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The Culture of the Single Millennial - Why are so many Millennials unmarried?
https://lifeandtimes.substack.com ^ | Sep 5, 2021 | Staff Writer

Posted on 06/09/2022 10:17:39 PM PDT by Jonty30

Why does the Millennial generation (people born between 1982-1996) have lower marriage and birth rates than previous generations? And when Millennials do get married, why is it at a later age than previous generations? Prominent periodicals like The Atlantic, Time, Washington Post and others have published articles trying to explain the phenomenon.

Some claim that the cause is economic – we graduated from college into the 2008 Recession, we have a lot of student loan debt, and we receive stagnant wages as housing prices soar. Financial difficulty prevents young people from getting married. This is of course part of the problem, but it is wrong. People got married at a higher per capita rate during the Great Depression and the brutal wars in history, which were much tougher than anything we endured.

Some argue that the cause is increased education, feminism and careerism. People want to focus on establishing a stable career in their youth, including women in equal if not greater numbers than men, which makes them delay family formation. This is also a partial explanation. There is no reason a person cannot pursue education and career while married. If the issue is about focus, we would argue that living “the single life” is even more of a distraction from schoolwork. Even if we concede the argument about focus, it still does not explain the large number of Millennials who are now in their late 30s, well-established in their careers, but still remain unmarried.

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TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Education; History; Society
KEYWORDS: 2muchheadache; culture; dating; freesex; gaming; marriage; men; mgtow; millennials; partylife; porn; pua; redpill; society; whybother; women
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To: metmom
Maybe you should find out why the PUA community refers to the churches as "Sunday Morning Nightclub"; and learn how quickly "missionary dating" turns into "missionary position dating."

Drawing your skirts aside to indicate shunning does not displace reality.

And outside the churches, the women are even worse.

181 posted on 06/11/2022 5:20:09 AM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: Angelino97
Heroic Single MothersTM
182 posted on 06/11/2022 5:31:35 AM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: SauronOfMordor
The other problem is that it is a survey; i.e. self-reported. A good rule of thumb is, to find a woman's true n-count, take her self-reported # and multiply by three; to find man's, divide by three.
183 posted on 06/11/2022 5:34:12 AM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: Angelino97

Five minutes of alpha is worth ten years of beta.


184 posted on 06/11/2022 5:35:02 AM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: metmom

Nobody believes your shopworn 1950s feminist propaganda;explaining why the churches, (like RINOs), only echo and preserve the liberalism of a generation ago.


185 posted on 06/11/2022 5:36:56 AM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: metmom

Ask your fellow women...they’re too busy pining for the Chads who pumped-and-dumped them to have any derogatory names.


186 posted on 06/11/2022 5:39:15 AM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: metmom

Once upon a time they were called cads, rakes and philanderers. Not so long ago, “sleaze” and whoremonger” were used. What they’re often called now is so vulgar it doesn’t belong on FR.


187 posted on 06/11/2022 5:58:14 AM PDT by CatHerd (Whoever said "All's fair in love and war" probably <p>never participated in either.)
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To: metmom
So when a woman is promiscuous, she’s given titles like “slut” and “whore”. Remind me again of the derogatory words used to describe men who are promiscuous.

You confuse the complementary natures of men and women.

Women historically have supplied sex in exchange for support and commitment.

A woman is not considered a slut because she is sexually available. It's because she is such a loser that her sexual availability is the only reason men tolerate having her around. She supplies sex without receiving love and commitment in return. She is more appropriately a subject of pity.

The corresponding male is the cuckold, a man who supplies support and commitment, without the woman giving him her love and faithfulness. She only tolerates him around because he gives her things, but she feels no need to provide to him in return.

188 posted on 06/11/2022 6:59:52 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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To: Angelino97

“These women are known as Alpha Widows. They slept with Alphas, and still hanker after them. The Betas they eventually marry never live up to their past thrills.”

They are easy to spot, because they tend to become depressed and/or angry.

Big Pharma loves them—big bucks.


189 posted on 06/11/2022 7:06:24 AM PDT by cgbg (A kleptocracy--if they can keep it. Think of it as the Cantillon Effect in action.)
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To: CatHerd
Once upon a time they were called cads, rakes and philanderers.

A cad is someone who takes advantage of a woman, getting sex from her without providing support and commitment in return.

There is a corresponding woman, who takes support from a man without giving him affection and sex in return. There is not a common derogatory term for such women. "Gold digger" comes up, but only when the man is wealthy.

190 posted on 06/11/2022 7:14:59 AM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A Leftist can't enjoy life unless they are controlling, hurting, or destroying others)
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To: SauronOfMordor

Sure there is: frigid witch (safe for FR version).


191 posted on 06/11/2022 7:21:46 AM PDT by CatHerd (Whoever said "All's fair in love and war" probably <p>never participated in either.)
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To: cgbg

I think the bulk of the Karens would probably fall into this category.


