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The Culture of the Single Millennial - Why are so many Millennials unmarried?
https://lifeandtimes.substack.com ^ | Sep 5, 2021 | Staff Writer

Posted on 06/09/2022 10:17:39 PM PDT by Jonty30

Why does the Millennial generation (people born between 1982-1996) have lower marriage and birth rates than previous generations? And when Millennials do get married, why is it at a later age than previous generations? Prominent periodicals like The Atlantic, Time, Washington Post and others have published articles trying to explain the phenomenon.

Some claim that the cause is economic – we graduated from college into the 2008 Recession, we have a lot of student loan debt, and we receive stagnant wages as housing prices soar. Financial difficulty prevents young people from getting married. This is of course part of the problem, but it is wrong. People got married at a higher per capita rate during the Great Depression and the brutal wars in history, which were much tougher than anything we endured.

Some argue that the cause is increased education, feminism and careerism. People want to focus on establishing a stable career in their youth, including women in equal if not greater numbers than men, which makes them delay family formation. This is also a partial explanation. There is no reason a person cannot pursue education and career while married. If the issue is about focus, we would argue that living “the single life” is even more of a distraction from schoolwork. Even if we concede the argument about focus, it still does not explain the large number of Millennials who are now in their late 30s, well-established in their careers, but still remain unmarried.

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To: Jonty30

Keywords: Milk, Cow, Free


201 posted on 06/12/2022 12:32:32 AM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: Herakles
Any how, by the time they are 32, they have been slept with by everyone and at that age have zero chance of finding a mate and settle for trailer trash.

A decent looking woman at 32, even with dozens of lovers under her belt, can easily snag a husband who earns a decent living.

Such men are called Thirsty Betas. They've been without sex for so long, they'll gladly settle for sloppy seconds.

Such men often have a White Knight syndrome, a desire to rescue a woman. And the women play up their victimhood, how all their past lovers were bad men who lied to them, cheated on them, abused them. All they ever wanted was a Really Nice Guy.

And the White Knight takes her at her word, marries the Alpha Widow, and is divorce raped within ten years.

202 posted on 06/12/2022 12:40:12 AM PDT by Angelino97
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To: SauronOfMordor

The Husband Store

A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs.

She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.

“That’s nice,” she thinks, “but I want more.”

So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.

“Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.

“Oh, mercy me!” she exclaims, “I can hardly stand it!”

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop- dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

PLEASE NOTE:

To avoid gender bias charges, the store’s owner opened a New Wives store just across the street.

The first floor has wives that love sex.

The second floor has wives that love sex and have money and like beer.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.


203 posted on 06/12/2022 12:46:23 AM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: SamAdams76

There is something to be said about making all 18 year-old men do two years of military service. But with today’s military that might not be such a good idea anymore.


204 posted on 06/12/2022 12:51:05 AM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: SauronOfMordor

A society is only as good as the standards women set for men.

At least in the past, men were motivated by the desire to find a good mate, that would find them worthy. And at a time when the pickings were much slimmer due to lower mobility, competition was fierce.


205 posted on 06/12/2022 12:55:55 AM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: karatemom

Good post.

My wife and I will be celebrating 50 years next Saturday. I hope we have influenced others as you guys have.


206 posted on 06/12/2022 1:47:31 AM PDT by gitmo (If your theology doesn't become your biography, what good is it?)
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To: rbg81
Back then, Cosmo magazine was the romantic bible for women. Nearly every woman I dated had a copy. Every now and then, I would read it. Learned a LOT from that,

I also browsed women's magazines, and looked at the romance novel section of the bookstore, to see what women's heads were being filled with.

One dose of reality from a quick look at the romance novels: women fantasize about tall, handsome, muscular pirates, aristocrats, and billionaires rather than Sam the Accountant.

207 posted on 06/12/2022 2:47:26 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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To: Angelino97
Women want a man who’s dangerous to others, but protective of their woman. It’s a primal instinct. “My caveman so big and strong, nobody mess with me and my kids.”

That's what happens in the ghetto, with gang bangers fathering kids by multiple women. Women want a thug who will protect them from other thugs. And then reality sets in.

208 posted on 06/12/2022 2:50:58 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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To: gitmo

Congratulations on fifty years!! And yes, I am sure you have and continue to do so!!!!


209 posted on 06/12/2022 4:53:36 AM PDT by karatemom (My son is a good man because his father is a good man. )
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To: SauronOfMordor; CardCarryingMember.VastRightWC

One dose of reality from a quick look at the romance novels: women fantasize about tall, handsome, muscular pirates, aristocrats, and billionaires rather than Sam the Accountant.


Okay. But, realistically, it’s a fantasy. What woman is going to fantasize about Sam the Accountant? When it comes to fantasy, all bets are off. Both men and women fantasize about some pretty twisted stuff.

