Posted on 02/26/2020 6:02:27 AM PST by C19fan
Ever since her last relationship ended this past August, Liz has been consciously trying not to treat dating as a “numbers game.” By the 30-year-old Alaskan’s own admission, however, it hasn’t been going great.
Liz has been going on Tinder dates frequently, sometimes multiple times a week—one of her New Year’s resolutions was to go on every date she was invited on. But Liz, who asked to be identified only by her first name in order to avoid harassment, can’t escape a feeling of impersonal, businesslike detachment from the whole pursuit.
“It’s like, ‘If this doesn’t go well, there are 20 other guys who look like you in my inbox.’ And I’m sure they feel the same way—that there are 20 other girls who are willing to hang out, or whatever,” she said. “People are seen as commodities, as opposed to individuals.”
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Reddit red pill was made for guys like you.
It is a game. You can win if you know the rules and practice, practice, practice.
I have not seen that particular graphic before, but I am quite familiar with the concept behind it. Thank you for posting it.
Hypergamy rules.
You older women? Lady Jane is an older woman? LOL
Have you ever read the book, "How to make friends and influence people"?
Tinder is not dating. It is hookup for sex. That, today, is called a relationship.
What do you expect to find? idiot! Instead of an algorithm, meet people at your church, where you work, where you play.
The second thing they learn is if there is a man in their age group, good job, fairly good looking, a good prospect for marriage, he is not interested in her. He is interested in the young 22 year old version of her. Even men much older then her will be looking for someone in their low 20s and will find plenty of young things to date.
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If you think that 22-28 year olds are dating and marrying, you are mistaken. Many of them do not even understand the concept of dating.
Our culture and schools have taught the children hedonism and how not to reproduce.
OK, why don't you influence your peers then? :-D
“Have you watched Coach Greg Adams?”
He’s good...”monkey double back flips”.
I also suggest Better Bachelor. He and Coach Greg complement each other.
If you think that 22-28 year olds are dating and marrying, you are mistaken. Many of them do not even understand the concept of dating.
By the time they approach 30 they are discovering they missed out on the best years to find a man, get married and have a family.
When China had the one child per couple law it had unintended consequences. Females were aborted so their one child would be a male. In time there became an imbalance of more males then females.
Feminist created something that also resulted in an imbalance. By favoring females colleges have been producing more woman with degrees then men. The unintended consequences of this is that there are fewer “quality” men available for marriage. A recent study shows that woman want to marry UP and few are interested in someone lower on the career ladder then themselves. This has also resulted in more divorces between couples when the wife is promoted to a level higher than the husband.
Feminist fought for a change in our culture without understanding human nature. They won the battle but they have lost the war.
I recommend every man and teenage boy read “Rational Male”. And I think women would also benefit from reading the book.
I wish this was available decades ago before I started dating.
Most people would be better off staying in a church, and just waiting for the right guy or girl to come along that has agreement with them on what they believe. I don’t understand dating apps or anything like that. Who wants to go out with a stranger?
And her age, if I may ask?
Regards,
My experience is that women in their 30s are for the most part in “oh chit, I need to get a man” mode and are looking to settle.....looking to settle with guys they previously would have turned down and looking to settle with guys they probably don’t really want. That’s a big part of why a lot of guys don’t want them. Who wants to be in a marriage with somebody who doesn’t really want you?
Yes, to all of this. I’m a little more slack and tolerant than you. I’ll give them up to 30 instead of up to 28, but everything you described is absolutely true.
I’ve seen this many, many, many times.
The ones who really come in for a rough time are those who try to circle back around to the very same guys they rejected in their 20s. Payback’s a beyotch and they often get it....and are absolutely shocked to learn seemingly for the first time in their lives that choice is not a one way street.
Only marry a woman if she has the tingles for you.
She's 59, a few years ahead of me. You'd never guess looking at her, she looks way younger and she takes excellent care of herself.
I'll tell you upfront that early on after getting divorced I had a few mid-forties women approach me and honestly I wanted nothing to do with them. They still had kids at home and were looking for someone to "rescue" them and I wanted nothing to do with that.
I learned early on to set the criteria I was looking for and stick to it. The learning curve at this age is steep and you have to learn quickly else you get caught up in someone else's drama.
If she has the tingles, she better see a doctor and you better protect yourself.
It's worse for women in their 40's and 50's especially as the number of eligible men decrease (death, giving up on women.)
It's sad. It really is. Some of the behavior I've seen is just so sad. If I were a lesser person (I'm not today, tomorrow I may be .... ) I'd be writing jokes about it on this thread. I just can't do it.
One of her friends was trying to set her up with a 40ish never-married guy who had his own business and $500k in the bank.
Talk about entitlement / wishful thinking / hypergamy!
Women need to talk to other women realistically about their prospects instead of sabotaging each other.
But Yellowtail Wine, Litter Boxes, and Misery, love company, I guess.
Not uncommon at all from what I've seen. Happened more than I can recall. To me and to friends. I didn't fall for it. I'm realistic about who I am, my age, what I look like, how I present myself, etc. One divorced friend just has this way about him that he routinely attracts women 15-20 years younger than he is. I don't get it, I really don't. Every time he gets take advantage of and every time he falls for it. I dunno, maybe they seen SUCKER written on his face?
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