192 posted on 06/11/2022 11:37:57 AM PDT by Jonty30 (Just as Jimmy Carter was thankful for Obama, Obama is thankful for Joe Bidon.)
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To: Angelino97; All

Typical of a professional entertainer. Actors were considered just barely outside of being beggars, vagabonds and thieves for much of Christian European culture. Small wonder, they are professional liars and manipulators due to what their profession is. Now that transgressive mentality has been normalized. A number of young women I have met are adrenaline junkies due to what culture has fed them a normative. They want ‘excitement’ more than any other single thing. ‘No one is going to tell me what to do with my life and my body’, is a virtual mantra. Excitement means and endless flow of new and dizzying experiences focused largely on sexual intercourse. The phrase ‘Fuxxing is the greatest thing in the world and coming is the best experience that can be had’ is at the very core of what many if not most educated so called liberated worldly women’s being. Nothing can compare to sex on the beach in some lonely bay in the Greek Islands with Ramon from Barcelona, so, so hot. Oh yes. With that sort of addiction to experience without strings as life’s greatest reward how can any woman want to be ‘tied down’ to one man and several constantly needy small human beings. Never going to a five star restaurant, never having the excitement of running two sexual relationships simultaneously, never hearing witty raw repartee or first class gossip about Donna and the Mexican Macho Man at Cabo San Lucas. That is the cultural poison that has been injected into a large part of womanhood today. Starts with trying to live the Hollywood 90210 teen dream in high school and ends forty years later as a grumphy, angry cat woman living in Daytona Beach.


193 posted on 06/11/2022 3:47:10 PM PDT by robowombat (Orth, all y)
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To: robowombat
You just described the modern Instagram Slut. Women who post endless photos of their "amazing lives" on social media. Her travels, foods, fake friends, filtered photos of her face and body, photos of her "woke activities."

Then her Followers post drolling comments about how beautiful she is, what an "amazing person" she is.

Of course, it's often a lie. They see competing Instagram Sluts posting their "awesome lives" and feel pressured to outdo it. They get a rush from the Likes and comments, then get depressed when their "Friends" on Facebook get more or better comments.

I've heard some women describe their profession as "travel blogger," which means, I suppose, that they post pictures of their travels, and hope to get paid for it by advertisers if they have enough Followers. Hence, the professional Influencer.

Social media is the most toxic invention of the past 20 years. Addictive, mentally warping, creating unrealistic expectations, empty goals, fake highs, depression, and self-loathing.

194 posted on 06/11/2022 4:44:51 PM PDT by Angelino97
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To: rbg81
I guess my family has "broke the mold" WRT age differences.

My Mom was older than my Dad. (One marriage for each of them ... lasted 69 years, until Mom passed away first).

My sister-in-law is almost 8 years older than my brother. (2nd marriage for her, 1st for him ... lasted 45 years so far).

Both my marriages have been to women older than I. First marriage lasted a month (her mother did a factory recall on her). The second one has lasted 35 years so far.

Migosh! The thought just dawned on me: This 2nd marriage just might be a keeper!
:-)

195 posted on 06/11/2022 7:23:11 PM PDT by CardCarryingMember.VastRightWC (Unity? Of course! I pledge to respect your President as much as you respected mine the past 4 years.)
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To: SauronOfMordor; rbg81; Angelino97
"learning process is linear & gradual."

"I was an introvert with confidence issues. It took a few years..."

I also agree with both of you. I was 26 or 27 when I first got up the courage to ask a woman on a date. At that point, I was a well-paid engineer who owned my own home. The people living in my basement were other guys renting from me.

My idea of a date was to take her out for coffee, or dinner, or a movie or concert, or hiking in the foothills, etc, and saying good night outside her apartment. After 12 to 15 of these "dates" (I had fallen for her long before), the very day I had finally worked up the courage to try a kiss that evening, she dumped me after concluding I was only "interested in her as a friend".

After more experience at the dating game, I concluded that women had absolutely no inkling that there were males out there who could be interested in them in a romantic, marriage-minded way, yet lacked the confidence to push things further at faster than a snail's pace -- in order to first gain ironclad confidence that they wouldn't be rebuffed.

I think women's paradigm back then was, "Sex on the 3rd date or he only sees you as a friend" ... ie Friend Without Benefits.

My classification probably wasn't "Beta". Likely more as a Zeta .... or Omega ... take your pick. :-)

196 posted on 06/11/2022 7:56:38 PM PDT by CardCarryingMember.VastRightWC (Unity? Of course! I pledge to respect your President as much as you respected mine the past 4 years.)
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To: CardCarryingMember.VastRightWC

Back then, Cosmo magazine was the romantic bible for women. Nearly every woman I dated had a copy. Every now and then, I would read it. Learned a LOT from that, including the advice for them to have sex on the 3rd date & appreciating the power of THE PHONE CALL.


197 posted on 06/11/2022 8:11:42 PM PDT by rbg81
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To: rbg81

Re - learning about women by reading some of the things they read .... I learned a lot from reading the back covers of my sister’s romance paperbacks. All the male love interests had an aura of danger around them. “She didn’t know whether to fear him or love him”. The heroes were men who would violently slaughter opponents in duels or battles, but instantly turn tender when they were around the heroine. I always wondered if this unrealistic expectation is what led some women I knew to gravitate to “bad boys” who sooner or later (usually sooner) physically abused them.


198 posted on 06/11/2022 8:41:44 PM PDT by CardCarryingMember.VastRightWC (Unity? Of course! I pledge to respect your President as much as you respected mine the past 4 years.)
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To: CardCarryingMember.VastRightWC

Women want a man who’s dangerous to others, but protective of their woman. It’s a primal instinct. “My caveman so big and strong, nobody mess with me and my kids.”


199 posted on 06/11/2022 9:33:55 PM PDT by Angelino97
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To: Jonty30

Not only millennial! Who wants a feminist c#$t in their life! Read the book” Predatory Female” if u can find a copy. Better dead than wed!

Their self value is not worth it!

Any how, by the time they are 32, they have been slept with by everyone and at that age have zero chance of finding a mate and settle for trailer trash.


200 posted on 06/12/2022 12:19:09 AM PDT by Herakles (Diversity is applied Marxism )
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