Posted on 07/02/2021 9:35:58 AM PDT by ConservativeMind
A team of researchers from Florida State University, the University of Texas at Austin and the University of California, Los Angeles, has found that the enduring qualities of both spouses in a marriage shape behavioral interactions, which in turn predict changes in relationship satisfaction.
In this new effort, the researchers looked at relationship satisfaction as a marriage matures as a likely indicator of marriage success.
Participants in the longitudinal studies were asked to rate their spouses in three main ways: degree of attachment avoidance, neuroticism and attachment anxiety. Each was also asked to rate their spouse regarding how they behaved during stressful times and how engaged they were during times when problem solving was required.
The researchers found one particular trait among those couples with the greatest satisfaction in their relationships and the most enduring marriages—how they both behaved during times of stress. They found that the way couples treat one another during times of stress was a major factor in how much satisfaction they felt in their relationship. It was one of the enduring qualities that the researchers found that could make or break a marriage. Another was the degree of neuroticism—which the researchers describe as exhibiting negative behaviors—by both people in a relationship. They found that such behaviors could lead to oppositional behavior during times of stress or problem solving, and that often led to a reduction in relational satisfaction as time passed.
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In sum, it was determined these two simple behaviors predicted relationship success:
1. How partners treat each other in times of stress. 2. The amount of negative behaviors throughout the relationship.
Dysfunctional families ALERT!
“Enduring qualities of spouses shape”
I can tell you about some spouse’s shapes, all right! And they do endure!
Strongly committed to their religion, most definitely.
Nominally religious, not so much:
“Professor Bradley Wright, a sociologist at the University of Connecticut, explains from his analysis of people who identify as Christians but rarely attend church, that 60 percent of these have been divorced. Of those who attend church regularly, 38 percent have been divorced.” Bradley R.E. Wright, Christians Are Hate-Filled Hypocrites … and Other Lies You’ve Been Told, (Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House, 2010), p. 133.
Ever been to a Walmart?
In America, all you have to do is whatever the woman expects, and she’s likely to be happy.
A man’s happiness is not a factor.
If he wanted to be happy he never would have married.
I wonder how much money is wasted each year on “studies” of the obvious.
Um, sadly, yes.
If I had turned that article into my Freshman English composition teacher, I would have gotten an F.
haha!
Wow. This article would serve as a great teaching example of “double-talk” to use in a writing class.
“They found that the way couples treat one another during times of stress was a major factor in how much satisfaction they felt in their relationship. It was one of the enduring qualities that the researchers found that could make or break a marriage. Another was the degree of neuroticism—which the researchers describe as exhibiting negative behaviors—by both people in a relationship. They found that such behaviors could lead to oppositional behavior during times of stress or problem solving, and that often led to a reduction in relational satisfaction as time passed.”
Isn’t all of that just a VERY long-winded way of saying - don’t be an asshole if you want your marriage to succeed?
Yup.
Yep. Its easier to paddle the canoe if both people are paddling in the same direction. And problem solving instead of blaming each other when things go wrong.
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