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The Culture of the Single Millennial - Why are so many Millennials unmarried?
https://lifeandtimes.substack.com ^ | Sep 5, 2021 | Staff Writer

Posted on 06/09/2022 10:17:39 PM PDT by Jonty30

Why does the Millennial generation (people born between 1982-1996) have lower marriage and birth rates than previous generations? And when Millennials do get married, why is it at a later age than previous generations? Prominent periodicals like The Atlantic, Time, Washington Post and others have published articles trying to explain the phenomenon.

Some claim that the cause is economic – we graduated from college into the 2008 Recession, we have a lot of student loan debt, and we receive stagnant wages as housing prices soar. Financial difficulty prevents young people from getting married. This is of course part of the problem, but it is wrong. People got married at a higher per capita rate during the Great Depression and the brutal wars in history, which were much tougher than anything we endured.

Some argue that the cause is increased education, feminism and careerism. People want to focus on establishing a stable career in their youth, including women in equal if not greater numbers than men, which makes them delay family formation. This is also a partial explanation. There is no reason a person cannot pursue education and career while married. If the issue is about focus, we would argue that living “the single life” is even more of a distraction from schoolwork. Even if we concede the argument about focus, it still does not explain the large number of Millennials who are now in their late 30s, well-established in their careers, but still remain unmarried.

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To: FlingWingFlyer

“too chickensh*t to accept any responsibility”

In a society that rewards riding on the wagon instead of pulling it and punishes married men in hundreds of ways large and small, being “chickensh%t” starts to look like rational decision-making.


81 posted on 06/10/2022 5:39:47 AM PDT by cgbg (A kleptocracy--if they can keep it. Think of it as the Cantillon Effect in action.)
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To: SauronOfMordor
I got married at 29, to a girl I’d been with for 3 years at that point. Still married, 3 kids and several grandkids. I’m retiring soon to spend more time with the grandchildren.

So, no 16-year age difference, as with me?

(Hah-hah!)

You did good!

I wish that I already had grandchildren! Now would be the perfect time for me to nurture them!

There would even be a prospect of great-grandchildren...

Regards,

82 posted on 06/10/2022 5:40:22 AM PDT by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: Jonty30

What an interesting and thought provoking article. Thank you for posting it.

What a mess.

I remember my grandparents and their friends. Divorce was very rare. Same with my parents generation. Couples stayed together literally for better or worse.

When I was in high school girls were looking to marry after graduation and start their own families.... following family history.

But.... things started to change. The sexual revolution...1960’s. Now we have come so far and there is no turning it back. Morality is no more.

I feel sorry for my grandkids in so many ways.

After reading this article and the comments I am so greatful to God for my husband and my marriage. He is my best friend. Retired.... yet we work and we play together. We have fun.


83 posted on 06/10/2022 5:49:39 AM PDT by xenia ("In times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act." George Orwell)
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To: tired&retired

Corollary:

Why buy a bull when you can get bred for free


84 posted on 06/10/2022 5:50:17 AM PDT by bert ( (KWE. NP. N.C. +12) Promoting Afro Heritage diversity will destroy the democrats)
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To: Jonty30

I’ll tell you why:

The women are crazy and the men...aren’t ‘men’.

Simple math.

My step-niece was informed by her BF that he was leaving her just last night after 4 years.

The story was underscored by the exact nature of my comment...with one exception:

The manner in which he left her - he wrote her a long, rational letter and offered to pay the rent until September, at which time she needs to move out (there’s a long story behind that: She’s away on an internship) - makes me wrong in that respect but reinforces what I already knew about my niece :-)


85 posted on 06/10/2022 6:01:57 AM PDT by logi_cal869 (-cynicus the "concern troll" a/o 10/03/2018 /!i!! &@$%&*(@ -)
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To: HYPOCRACY

About the same for me; first and only marriage at 43, wife four years younger. One kid. Married almost 29 years.


86 posted on 06/10/2022 6:05:27 AM PDT by Maine Mariner
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To: doorgunner69

Back when I was a youngster, I was astonished that those girls would move in with single men!


87 posted on 06/10/2022 6:08:37 AM PDT by Does so (https//youtu.be/3PxEWB6W8ig ......Uke's Independence Day Parade. Anthem starts at 15:00)
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To: Jonty30

Easy.
If you don’t have a job, women won’t make any long term commitment.
For 10 years, its been a bad time to be young and single.
Young women are crazy drama queens.
Young men act like women, plus can’t hold a real job.


88 posted on 06/10/2022 6:24:17 AM PDT by Zathras
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To: voicereason
As men age, their value to the opposite sex goes up. With women, it is the inverse.

Successful, mid-thirties men and smart, mid-twenties women are finding each other and marrying. Others simply get left on the sidelines. It all works out, and long as reality is understood by both parties at the right time.

