I agree.
It’s funny to joke about men being whipped etc, or the woman wears the pants etc, and a lot of movies and TV shows have expressed that. The actuality is women want a strong man, and there are very few relationships where the woman should be the lead. It’s 51/49, someone has to have the controlling vote, and I also believe what the Bible says about it. Man is the head of the house, Christ’s representation to his family. He’s not a weak pushover who does whatever his woman says. He does though love her so much that if necessary he would lay his life down for her as Jesus did for the Church.
That’s a relationship and how it should go, it’s all laid out for us if we’d just take the time to read and understand and then not accept modern society’s idea of making men look weak and stupid.
Relationships are both pouring into each other at 100%. However, when I look at strong marriages, using my sister’s for example, they are biblically based. Brother in law is the head of their household. While my sister is the one who manages all the projects because my BIL is far too impulsive. She is the info gatherer, gives him the facts and the ultimate decision is his. He is smart enough and loves her enough to know that she won’t steer them as a couple or the family as a whole, in the wrong direction.
They respect each other’s strengths and roles in the marriage. Neither are weak pushovers. There is no do as I tell you happening there. They both respect each other’s roles.
With that said, it takes a strong man to lead and not domineer. There is a difference. A wife will follow a man who knows how to lead in love. A man who dominates, beats his chest and bellows “do as I say” without...unfortunately can’t simple have his oxygen supply removed.
Sorry but those days are kind of at an end, not to burst your bubble, the best we can ask for is a relationship culture where people treat each other with respect and dignity and not degrade one another. The problem with dating and relationships from the man POV in my opinion ( I know men are not perfect, that’s a subject for another time) is that western society has poisoned a chunk of women into resentful women with crap attitudes who mistaken being strong/ independent for being a witch and it is showing. They get it from TV, from society, from their parents, then throw in the marriage system and the courts, that’s a mess on top of the crap in the US especially, relationships have gone to crap in the US which is why I’m glad I live in my part of Europe and women are different here.