Where was this survey done-in a FLDS community of polygamous households? I’ve never known a woman whose husband insisted on her using his last name or participate in having a joint bank account...
Neither my 1st hubby or MrT5 “expected” me to take their last name-they left that up to me-but the military did insist that last name on my ID card be the same as hubby’s.
I’ve never had a joint bank account-my mom told me from a very young age that it was not a good idea-if one spouse is more of a spender and the other a saver, fights can happen that could even destroy a relationship, so pay your share of the household bills from your own account and let him pay his share from his-I’m sure she was right-and I taught my own cub to keep her own bank account, too...
That's a financial arrangement more suitable for room-mates, in my opinion.
"For better or for worse - in sickness and in health - til death do we part."
That's what my wife and I both signed up for, twenty-five years ago. I knew what I was getting into, and so did she. We chose to be a family anyway, and it's worked out pretty well, despite the inevitable frictions.
Sounds like a marriage built on distrust.