tribulation, such as was not since the beginning of the world to this time, no, nor ever shall be. 22 And except those days should be shortened, there should no flesh be saved: but for the elect's sake those days shall be shortened. 23 Then if any man shall say unto you, Lo, here is Christ, or there; believe it not.
2) It's also possible that the divorce laws are so twisted against men at this point, that men are indeed afraid of commitment.
3) Men are waiting for sex robots.
4) In the words of David Gates of Bread, "But too much love, I've never seen. Too much love, I don't know what it means. Not enough caring, too many lies. Not enough sharing. One too many goodbyes."
5) In the book, the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, the author posits that happiness in the home is fully controlled by women. And that if a woman will just take care of man's two appetites, food and sex, he will build her the Taj Mahal. While there is an element of truth in that, it's not the full picture. There are men who would not appreciate what they have.
6) The other extreme claimed that women were responders and that men were fully responsible for the woman's response. There is an element of truth in that also. But it denies that a woman has any choice over her responses or attitudes.
7) The current war on traditional Christianity and relationships is not helping. We are flooded with images of same sex marriages. Told that gender is fluid. That women are not mothers but a subset of people who have babies.
8) And financial pressures are significant. Sure during the depression people may have married and had kids. There was nothing else to do. And they didn't have the same expectations as today. They lived cheaper, education was simpler, and children were helpers on the farm or got apprenticeships.
9) The movie Idiocracy as a lot of truth. If you never seen it, the smart couple keep thinking of reasons why it's not a good time to have kids. While the stupid drunken idiot knocks up his wife, his girlfriend, the neighbor, etc. and produces a ton of offspring. The result is that the national I.Q. drops precipitously over a 500 year period.
My grandson said it best. Why should I get married and end up like mom and dad.
This article sounds like it was written about 4Chan posters…
Almost half of millennial are too feminine to even like women and the mother half of normal man don’t want to marry crazy, leftist women who hate them. The normal millennial men are into recycling - they want to crush their dirty boxes and then put them on the curb.
It’s more about a legal lose-lose for too many guys; they risk too much when divorce is granted for such reasons as “she met a wealthier guy”. Either party can be a bad spouse or seek a divorce, but the statistics that most are initiated by women simply scare off too many men.
It is too easy for them to be paying for some other guy to live in his house with his kids...
“ Religion aside, even a secular sense of shame and fear of a bad reputation in the community died out in the face of the Casual Sex Industrial Complex..”
You can’t put religion aside here because religion drove that sensibility in the culture. Even if you were an atheist you benefited from the uplift religion provided.
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