I have noticed over the years that women are very formula driven in terms of content consumption. Unlike you, I never looked at romance novels. However, I did watch a few movies on the Lifetime (e.g., men are scum) channel. Nearly all of them had the same basic plot structure:

1. The Female Main Character (FMC) is in a relationship with a Very Bad Man (VBM) who misbehaves and/or oppresses her in some way (physical, emotional, financial).
2. VBM leaves the relationship (for some reason)
3. After a period of hardship, the FMC finds a WHITE KNIGHT who rescues her from her drab existence
4. VBM returns and wants the FMC back
5. WHITE KNIGHT successfully fights off the VBM and cements his relationship with the FMC. The implication is that they then live happily ever after.

In terms of Cosmo, a lot of the articles had titles like:
— Top Five tips for keeping your man (sexually) satisfied
— Top Ten things men look for in women
— Three ways to successfully communicate with your man

You get the idea. While you will find some articles like this in Mens magazines (GQ, Esquire, Maxim, Mens Health, etc.), the articles are not as regimented and similar as you will find in Womens magazines. I’ll wager if you had a years worth of Cosmo, you would probably find the same material recycled over and over.

I was also kind of surprises how explicit the sexual tips were in Cosmo. Lastly, when I was dating, I did notice the same words coming out of the mouth of various (different) women. My assumption is that they were following the Cosmo blueprint.


210 posted on 06/12/2022 5:26:39 AM PDT by rbg81
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To: Angelino97

“women play up their victimhood, how all their past lovers were bad men who lied to them, cheated on them, abused them”

Yeah—that is a waving red flag—run run run away.....


211 posted on 06/12/2022 5:33:08 AM PDT by cgbg (A kleptocracy--if they can keep it. Think of it as the Cantillon Effect in action.)
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To: Angelino97

“Women want a man who’s dangerous to others, but protective of their woman.”

The problem is that after a night out drinking with the guys he comes home and becomes dangerous to her.

You play with fire—and you will get burned.


212 posted on 06/12/2022 5:44:04 AM PDT by cgbg (A kleptocracy--if they can keep it. Think of it as the Cantillon Effect in action.)
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To: CatHerd

Beechcicle?


213 posted on 06/12/2022 6:55:28 AM PDT by gitmo (If your theology doesn't become your biography, what good is it?)
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To: rbg81
When it comes to fantasy, all bets are off. Both men and women fantasize about some pretty twisted stuff.

Looking at the mainstream, though, both sides are fairly consistent.

The female fantasy is for some tall, handsome, high status, exciting guy to dominate her and commit to her.

The male fantasy is for a reasonably attractive woman who is eager to have sex with him.

It remains to be seen which fantasy is more unrealistic.

214 posted on 06/12/2022 7:30:13 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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To: cgbg

A woman may have one past lover who was abusive. If she had multiple, it is a reflection on HER. As you say, run away quickly, she is nuts, and she will quickly accuse YOU of being abusive.

Remember Johnny Depp’s ex.


215 posted on 06/12/2022 7:33:43 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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To: rbg81

I’ve seen some Lifetime Hallmark movies. There are a few other plots that come up beside the one you mention.

* The Protagonist is an Amazing Woman who is smart, beautiful, brilliant in her career, and has a great family.

* A beautiful, Younger Woman insinuates herself into this woman’s life by seeming to be a great friend. (In two films, it was a blond nurse: The Ties That Bind, and The Wrong Mother).

* The Younger Woman than tries to steal the Protagonist’s life, seducing the husband, alienating the kid’s affections, causing trouble for the Protagonist at work. Both of the above films ended with the Younger Woman turning psycho, and using a gun to threaten or kidnap the family.

* But the Protagonist rescues her family, including her doofus husband. (In The Wrong Mother, she overcame the gun-wielding nurse while having a cast on her arm.)


Then there are the films that feature a Strong, Independent Single Mother. Her ex-husband usually doesn’t give a damn about the kids.

This woman is, again, amazing at her job. By the end of the film, she’s met a tall, handsome man, with a lucrative and glamorous job, who loves her and her child, because she’s such an amazing single mother (e.g., Crazy for Christmas, Christmas Town.)

These are Hallmark movies, but the lesson is, Rich Handsome Alpha Males love Single Mothers.


216 posted on 06/12/2022 5:22:05 PM PDT by Angelino97
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To: Angelino97

The first two sound a little like the movie “The Babysitter” (1980), with Patty Duke.


217 posted on 06/12/2022 5:47:20 PM PDT by rbg81
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To: Jonty30

This is a very haunting story. I’m quite ignorant about the subject. I wonder how these people can be reached.


218 posted on 06/12/2022 6:45:45 PM PDT by gitmo (If your theology doesn't become your biography, what good is it?)
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To: gitmo

Show them this article.
Let the young women know what they face of the don’t use their youth properly.


219 posted on 06/12/2022 10:56:51 PM PDT by Jonty30 (Just as Jimmy Carter was thankful for Obama, Obama is thankful for Joe Bidon.)
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To: grey_whiskers

I would say social media made that graph. A female 5 gets banged by a Chad or Tyrone, then thinks shes an 8.


220 posted on 06/14/2022 6:41:09 PM PDT by KC_Conspirator
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