Hoovering?
You mean Hovering?...................
As Willie Nelson once said in a movie line; "She could suck the chrome off a ball hitch".
Hoovering?
You mean Hovering?...................
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The first time I heard the term,I replied with your exact words, thinking it was a mispronounced word.
Nope, it is an actual psychological term;
“...hoovering can be defined, in terms of a current or prior toxic narcissistic relationship, where the abusive narcissist tries to seduce and convince the victim to return to the abusive relationship from which she had previously escaped.
The term hoovering derives from the vacuum cleaner corporation, Hoover, and invokes the company’s vacuum cleaners’ process of sucking things in, just as the narcissistic abuser sucks the victim back into the psychologically and, oftentimes, physically abusive relationship.”
From here...
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/captivating-crimes/202003/hoovering-and-the-narcissistic-victim
Just wait until you look up the other terms I listed (and there’s many more!)
For instance, check out what flying monkeys are. Then you’ll see the large scope of the NP/BP disorder playbook. Their entire social circle is one of their own manipulation.
Flying monkeys...
“The term ‘flying monkeys’ is another way of saying ‘abuse by proxy’ or having someone else do the bidding of in this case a narcissist. The term flying monkey was coined after the flying monkeys in the Wizard of Oz that were under the spell of the Wicked Witch of the East, to do her bidding against Dorothy and her friends.
This common narcissistic tactic uses friends and family of the victim to spy on them, spread gossip while painting the narcissist as the victim and their target as the perpetrator. Flying monkeys can be your friends, family, coworkers or the narcissist’s friends, family, or coworkers before you got there. To maintain the illusion of the power they have over you, the narcissist will employ the use of third parties, through which they will attempt to continue control and manipulate you.”
From here...
https://narcissistabusesupport.com/red-flags/use-flying-monkeys/
When you break up with a NP/BP you find out REAL QUICK LIKE how many flying monkeys the NP/BP surround themselves with and manipulate for their own means. And these flying monkeys area very afraid of the wrath/crazy of the NP/BP, so they did their bidding.
No, hoovering is correct..
Like the vacuum cleaner, they try to suck you back in