author is a moron and has NO idea where the term “gaslight” came from, namely the movie “Gaslight”, so they just made up a fake etymology ...
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslight_(1944_film)
Gaslighting:
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation where the abuser makes the victim believe things that aren’t true, making the victim doubt their own sanity. There is no better example of this than the constantly changing mask guidance: “Don’t wear masks; if you want to wear masks go ahead; MASKS ARE REQUIRED BY LAW OR WE WILL JAIL YOU; if you’re vaccinated you still have to wear masks; WEAR TWO MASKS; wear a mask outside; take off your masks but still social distance…” the list goes on.
No one understands any of it and if you say to someone that “Dr. Fauci said masks are ineffective at stopping viruses,” because that’s what he said, you’re sure to run into someone who will quote him directly contradicting himself, because he did, multiple times! And yet, we’re the ones who are crazy. This is gaslighting.
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Interesting to see that term used in the relationship context. I’d be surprised if the vast majority of the searches for the term didn’t spring from the political realm.
Gaslighting is a systematic plan to make you doubt that what you are actually seeing and hearing are really happening.
-PJ
So sick of this term being misused and overused. Blech!
“As the word suggests, it’s akin to the situation where one pours gas over a fire so that it gets so out of control that you have no idea what’s going on.”
Umm.... no. Everyone knows that has zero to do with why is called “gaslighting”.
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Oooo... yeahhhh, ummm... I'm gonna have to go ahead and sort of disagree with you there.
Can we finally stop with the insipid “GASLIGHTING” thing? It’s contrived and non intuitive. The proof of this is that, usually, when the writer jumps on the stupid GASLIGHTING word muffin bandwagon, he is compelled to define it!
So would the mainstream media telling us over and over again this election wasn’t stolen be an example?
ya mean like telling us the election wasn’t stolen when we know it was... that kind?
Dictionaries are racist.
I have red the comments and the article. The author loses credibility in her definition of gaslighting is pouring gas over the fire — if you dont know the origin of the word, you sell all credibility by getting it wrong (the author).
Down thread there are people who talk about gaslighting on the global sense. The fact of the matter is gas lighting is targeted at an individual and is a the mainstay technique of a person with narcissistic personality disorder. The whole purpose of gaslighting is to attempt to keep someone the narcissist judges to be inferior firmly under control. Gaslighting is about inducing chaos into what is otherwise a very straight forward issue. The expert narcissist will use this technique to make so much chaos that he or she will find a line of attack that seamlessly shifts away from he narcissist egregious behavior and leaves him or her safe to continue to do what her or she wants while simultaneously controlling the abused.
I take great umbrage in the fact this this article uses the subject as a man. The fact of the matter is that women can be absolutely as effective as a man at being an emotionally abusing narcissist.
I speak from personal experience.
If anyone in this country doesn’t know they are being heavily gaslighted 24/7/365, they’re either severely in need of help or a democrat, but I repeat.
My third wife.
The author makes it sound like only men gaslight.
Gaslighting is also quite effective. Bummer that our side isn’t up to doing it.
You’re always apologising
> “I’m so sorry for slavery, and for being white.”
He brings up your past
> “You took us out of our nice, peaceful, communities in the Third World and ruined out lives.”
He constantly dismisses you
> President Obama (paraphrase): “I’ve always said that I’ll work with Republicans, but if they keep bringing up the same, failed, ideas, we won’t make any progress.”
He uses your weaknesses against you
> “You said you support freedom, so why do you oppose what people do in their own bedroom? How are you affected if two men decide to ‘marry’? What is wrong with teaching kids white kids not to ‘hate’?”
He makes you feel like you’re the bad one
> “Because of people like you having kids, the planet may not survive another 10 years.”
He confuses you on purpose
> “Not sure what the big deal was regarding Russian Collusion - we always said: ‘if the allegations are proven...’”
He’ll do things that will make you question everyone else in your life so that he’ll be the only one you trust. This then gives him the upper hand he so wants and you won’t even realize he’s doing it until it’s too late.
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Next step, to guarantee you are totally in his power, is to make you do something you would never do to someone you love or to your best friend: like the loved one is making too much eating while you are watching TV, have her call the police and tell them you are being abused.
Now when he asks you for your bank and social security numbers, you will jump to give him access; then, on discovering you have been ripped off, defend him saying he’s not a liar.