My mom is getting old and starting to lose some of her memory. There are certain things she would prefer family to do, and certain things she would prefer the family not be involved in. There are certain things like attaching an IV or performing routine checks like BP measurement that she might prefer be done by a nurse.
You might just need someone to come in two or three times a week for four hours a day. That would still be pricy, but not to the point of financial ruin.
Many states have programs to assist with in-home care, especially if she or her husband was a veteran. My grandmother, who is suffering from Alzheimer’s and living with her lucid, but even older second husband, recently received help like this from a program in Kentucky. Both my late grandfather and my step-grandfather are veterans, so that may have helped her.
If she says NO!, then what?
Instead tell her you met a nice lady while out shopping, and she's new to the area and would love to meet someone to talk to, I think you'd like her. She's pretty lonely would you be so kind as to meet her?
Very hard for her to say no when you push her help button...
A nice lady you've met and somewhat vetted is not as frightening/concerning/worrisome as some random nurse [Ratched].