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Are you being gaslighted? How to spot the signs
AsiaOne ^ | MAY 20, 2021 | BALVINDER SANDHUHER

Posted on 05/21/2021 5:16:19 PM PDT by nickcarraway

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To: Political Junkie Too
Actually, in the movie he wasn't intentionally manipulating the gaslight to make his wife go crazy. He told her he was going out but was secretly in the attic looking for lost jewelry, and the house lights dimmed when he turned on the gaslight in the attic.

Yep. One of my favorite films (the Bergman/Boyer version).

41 posted on 05/21/2021 8:57:10 PM PDT by Buttons12 ( )
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To: catnipman
author is a moron and has NO idea where the term “gaslight” came from, namely the movie “Gaslight”, so they just made up a fake etymology ...

Actually, you are kind of as enlightened as him. The 1944 movie you are talking about was a remake of a 1940 British film Gas Light. But that wasn't the source of the term either...

The British film was based on a 1938 play of the same name. The gas light come from it taking place in 1880s Victorian London, before it had electrical lights.

42 posted on 05/21/2021 10:07:19 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: LittleBillyInfidel

The Kwanzaa holiday is a good example of gaslighting.

Everything about it is a lie—everything—and _you_ are an evil racist if you point out the obvious...


43 posted on 05/21/2021 10:12:46 PM PDT by cgbg (A kleptocracy--if they can keep it. Think of it as the Cantillon Effect in action.)
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To: nickcarraway

The author makes it sound like only men gaslight.


44 posted on 05/21/2021 10:48:12 PM PDT by Jess Kitting
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To: cgbg

I never hear abour Kwanzaa, and I’ve never met anyone who practices it. And I”ve met people who celebrate Festivus.


45 posted on 05/22/2021 2:36:44 AM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: LittleBillyInfidel

You’ve obviously never been gaslit.

Good for you.

Others have. When they learn of the term and watch the movie they have an epiphany. It’s not just me, others have had this done to them too. They end up appreciating the fact that the movie was made and the very specific verb coined.

The term is useful, in great part due to its very specificity. Sometimes a little obscurity can be a good thing.


46 posted on 05/22/2021 2:43:52 AM PDT by one guy in new jersey
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To: Jess Kitting

Holy heck no that’s not the case!


47 posted on 05/22/2021 2:44:38 AM PDT by one guy in new jersey
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To: HandyDandy
That is not the plot of the story. Watch the movie. It is nothing like what you wrote.

-PJ

48 posted on 05/22/2021 2:49:38 AM PDT by Political Junkie Too (* LAAP = Left-wing Activist Agitprop Press (formerly known as the MSM))
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To: Political Junkie Too

He took advantage of her very observations about the dimming gas lights to exacerbate her self-doubt. Her distress was so extreme that she allowed him to persuade her that what she was in fact seeing was not in fact happening. She was trapped in his spider’s Web of malign deceipt. He was mentally torturing her.


49 posted on 05/22/2021 2:52:05 AM PDT by one guy in new jersey
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To: nickcarraway

The British film Gas Light is very good and well worth watching.


50 posted on 05/22/2021 2:53:31 AM PDT by one guy in new jersey
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To: nickcarraway

Gaslighting is also quite effective. Bummer that our side isn’t up to doing it.

You’re always apologising
> “I’m so sorry for slavery, and for being white.”

He brings up your past
> “You took us out of our nice, peaceful, communities in the Third World and ruined out lives.”

He constantly dismisses you
> President Obama (paraphrase): “I’ve always said that I’ll work with Republicans, but if they keep bringing up the same, failed, ideas, we won’t make any progress.”

He uses your weaknesses against you
> “You said you support freedom, so why do you oppose what people do in their own bedroom? How are you affected if two men decide to ‘marry’? What is wrong with teaching kids white kids not to ‘hate’?”

He makes you feel like you’re the bad one
> “Because of people like you having kids, the planet may not survive another 10 years.”

He confuses you on purpose
> “Not sure what the big deal was regarding Russian Collusion - we always said: ‘if the allegations are proven...’”


51 posted on 05/22/2021 3:51:18 AM PDT by BobL (I shop at Walmart and eat at McDonald's, I just don't tell anyone, like most here.)
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To: nickcarraway

He’ll do things that will make you question everyone else in your life so that he’ll be the only one you trust. This then gives him the upper hand he so wants and you won’t even realize he’s doing it until it’s too late.


Next step, to guarantee you are totally in his power, is to make you do something you would never do to someone you love or to your best friend: like the loved one is making too much eating while you are watching TV, have her call the police and tell them you are being abused.

Now when he asks you for your bank and social security numbers, you will jump to give him access; then, on discovering you have been ripped off, defend him saying he’s not a liar.


52 posted on 05/22/2021 5:56:09 AM PDT by PIF (They came for me and mine ... now its your turn)
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To: nickcarraway
Are you being gaslighted?

"Will Mr. Harry Markle please pick up the red courtesy phone."

53 posted on 05/22/2021 6:10:49 AM PDT by Albion Wilde ("We degrade Faith by talking about religion." —Bob Dylan)
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To: nickcarraway

Sounds a LOT like Sociopathy to me...

“ it’s usually men who do this.”

LOL!!! NOT in my world, pal. I have an ex-wife I’d like you to meet...


54 posted on 05/22/2021 6:15:10 AM PDT by joethedrummer
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To: catnipman

>>author is a moron and has NO idea where the term “gaslight” came from, namely the movie “Gaslight”, so they just made up a fake etymology ...

“BALVINDER SANDHUHER” = BS

Yes, it’s like all of the bogus entries in Urban Dictionary for things where people just enter their half assed guess at what something means rather than doing any research.


55 posted on 05/22/2021 6:58:56 AM PDT by a fool in paradise (Lean on Joe Biden to follow Donald Trump's example and donate his annual salary to charity. )
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To: nickcarraway

Kwanzaa propaganda for children—read it and puke:

https://commoncorekingdom.com/2018/12/teaching-about-kwanzaa-in-classroom.html


56 posted on 05/22/2021 9:21:13 AM PDT by cgbg (A kleptocracy--if they can keep it. Think of it as the Cantillon Effect in action.)
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To: enumerated

That sentence doesn’t make any sense at all.


57 posted on 05/22/2021 9:22:14 AM PDT by X-FID (Trump 2020)
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To: Political Junkie Too

Well, I was very close. Except it wasn’t the basement, it was the attic. And he didn’t manipulate gas valves, he just turned on the gaslights in the attic which caused the lights in her part of the house to dim. Of course, to turn on a gas light you must turn a valve. So, I had the gist of it. I’m pleading for a better critique from you. I am not going to watch the movie again. Saw it long long ago.


58 posted on 05/22/2021 11:11:51 AM PDT by HandyDandy
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To: HandyDandy
I know I'm nitpicking... but the main point was that he was not intentionally adjusting the lights in order to harm his wife. It was a byproduct of his searching the attack for lost jewels, and after she mentioned the dimming lights he then leveraged that to intentionally mess with her mind in other ways.

-PJ

59 posted on 05/22/2021 12:30:11 PM PDT by Political Junkie Too (* LAAP = Left-wing Activist Agitprop Press (formerly known as the MSM))
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To: Political Junkie Too

Fair enough. In the final analysis, the operative term for what he was doing to her became known as “gaslighting”.


60 posted on 05/22/2021 1:04:09 PM PDT by HandyDandy
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