89 posted on 06/10/2022 6:24:30 AM PDT by Mr. Jeeves ([CTRL]-[GALT]-[DELETE])
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To: Campion; metmom
I am of course agreeing with you that chastity is the moral law in all cases. But a culture in which the overwhelming majority of women and the top 20% of men are very promiscuous, while the bottom 70% of men just associate women and dating with rejection and humiliation -- which is where we're heading, look at the statistics -- is not a recipe for a culture which survives for the long term.

The "social contract" which sustained civilization up to this point, is the idea that if you are a man who studies and works hard to turn yourself into somebody who can comfortably support a family, then you can have some reasonable expectation that you will find a woman who will be your wife and in exchange for your support will bear children for you and make a reasonable effort to make you happy.

Now, feminism has decreed that this expectation is unconscionable, and it is misogynistic to have any expectation that the woman in your life will do anything for you (but you must financially support her regardless).

Increasing numbers of men are seeing this, seeing the one-sided nature of the new social contract, and deciding "screw this". If they want sexual release, porn and the occasional paid transaction is much cheaper than marriage, particularly if you have money.

90 posted on 06/10/2022 6:27:17 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (We live in a time where intelligent people are being silenced so stupid people won’t be offended)
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To: Jonty30

They don’t meet a lot of potential spouses in their parent’s basements?


91 posted on 06/10/2022 6:29:34 AM PDT by 1Old Pro
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To: max americana

The women I know found PLENTY of men in their 20s and early 30s. I know, because after seeing them ignore me I learned to play the game and bedded many in my late 20s and 30s. I gave up that life Thank God, but know first hand the culture. The culture is rotten. The only hope I see is that the democrat marxist progressives have pushed so far that the young adults realize how sick things are. Outside of the indoctrinated morons in big cities who really believes “Lia” Thomas is a woman or having children dressed up like harlots stripping at a gay bar is something we should all be proud of.


92 posted on 06/10/2022 6:31:34 AM PDT by Organic Panic (Democrats. Memories as short as Joe Biden's eyes)
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To: xenia

At least you have grandkids to feel sorry for! Not sure that I ever will.


93 posted on 06/10/2022 6:36:34 AM PDT by Campion (Everything is a grace, everything is the direct effect of our Father's love - Little Flower)
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To: Campion
It's far easier for a woman to be promiscuous that it is for a man, and always has been.

Oh, BS.

94 posted on 06/10/2022 6:43:44 AM PDT by metmom (...fixing our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith….)
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To: jmacusa
These kids can’t keep from staring into their smart phones.

Before covid, the hourly workers at my plant played cards at lunchtime or talked with each other. Now they sit and stare at their phones.

95 posted on 06/10/2022 7:00:51 AM PDT by Max in Utah (A nation can survive its fools, and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within.)
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To: Angelino97

[[To which many modern women will respond, “Oh, so you’re saying I should be a doormat?”]]

Tongue in cheek, but an accurate representation of much of feminist opinions.

If the husband does things to keep his wife happy, regardless of whether he’s personally in the mood, then the wife should make a corresponding effort for him.

If she’s always demanding, but never delivering, then it’s time to either fix that or move on.


96 posted on 06/10/2022 7:07:31 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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To: Jonty30

[[ I’ve long said the smartest a woman can do is be extremely picky in her 20’s, but marry in her 20’s. Treat her husband well and most men will be faithful if they have a happy home to go to.]]

Excellent advice


97 posted on 06/10/2022 7:11:00 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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To: Ikeon

[[besides that, women turn into time shares after a few years anyway. You make huge payments for life and you only get to use them about once a year. .unlike a wife, At least you can unload a timeshare ,usually at great financial loss, but its temporary and over once you unload it.]]

This is why people don’t buy timeshare any more, preferring the Airbnb option.

And I’m not just talking about vacation home rentals.


98 posted on 06/10/2022 7:16:23 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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To: Jonty30
Since the government inserted itself into every marriage contract, who would sign up for that?

especially when the government will side with whichever of the other two will benefit the government more. Paulina will side with the government while it's helping her rob Peter.

As to marriage vs matrimony, if matrimony was legitimate and a religious ceremony, why would anyone outside of the religion have any say in it?

Churches have become an extension of the state. Try getting married in one without a marriage license issued by The State.

99 posted on 06/10/2022 7:18:19 AM PDT by T.B. Yoits
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To: metmom

Not BS. A woman who is not actually hideous can very easily find a man willing to spend the night, or the weekend, with her, PROVIDED it’s a “no strings” date, and she is not excessively picky on who accepts her offer.

The same is not true for men.

It’s been said:
Women are the gatekeepers for sex,
But men are the gatekeepers for commitment.


100 posted on 06/10/2022 7:23:49 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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