Your statement they no medicine, but I know my husband is the MOST IMPORTANT THING for people to understand. When I have a family saying this is NOT normal for a family member, I ALWAYS listen to it. because it is true, I know medicine, but I dont live with the person in front of me.
Oliver Wendel Holmes famously once said — listen to the patient, 99% of the time they will tell you whats going on.
Something we often forget on this side of the hospital bed...
I respect the medical profession for all they do and know but how can they do their job if the family does not help?
I have family members who would scream for morphine for a hang nail and others who would sit on a tack and smile while the blood ran because they "didn't want to be a bother".
One needs to be told to rub some dirt on it and the other needs immediate attention but unless you know them it can be hard to tell one from the other.
One of the worst things about covid-19 is not allowing family in. I’m a retired nurse, and if my family members are hospitalized, they want me there, and I NEED to be there. Patients with no medical knowledge need an advocate, if for no other reason, than to have someone close who can observe care. Nobody’s perfect, and I’ve prevented a few major problems by being at the bedside.