Man, that’s a heavy load bro, best success in getting it resolved.
As distasteful as it sounds, there are times in our system where you need to let the liberals work FOR you. What I mean is, people who work in SSA typically chose to work there because they like “helping people” and showing their compassion and all that. They love nothing better than to come down like a ton of bricks on cheaters but in your case, they ought to want to be on your side, so let them. Avoid any political remarks and just emphasize what you need and what do you have to do to get it. They’re well aware of how bureaucracies work and (or don’t) and the quicker you can get them working for you the better off you’ll be.
And SSA isn’t “socialism” in the classic sense, you’ve paid in for years so now you deserve to get what’s coming. Hope you do and without delay.
Thanks a lot BigBob. God bless you and thanks for the heartfelt advice.