NP/BP?.......................
Narcissist personality/borderline personality disorders.
They’re quite real and very common.
Social media has fueled these in the past decade.
Very cruel, and very broken people.
Their behaviors and symptoms overlap and sometimes indistinguishable.
The core of each disorder is self-loathing and sadly, according to most psychologists these disorders, shy of a come-to-Jesus healing, are incurable.
They usually have a complete lack of empathy. They are apaths, caring only for themselves and their actions all revolve around reconciling their self-loathing, but nothing they do overcomes this self hate and low self esteem. They manipulate EVERYONE in their social circle to their own desires, yet truly caring about nobody but themselves in their quest to have ever elusive inner value.
They seek out high empaths and can spot and manipulate their victims VERY easily. From these disorders, psychologists have labeled their actions with terms like...
Hoovering
Monkey branching
Gas lighting
Love bombing
Flying monkeys
Future faking
...and many more, which are worth researching.
It’s a sick cycle if an empath gets into relationship with an apath. One “cares for” to much and the other cares not at all. Each one trying to resolve the mystery conflict.
But once informed about these behaviors, there is healing for the empath and the key word is “boundaries”...I don’t want this, I won’t be treated like that, I dont want to go there. I don’t want to be spoken to like that.
While boundaries insulate and empower the empath, they destroy the manipulation of the NP/BP and it usually ends the relationship as one gains and one loses control.
There is a quick, early test to “out” the NP/BP. It is the “laughing no” test. There are short videos demonstrating this technique. Even though the laughing no test is in reality laughing at the absurdity of attempted manipulation and creating self boundaries with humor, the NP/BP cannot ever be laughed at. They will RAGE, because to them it reaffirms their self hate.
If this post and my two prior posts help even one person then all these words weren’t in vain.