Why men (still) love bitches: That's the title of a controversial book that's once again topped the bestseller list. Here, its author explains the appeal to today's young women

UK Daily Mail ^ | February 24, 2021 | Sherry Argov

[C19fan]

You may have noticed something odd about the Sunday Times Bestseller list lately. Next to James Patterson, Barack Obama and other luminaries appears my book, entitled Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl — A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship.

It appears that my book has gone viral among a new generation of young women, who are sharing their feelings about it on the social media video app TikTok — and sending it shooting up the charts.

So why has it struck a chord with Gen-Z women?

[C19fan]

Good lord....I guess for some Alpha men they like the idea of some woman standing up to them. Cannot imagine anything worse then marrying some woman who follows this book. More and more women are bitches and yet marriage rates keep falling. Except for a lucky few this book seems to be a path to acquiring a Cat Starter Kit.

[cuban leaf]

Meh. my theory: Abusive men that like to smack women around like to couple up with bitches because they figure that if they are going to be hitting them a lot, they might as well deserve it.

And the women consider that proof that the guy loves them.

My first marriage hinted at this, except I’m not only not a hitter, but not a fighter. She was a real fighter. After 20 years of this and three daughters, she left. Good news for both of us:

I found a woman whos attitude about marriage can be hinted at here: She read and loves “The Submissive Wife”. We have so much mutual respect that we simply never fight. 23 years of marriage to my best friend and going stronger than ever!

And, according to my daughters, my ex found a guy that she fights with constantly.

So we’re all good, apparently.

[V_TWIN]

“Next to James Patterson, Barack Obama and other luminaries”

Had to quit reading right there....threw up in my mouth a little.

[HangnJudge]

CS Lewis believed the best women to spend ones life with had their eyes so firmly on God, the the man had to ask His permission to marry her..

[DesertRhino]

Sure convince yourself of that. Be an argumentative pushy type that sees everything as a power struggle. Be difficult and see everything as control.

Pro tip: Learn all you can about cats.

[Alberta's Child]

I’m willing to bet a lot of money that this nitwit is single. LOL.

[mewzilla]

I was curious, so I went looking. The author does indeed provide us with a definition...

“Bitch (noun): A woman who won’t bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else’s opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it’s just one person’s opinion; therefore, it’s of no real importance. She doesn’t try to live up to anyone else’s standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.”

What a load of codswallop.

[moovova]

Is this a review of “The Real Housewives of New Jersey”?

[BobL]

“Cannot imagine anything worse then marrying some woman who follows this book. More and more women are bitches and yet marriage rates keep falling.”

Yep, for sure. I’ve told my boys to look overseas, to traditional societies, to find wives. You want them to come from families that look at divorce with shame, rather than a means of milking money out of guys.

[I want the USA back]

And the companion book “Why Women Love Bastards.”

[mewzilla]

What the author is describing is a narcissist.

If I were one, I’d rather be called a bitch, too.

[NonValueAdded]

Callin’ out, bang bang, kiss kiss
It’s me, your little Venice bitch

[DesertRhino]

.”By the time she had fastened her seatbelt, she had also secured his respect. Her behaviour said: ‘I like you but I don’t need you’ — and, more importantly, ‘My life matters to me and I won’t prioritise you over my basic needs.’“

That’s just what a man wants to come home to.

[Yo-Yo]

From the title I thought it was a book about dog training.

[T.B. Yoits]

Give the author credit for knowing her market and how to sell books. She's got two or three of the same tripe that she's peddled on garbage TV. She knows there are a lot of cat ladies drinking boxed wine reading an affirmation of their behavior with the desperate hope that some man will choose them.

The cat and boxed wine audience is getting statistically younger than before and larger as well. They'll buy all her books, and watch any movie themed accordingly, because they won't change what makes them untouchable.

[rlmorel]

It has been my observation in life that there are far more women who are attracted to men who treat them poorly, than the other way around.

Though it is certainly true that many men get involved with women who treat them poorly as well...

In a just world, they would meet each other. I once knew one such couple, and it was a source of both puzzlement and entertainment for many of us observing the fights and rude treatment close up.

But they doggedly kept at it for some time, to the consternation of the audience.

[mewzilla]

Ahem.

I’m a cat lady.

I drink boxed wine.

I’ve also been and continue to be happily married to my darling hubby for decades.

He’s a retro, BTW, and I’m not a shrinking violet.

This book is for narcissists.

Sadly, it will likely sell well.

[xzins]

Propaganda. Neither men nor women sit around with these psych-babble checklists evaluating potential mates.

[heartwood]

It isn’t as though you’ve got to place yourself somewhere on a straight line between doormat and bitch. Bitches cut other people down to raise themselves up, and I don’t understand pride in the term.

If you want to be strong, then be truly strong, and help those around you to be strong too.

[New Perspective]

I know your story well, lived some of that. I still have to talk to my ex about our son and she still loves to fight. I do not give her the satisfaction and every time I hang up the phone I have a huge smile.