Posted on 10/31/2020 2:33:25 PM PDT by Hot Tabasco
My sincere condolences.
Prayer up!
I’m with you on the food front. I’ve lost both my mother and father. The thought of cooking was furthest from my mind. It’s a very welcome and much appreciated gesture.
While that is true, we are left behind to grieve and miss our loved ones. My Hubby of 50 years died last December and I know where he is, however, I wasn't ready to be without him and never will be. Hearing "He's in a better place" isn't helpful because I'm not.
My father was having a hard time talking and had an “episode” at a hardware store, causing the police to restrain him and take him to a hospital. A week later he was in hospice and a few days later he died.
It was a brain tumor that had been undiagnosed. Everyone just thought he had dementia.
But he was 90 and, other than the grief at the time he was in hospice, we all celebrated his life and there have really been very few tears shed. It was simply his time. Even the funeral was more of a celebration of his life more than sadness at his departure. But we believe so strongly he’s just left for “heaven” ahead of us, we’re happy for him and, truth be told, our mom, who may not be around much longer either.
But seven months of hospital would have been unthinkable. This is one reason my wife and I, both 66, don’t have any form of health insurance. If we get that sick, we die. And that’s ok. The apostle paul said to live is Christ and to die is gain.
When someone under 70 dies, that is sad, because of the loved ones left behind and their life was cut short. I’m 67 and only would feel for my wife if I died today. The rest of the family would feel the loss and then quickly move along. My wife will be affected at any age because we are best friends and will be until one of us dies.
What is safe is being a loving family member and putting others above yourself. Do not act in your own self interest. If you are well, visit the bereaved, Your actions will mean even more than they might have. Put love first.
So sorry to hear this FRiend. Prayers to you & your family.
I hit “send” too soon. I need to add, all I said above, It’s still hard, and I’m sorry for your loss. It only happened to my dad in June and I know how it feels. It gets better.
Sorry for your loss. Prayers up.
Prayers for you and your family...if anyone is older or has physical issues probably expressing condolences in a note and/or by phone works. FYI...We just had funeral last Fri for 94 yr old MIL...those who came (10-12) wore masks...so far so good.
I’m so sorry you and your sister have to go through this, especially now. Any way you can get tested so you can be together?
I am sorry for the loss of your loved one. My prayers are with you and your family.
I know how you feel.
My brother, who goes by the name of “Thinkwell” on the internets, has been battling esophageal cancer and is very close to passing, far too young, at 69. He is an avid Trump supporter, and I thought he would make it to the election. But now I am less hopeful. And, he is so doped up with morphine that I am not sure he would understand that Trump won, even if he were to last that long.
I’m so, so sorry. Prayers going out to all.
So sorry for your loss. Prayers and condolences to you and your family.
I am sorry for your loss, Hot Tabasco. I’ve lost a few friends as well. An email or phone call asking if it’s OK to visit would be the most polite thing. If the bereived say no, send a sympathy card. If yes, ask politely if you should wear a mask. Either way, accept the couple’s wishes no matter what you believe personally.
Of the three people I lost, One resulted in a huggy visit, one a visit with masks, and the third, an email and a Sympathy card.
Always be considerate, as people grieve differently. Some people get angry, some depressed, etc. Be prepared for anything.
Prayers for you!
(((HUGS)))
Sorry to hear that. Sounds like he got a triple whammy. Prayers to you and you’re own.
Just do it. Let them push you away if they need to. You cannot guess, and you might break through any wall they have up ‘for safety.’
A 61 yer-old friend died from COVID last night. Was in intensive care about a month
My condoleances
Condolences to you, your sis and the remainder of Doro’s family and friends, Hot Tabasco. R.I.P., Doro. love. (prayer)
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